Why? Help me to understand....a little.

I have a Cappy Male friend who is married, has been for a very long time. We were talking today about life. He has been seeing another woman for a long time..they are very good friends and have been "involved". Not so much as he feels really bad afterwards, quilty. I asked him if he is happy, he said, "yes, I think so" THINK SO? I replied. He said, "yeah, there are times that I am happy and times that I am not but when I look at the big picture it is okay, it will be fine." Sounds to me as if he is just settling. I asked about the other woman. He really loves her. He has never felt this way towards anyone. Says he has a hard time talking with her or seeing her because it brings up feelings and he knows it is wrong so he shuts them out. I am puzzled as I do not see life this way. I feel bad for him but he chooses to make his choices. Why does someone do that? Here are two people who love each other and nothing will ever happen, at least not in this lifetime. Maybe they were together in a past life? I was hoping that there were some Caps out there to help me understand why someone stays in a relationship and they feel lousy that they cannot be with the other person? This is how movies are made, from human experience! Thanks in advance for some insight on the Goat's view of life.

Can't really speak for all Caps here, but I know that sometimes we can be loyal to a fault. We are so incredibly devoted to our partners and are plagued by this innate, lifelong need to feel like we're "doing the right thing" or what is socially expected in society. Even if it means a missed opportunity, or in this case, a missed LOVE opportunity, or maybe a not-so-fulfilling married life.
Another thing you might consider is that we Caps can lust for someone like NO OTHER, and burn with desire on the inside, but never ever ever persue or show our true feelings on the outside. We are sort of like the masters of suppression, if you will. (Or at least, that's what I sometimes refer to myself as.) I tend to keep everything bottled up, and can (surprisingly) keep it contained for a VERY LONG TIME without exploding or lashing out.
But I'm a femme, so I'm not quite sure if I've helped you all that much. It'd probably be nice to get a male's perspective on the subject. There could be some slight differences in behavioral tendencies or reasons why they sometimes act the way we do.

I mean... the way THEY do.

How do Capricorns lust after
someone or love someone or be
loyal to someone but never act on
it or commit to the person . You
mean they hold their feelings in
for a very long time and consider
whose standards before they act-
society's , their friends,family?
Who do they ask if this is the
"right thing"? The right move ?
the right decision? Don't they ever
follow their own hearts and trust their
own feelings? Who knows you better
than know yourself .

Thanks 63 🙂 Your reply does clarify things. I find it so amazing how each one of the signs are so different in their approach to life. I suppose we must do what ever makes us feel good. I just hope that my friend is truly happy and maybe he isn't now but someday he may be. I have another male cap friend who is the same way with his girlfriend. They keep breaking up and getting back together. Hard for me to understand, I will just accept that is the way "they" are. Your words were very helpful to me and thank you for taking the time to respond.

🙂

De rien! You are very welcome;?)