Depression and freedom

I'm a Capricorn asc Gemini. He's a Gemini with a moon in Libra and a Venus in Cancer.
We met 10 years ago. We became friends, We then became best friends who share many common interests, we dated on and off for years and we have been married for 2 years.

My husband and I have been going through many rough patches. He confined in other women, who then came to me and started shit, trying to break us up. It hurt our relationship but we stayed together and decided to work on that issue.
However, over the past 2 weeks, my husband asked for more freedom, neglecting our marriage greatly. It turned to us spending 2-3 nights a week together, being a happy couple, to him going out with his friends 7 nights a week. And when I asked him to stay in and make time for us, he got upset. Hated that I asked, and manipulated things to force me to say yes.
His need for freedom became so big, that our marriage became useless to him. I'm not needy, but we got married for a reason. Not to be 2 strangers in the same house.
Sex stopped, I became the annoying woman.

My husband is also going through depression and has been for years. Talking about being unhappy and wanting to kill himself once in a while. Personal problems from his past came back over the last month, something that will cost us a lot of money. Something I didn't know about. I offered to be there for him, help him, not let him deal with it alone, and he refused. Since his recent need for freedom, he's been pushing me away more and more. After a fight one night, he told me he didn't know what he wanted for us. Told his friends he wanted to give up on us. Because me asking him to hangout one or two nights a week is too much, that he doesn't have his full freedom.

He told me all this himself, and when I tried to talk to him, resonate, explain, we didn't see eye to eye. I told him I would give him some space to think, he got upset that I wanted to leave, yet the same night, told friends he wanted to end our marriage. He doesn't know what he wants with me, or our relationship. Depression and the bad financial news from his past is causing him to be airy, like he's stuck in a tornado unable to keep focus. He is making bad decisions after bad decisions that is affecting our marriage. He admitted being the reason our marriage is falling apart.

Two days ago, he went to live at his friend's and we have had little to no communication. Talking about our relationship led to more fights.

I have no idea wh

I have no idea what to do.
Do I let him be airy and lost, messing up our marriage? Do I make him snap out of it, force him to face the music? Explaining rationally didn't work. He's just asking and asking for fun times like having full freedom is his right, like a child telling his mom don't tell me what to do!
He agreed that he can't say no to his friends, and that it's causing problems between us. But then, he goes and act like I'm a bad wife for saying no sometimes. He always loved that I'm his guidelines in life, the one keeping him on track of things.

So, let him be airy, messing his, our life up, or sit him down and say Look, this is what's gonna happen, we're gonna work on this together and that's it! While trying to remain a happy couple

I'm gemini with moon in cancer. My ex husband was capricorn.I run after him 2 years. Was my big mistake of my life. I was married 10 years.The bad years of my live until the point when I was very ill. I had headache, depresion, furunculosis .. ... In that moment I was thinking one of us will die because the bad energy between us.And believe me , I was sure I go nuts and final I can die . So I end the marriage... and never from than have that simptome. Cancer if they are not happy.. they will internalize feelings because they don't say anything and don't like to take ugly and tough decisions..So think again of the option ....

Forget astrology both of you need a marriage counsellor! From what you tell us he seems to be rather selfish but no sense in throwing away a relationship of 10 years without giving it all your best shots!

I'm sorry for you, but this is getting from bad to worse. He doesn't want to be in this relationship any longer, kick his ass out, he's asking for it.

Did he start draining your common resources already, inventing "bad financial news from the past"? Get a divorce lawyer asap!!!

Posted by Starry22
Forget astrology both of you need a marriage counsellor! From what you tell us he seems to be rather selfish but no sense in throwing away a relationship of 10 years without giving it all your best shots!

I agree with this ^^!!

I mean we are all into Astrology obviously and it's good and useful in order to understand yourselves and ppl and give yourself patience in order to understand ppl who are different than you.

But this story is insane! No matter whether he has problems or not. It's not a reason to disrepect his marriage like that. I mean I can see how Gem SUn with Libra Moon is super shitty.

Don't try to find excuses. If he's got problems, he needs to get help even doesn't want to and just wants more freedom and blames stuff on you, you really need to think about whether you love yourself enough to actually make changes in your life so you'll be happier or if you don't love yourself enough, then continue. And yeah the changes might involve separation. To me it sounds like emotional abuse, manipulation, threats. I'd be careful if I were you.
Be sure that when he's out and about he's definitely screwing other women, maybe he's got even another relship on the side and is using his friends as an alibi.
With all that unstableness, I'd keep an eye on my bank account too! You don't want to end up hurt AND broke!