can i make it work? cap+gem

hello, this is my first post, i`ve been reading the boards for a while now, and i would appreciate it if someone could clarify this for me...i don`t get the sun moon signs, and all the other stuff u have to take into account when you try to see if a relashionship will work. I was born on jan 12 1985, and my gem girlfriend on may 26 same year, i also know i was born at about 12:00pm. I really love this girl, we`ve been together for 4 years now, (long-distance) i see her every summer, we`re taking the relationship very seriously, which i believe is one of the reasons we`re still together after 4 years...i trust her, its just that she sometimes feels like "forgetting" we`re together at all just to suffer less. Any advice from gem girls that had/have a relationship with a cap man would be really appreciated, thanx

OHH BOY.. lol I don't think you want to pay much attention to what i'm going to say.. LMAO but i was with a Cappy for a year and it was the most miserable year of my life! I posted about it a few times on here so i won't get into it too much.. but we just couldn't get it together.. it was long distance too but i saw him at least 2 weekends a month. and there was a whole lotta passion involved.. BUT he couldn't understand me and i couldn't understand him. He took everything i said wrong.. and vice versa. I felt strangled.. he was sooooo intense.. UGH i'm stressin just remembering.. So good luck 🙂 Hope your's is better than my expreience. I'll say this.. if he coulda loosen'd up the reins.. and just let me breath and quit analyzing every stinkin' word i said.. oh and wasn't sooooo damn possessive.. it coulda been a great thing. haha doubt this helped.. but it was just my expereince..

thanks for your reply, i pretty much understand why gems and caps dont really belong together, but to be frank, it is those opposing thoughts, feelings and overall personality that attracts me to her, it probably sounds stupid, anyway, i do think she`s a little bit too flighty, but most of the time i`ll just try to ignore it as i know it is best for both of us...I realize that it is as hard for me to deal with her, as it is for her to deal with me, the point is, i`m willing to go to ANY lenghts with this girl, but don`t really know how to make her feel the same way...she won`t give in fully, or maybe it`s that i expect more from her than she expects of herself...i appreciate your reply anyway, i do find it hard for me not to analyze every "stinkin` word", she says, it`s true, because i care so much about her not to take everything she says seriously, but i won`t make her feel bad for saying it...
just for the record, we were both born in bucharest, if there`s anybody out there thats willing to help, i have no idea what ascendats, moon rising, etc means, i just found out the birth place is also important to get a clear description, so i`d thought id share that info..thanks again

Cappy's seem to be very demanding.. so try not to be so.. 🙂 I was head over heels for the cappy i was seeing.. i'm mean right off the bat.. instantly. He sucked me right in. I loved his powerful presence.. if you can over come the communication barriors.. you should be good.. well as i said earlier.. also the over barring. it doesn't matter your reasons.. you ahve to control that or she will run like hell. it may take a while.. but she will tire of it. and you can't make her feel anything.. try and make her chase you.. sometimes not beign so available to us makes us want you more 😉 D

Dancing Bread seems the best at knowing all the star stuff you asked about.. maybe he will put his 2 cents in.. he always has some great info..

you might also need time of birth... that's important too..