'Be Careful What You Wish For. You Might Actually Get It.'

Has anyone ever experienced what I'm about to tell you?

First of all, let me tell you I am a huge dreamer. Always got my head in the clouds, especially when alone. I daydream constantly.

Especially when single.

Anyway. .I am writing this post under the Dreams section because I want to share my relationship stories with you in terms of how they all happened - be they long term or short term.

Every man I have dated, I have already daydreamed about before I actually met him.

And I mean right down to the colour of their hair & eyes; their personality. What career I want them to have. They have to be a lot like me in many ways too. And when/ if I meet this man who is in my head, he has to want me, as much as I want him.

Then I have gone out into my world and gone looking for him.

Now when I go looking for whatever man is in my head, I don't go out of my way to find these guys. It's more subtle. I could be out shopping in the high street on a weekend, and I will be thinking (daydreaming), of whatever man I am wanting at the time. What I do is just look way out in front of me and quickly glance at each man coming my way to see if I can see/find my dream man.

I never ever find him ?

So..I give up. I stop looking. And THIS is where it gets interesting. As soon as I stop looking for my dream man, he appears in my life out of NOWHERE - AND when I have forgotten all about him.

It's Weird! But in a Wonderful way! It's like magic.

I like to call it Fate.

I am now going to give you all of my little relationship stories to illustrate what I'm talking about.

1) When I was 15 /16 and I wanted a man who had Long dark-hair, dark-eyes and Spanish. (My mum's friend had Spanish friends and I seemed attracted to the passion of the Spanish men).

He had to be older than me by about 10 years or more. I always liked Older men. He had to be fit with a good body and be able to dance.

I then looked around for this type but never found him. Once I was 17, I went to college to study English Literature and also Theatre.

My sister was studying Photography at the same college.

I used to go and meet her at the photography studio at lunchtime after class. And there he was! In my College. In my SISTERS class.

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A tall sexy, long dark-haired and dark-eyed man dressed in black leather trousers and cowboy boots! And he was Spanish. And he was 30! And had an amazing body!

When he reached up in the air to get something off a shelf, I saw his muscley torso.and sixpack stomach!

Not a dancer though. Never mind.

AND best of all, the first time he saw me, he was attracted!

Sadly though...He was married ?

Now you could call this a coincidence but this situation has happened to me so many times, I can't help but call it fate!

2) I was 18 and single. I wanted a man who could dance. He still had to be older than me and tall and fit and sexy etc.

So again I went out looking for him. Never found him.

Then I went into a shop and was suddenly being followed by the security guard!? WTF!?

Go away. I've not stolen anything!

I stopped and turned round to look at him as I was paranoid! He only went and bloody grinned at me! He was gorgeous!

At least 6ft tall and clearly fit going by his strong frame and biceps in his smart white shirt. And older than me.

It turned out he was South American and could dance! Latin, Salsa etc!

Oh boy could he move his hips! And I don't just mean on the dance floor! —

He was sadly a womaniser but that's the reality of the Dream!

Was still exciting walking into a shop one day and finding the very man I'm dreaming about!

3) I was 18 again. And this time I started reading the very first book on my A - level English Lit. course - 'Jane Eyre.'

If any of you have read this book you will know all about Mr Rochester.

Dark, Moody, with a Brooding Intensity. And a troubled man! Mysterious and sexy!

I fell in love with him. I know he is a character in a book but hey..I'm a Dreamer.

I wanted my own Mr Rochester.

As well as my English course, I was also studying Theatre Studies A - level.

Anyway 2 years later, I met a young man, this time not tall dark and handsome as I usually like. And not older than me either. But he was my age. Short for a man - about 5ft 5in and rather overweight and spotty. And very quiet, sensitive and shy. Dark hair, dark green eyes, a very intense look in his eyes (he is Scorpio), and despite being not particularly good - looking, he had an emotional intensity about him that made me want to rip his clothes off!

YES you've guessed it! I've found my Rochester! Xx And he was in my college but actually in my class this time! My theatre class.

And get this for a coincidence! His ex - girlfriend was called JANE!

He was my First Love! And boy was I in LOVE! He was so Intense!

It turned out that he had a dark side. He was also twisted and liked to play mind games, especially during arguments. He would bend and twist my words against me, while at the same time, make my words work For him!

We were together for 3 years.

I am off to bed now as it's now 1am here in the UK. I will write some more relationship stories later. There's about 3 more.

Night night ?

Yes it happened to me too

...what we *need* and want ... distinctly different

🙂

I dream too. Not as much as I used to. I even drew my husband. But most importantly, I also dreamt of personality and characteristics. You seem to be missing that in your dreams.

Yes everything is a double edged sword...accept that life is shit. Saves time.

Posted by VenusAquarius
I dream too. Not as much as I used to. I even drew my husband. But most importantly, I also dreamt of personality and characteristics. You seem to be missing that in your dreams.

Hi ya ..yes sorry about that. I was writing this post at midnight so was awake but tired. I missed out personality and characteristics by accident. Thought I'd written about them! ?

I did actually dream of their personality and characteristics too.

Mind you with the guy I met after reading Jane Eyre, I did mention the Passion, Intensity etc and I love that in a man. .

Posted by MyStarsShine
Yes it happened to me too

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