Why would a Cap man do this&how should I react?

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Haven
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10 Years

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So I posted a previously-Cap man playing games- earlier in the week. I work in a pharmacy & the other day his name came up on our call log -wanting to be called when his script was ready. Unfortunately since we were short staffed I had to call him-thank God he didn't answer, but I had to leave the message on his voice mail& since our manager requires we leave our name when leaving messages, he KNOWS it's me. The issue I have is he is getting his script filled at the pharmacy I work at instead of 1's that are literally around the corner from his house! My job location is completely out of his way, so it's an inconvenience for him to come there to say the least. I have not seen nor heard from him since he texted me after he was caught and being the vindictive scorpio I can be, I'm curious as to how to really "sting" him so to speak. When he comes in do I "act" sweet and friendly, like nothing happened , or should I be distant and keep a professional yet obvious "f" you attitude. My friends tell me this is just a ploy for him to see me, so I want to make sure he understands that I respect myself even if he doesn't and that I'm good without him, but being the "strong"manly Cap man he is, I'm not sure which approach will send him the message of" you messed up & this is what your missing out on & she's good without u!" My normal reaction when someone hurts me is that they are dead to me & I'm so cold I make them question their own existence but he is different from the rest (never dated a Cap before-man you guys are good lol)& i want to make sure he gets the message crystal clear.
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I would line up a dates for that week, and remain perfectly professional with him. If you must to get it out of your system, give him the eye, but I wouldn't do more than that at work.

He doesn't sound like he's interested in more (sorry). I know how Cap guys can be when they are not serious, but playing around with someone. It's cruel because they will keep you on the line until someone better comes along. My Cap did that to someone. As pissed off as my Cap is at me, he's never said he wants to end things or doesn't want me. If a Cap says that, believe him!! Cut your losses, maybe get some closure if you can, and go on your merry way.
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Haven
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10 Years

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Capries-I 'm definitely taking your advice.Deep down I'm still a bit in my emotions in regards to what happened & you are more than right that I need to let the negativity go. I'm just a little worried about if he comes to my job and tries to put me on the spot-I don't want my employer thinking I'm bringing drama to work and I don't want to be unprofessional or let my emotions get the best of me -which would basically be me politely telling him to go lay in traffic & die, or my personal fave "f" you!
SunMoonStars- I think you are so right. Just struggling with the fact of how great of a liar he is. Usually my a**hole & bullsh** radar is on high alert and never let's me down. He couldn't get in my pants, so he got his jollies somewhere else, and with a skank who apparently had "plans" with other men after him. I guess I should look at it as his "game" wasn't 100% great because he never got my goodies right? Sorry trying to salvage some dignity ‰
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Virgochic83
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11 Years

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Hey Haven!, read your previous post. .. I can relate to your situation with this Capricorn man. I'm a Capricorn, btw (disregard my screen name...lol) The attraction was instant between us. There was this inexplicable "vibe" that was just...intense! Even weird at times...lol the communication was constant (he would ALWAYS initiate) only difference was, we started out long-distance. But, things continued at the same pace once we'd met face to face. Even once I returned back to my state.( I'd planned to move to his state long before I'd met him, but for financial reasons had to postpone) But we still stayed in contact. Then somewhere along the lines, things began to change, the text, phones calls, and the Skype video chats, got very few and far between, Now, he reaches out every month or so. He recently contacted me (after a month and a half with no contact) to tell me that, he really did "like" me and constantly thinks about me but, doesn't know if he can do the long distance thing, ( and, also, that he has BABIES, (yes plural..lol) on the way, from two different young ladies (even though he said he's skeptical about the second one...lol smh) I foolishly allowed myself to be "kept in the dark" by not asking necessary, critical questions. I kept "going with the flow" and was under the impression that we were going to "wait" for each other, I was 'blindsided' by the choices he'd made. Any who... I said all this to say, That I know you may feel that he is the love of your life, but I think you are setting yourself up for some SERIOUS head & heartache if you continue to allow yourself to be at his disposal. I know it can be VERY difficult to "cut them off", ignoring their text... and all, You just have to make up in YOUR mind that you want and deserve BETTER. One thing, if nothing else I've learned about dealing with younger Capricorn men, is... they aren't emotionally/mentally "equipped" for exclusivity. "Mind games" are a BIG thing with them. And if you allow them to keep using their manipulative tactics Well, guess what? THEY WILL!. They can't be cohered , they have to MATURE into it. Try not to put ALL your eggs in this guy's basket. :-)
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Virgochic83
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11 Years

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Hey Haven!, read your previous post. .. I can relate to your situation with this Capricorn man. I'm a Capricorn, btw (disregard my screen name...lol) The attraction was instant between us. There was this inexplicable "vibe" that was just...intense! Even weird at times...lol the communication was constant (he would ALWAYS initiate) only difference was, we started out long-distance. But, things continued at the same pace once we'd met face to face. Even once I returned back to my state.( I'd planned to move to his state long before I'd met him, but for financial reasons had to postpone) But we still stayed in contact. Then somewhere along the lines, things began to change, the text, phones calls, and the Skype video chats, got very few and far between, Now, he reaches out every month or so. He recently contacted me (after a month and a half with no contact) to tell me that, he really did "like" me and constantly thinks about me but, doesn't know if he can do the long distance thing, ( and, also, that he has BABIES, (yes plural..lol) on the way, from two different young ladies (even though he said he's skeptical about the second one...lol smh) I foolishly allowed myself to be "kept in the dark" by not asking necessary, critical questions. I kept "going with the flow" and was under the impression that we were going to "wait" for each other, I was 'blindsided' by the choices he'd made. Any who... I said all this to say, That I know you may feel that he is the love of your life, but I think you are setting yourself up for some SERIOUS head & heartache if you continue to allow yourself to be at his disposal. I know it can be VERY difficult to "cut them off", ignoring their text... and all, You just have to make up in YOUR mind that you want and deserve BETTER. One thing, if nothing else I've learned about dealing with younger Capricorn men, is... they aren't emotionally/mentally "equipped" for exclusivity. "Mind games" are a BIG thing with them. And if you allow them to keep using their manipulative tactics Well, guess what? THEY WILL!. They can't be coerced , they have to MATURE into it. Try not to put ALL your eggs in this guy's basket. :-)
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Haven
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10 Years

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Caplove-thank you for the advice, I've decided the best way to stay professional with him is to act like I've never met him before & he's just any other random customer-just going to be completely sweet and helpful, but no different from any one else. Definitely not going to let him see a reaction out of me, although I'm still hoping for a script for gonnaherpesyphilis with his name on it to come thru-lol!.Thank you so much for your help and advice!
Virgochic83-thank you so much for your response, I'm glad I'm not the only one who has felt that instant fiery connection. Not going to wait for him, because let's face it, in all actuality I would only be waiting for test results of some kind to hit me-either std or dna!No thank u-he's good but not that good! Lol! I'm just working on trying to get better everyday. Its hard because I live in a somewhat small town, but because of our sage difference (in 20 he's 24)he can get into bars & I can't-which I used to struggle with, but now I'm thankful for because the odds of running into each other were slim-up until he decided to use my job. Can't wait to work tonight! I will keep you all posted if he comes in! Thank you so much everyone for the great advice!