I dated this gemini guy about 12 years ago. We reconnected about three years ago. Weve hung out on and off over the last two years. He keeps disappearing on me and coming back every couple months. I've done that with him a couple times. He's keeps coming back and I keep letting him in because he was my first boyfriend, first everything and I didn't really appreciate him back then. I definitely like him a lot more now than I did when I was 16. He's grown into a handsome, intelligent man. Last time I spoke to him was about year ago. And then about three months ago he came back at me, and I told him that I'm in a place where I'm not interested in anything that isn't serious. I'm a single mom and I want more kids and I also want to get married. I do not want to waste my time with someone who doesn't want what I want and I've told him that. He has chosen to stick around. But this is my issue or where the confusion comes in. He doesn't say much about how he feels or what wants. He seems to be taking it one day at a time. How do I know if he's serious if he doesn't come right out and say it. I know everyone is different. We have a great time and mesh really well when we're together. We have a lot in common. However he's not very affectionate. He doesn't hug or kiss me, at least he hasn't yet, not even in bed. We cuddle a lot and there's always some sort of physical contact, he's always touching me and vice versa. Do I need to be one to initiate things like that (hugs and kisses)? He'll do anything I ask of him and likes to surprise me. He has mentioned going away with me in a couple months. Its so messed up. How do I know that he isn't going to wake up tomorrow and decide that he's going to start ignoring me for another year. How can I tell that he's here to stay long term? He shares a lot with me about his family and his upbringing and he vents about everyday issues. We are definitely great friends. But I want to know whether or not it'll grow past that. How do I know if my gemini isn't going to run away? How do I get him to be more affectionate and less standoff ish and cold. I know he likes me, but it seems like he's holding back. He'll talk about anything and everything for hours but he hasn't said a word about where he see us going or whether or not he interested in a serious committed relationship with me. I guess I'm not really asking a specific question. Im just venting and looking for feed back. Any help would be nice.
