Alright, so I've been seeing this Gemini guy for almost 2 weeks.... Pisces Moon, Gem Merc/Venus & Cancer Mars (I had his placements all wrong at first). I'm a Scorpio (sun/Merc/Venus & Gemini moon/Mars) He's come to visit me almost every evening after his work shift. Which I thought was really cute, well... the first few days. Until I noticed I was carrying most of the conversation and finding myself growing kinda bored. He seems like he's literally waiting on me to come up with topics when the awkward sliences occur. And normally, it wouldn't bother me as much but he gives me no indication that he's really interested or excited in our conversation, other than the fact that he's consistent with calling & coming over. But when he goes home and calls me to let me know he's made it home safely, he literally talks my ear off... sometimes to sleep! Hours! He tells me everything he should have done (things I'm actually trying to be patient for him to DO), little things he notices about me (really cute because sometimes I feel like he's in his own little world when we're together), how beautiful I am, EVERYTHING I wanna hear when I'm WITH him. I understand he needs time to feel comfortable but it's so frustrating, I wish he could say this when he's actually around me. He's also really freaky over the phone, kinda throws me off. lol Takes me a minute to gain my composure and come back with something cute & flirty to say back. I get NONE of this when we're together! It's like he's two different people! One person in person, another over the phone! (I do reassure him of things I like, if he brings it up, like kissing me but I don't wanna come off demanding, like I can lol)
Do you think this is just shyness? I've never been with a shy guy before, so I dunno how to read this. How can I get his WORDS to become actions without ME taking complete control!?
OH and he keeps bring up getting me pregnant. lol He's said that both over the phone and in person, a couple times. And asking a whole lot of hypotheticals about the whole scenario.
Well, I can certainly understand his attachment to you. I myself have Mercury in Cancer while my Mars is in Gemini. Having a leo moon I don't relate to the Pisces deal but even still, if he has a degree of Cancer and this leads to being somewhat more emotional than others might be. The Pisces moon may lead to ideas of grandeur, hence that's where he get's his fantasies of settling down with you so quick. Us Gems can and do attach hard if we decide we really like you. I will say however, that I think after only seeing him for two weeks, that seems a bit too soon to be talking about having a child. There is still too much to get to know about one another and suffice to say that if you are here asking about him, it goes to show there is obviously some uncertainty there. Might want to just tell him to slow down, that it's too sudden and it's a big choice to make. As for his talking your ear off, well, we tend to do that. I find myself doing that; my libra with scorp moon may mention something and I can go off in a million different ways for like 10 minutes lol. Sometimes they are up for the chat and sometimes not. If he gets quiet he's probably just waiting to hear your comments or he's simply mirroring you. After all, we do want to listen to what you have to say as well. If he stops talking it's because you weren't engaging him or at least, that's how he took it. I wouldn't take it too personal. The reason he'll call you and talk your ear off more is because on his way home he realized just how much he likes talking to you or being with you. It's the whole feeling of having company and not being alone and behind that, just all the mental energy. He also will remember every little detail about you he likes. Quite common and I am the same way in that regard. Our words can and do turn into action, but only after things get really serious and yes he may require some extra reassurance from you so that he can feel secure in a sense about the way he's feeling. Try not to take it too personal and let things grow and progress naturally without getting too hyped or putting too much emphasis on assumptions. He doesn't seem shy from what you explain, more so that he is feeling you out to get an idea of where he stands. Good luck. Just don't try to manipulate things.
Do you think this is just shyness? I've never been with a shy guy before, so I dunno how to read this.
How can I get his WORDS to become actions without ME taking complete control!?
OH and he keeps bring up getting me pregnant. lol He's said that both over the phone and in person, a couple times. And asking a whole lot of hypotheticals about the whole scenario.