Do you sometimes think about old flames?

Me and Gem talked today, and out of the blue he told me he wished he could still talk to this female friend who deleted her FB a really long time ago.
That he had her number years ago, but don't have it anymore.
I asked him about this girl, he said it's someone he think about all the time. I asked more, like, who she is, etc, but he didn't wanna talk about it. I asked why. Explained that it's weird he doesn't wanna tell me, of all the persons in his life. He said he didn't wanna talk to anyone, even me.
I asked him if I could ask one question about her, and he said ok. I asked if it's someone he had feelings for at one time and he said yes.

So, is this a normal thing for Gemini to think about old flames?

Also, should I be worried that he said he think about her "all the time"?

I sure do but then who doesn't we all think about the past at times especially about old flames

I do too, but not in the way he said it.

He said he think about her always, and that he didn't wanna tell me about her, like he's hiding something. Made me suspicious.

I even tried to explain to him logically why it was hurting me and he got mad.

He does that sometimes.
He doesn't wanna do something, or say something, and when I ask why he just say: "Because!" or "Just can't" without any explanation.

Yet, when he does the same. Aka, ask me why and why not, I always answer and he loves it.

I don't get it.

I'm tearing up reading this. Because I know you're right.
But when you've been friends and close with someone for 8 years, it's hurtful to realize it. Or acknowledge it.

I'm always there for him. When he's depressed and going through a rough patch. And today, I needed him. I told him I needed him and he said he couldn't.
Didn't wanna tell me why either.
I told him he didn't need to listen to me because I know he's not good with emotions. Just do something with. Movies, something. He said he couldn't.

I pushed him away before. And he freaked out, asked me to stop and that he loved me deeply.
But sometimes, his actions are not showing me this love.

I gave him money last week to help him repair his car. Because I'm just so giving and caring. I'll ask him for a refund.

I will also tell him that I deserve better.

girl.... move on from him... he's not into you... but still dwells on something past... or he's just a jerk.


now, for the thinking part: I thought about someone for 10 years. then we met, we went out once and then realized why we broke up. but the thoughts are there. we all do it.

i agree with Dom and RF.... i will also say that i haven't forgotten the lessons i've learned and that's as far as i reminisce about them.

I still think about my sons first dad. We had a fun relationship(he's a Taurus). The Virgo(well ex now) is boring sometimes. We don't have as much fun as I did with my Taurus ex. I believe if I had more much fun with my Virgo ex I wouldn't think about my Taurus ex. Makes sense—

Thank you so much for you answers everyone.

My mother, a Gemini. Lost her second husband a year and half ago to cancer, and she still talk about him everyday. So I know Gemini often think about people they used to love, or still love.


As for my Gem, I texted him tonight while he was out with friends.
Explained that I got a bad news today, something about university that made me cry all day (As a Capricorn, I cry once every 8 months, sometimes once a year. I'm not emotional at all) but today was just too much and that everything he did affected me more.
Being distant, me pushing him away and telling him he didnt care, rejected me, didn't ask me why I was depressed etc and that this bad news, and him acting like he did made everything worst.

I asked him to tell me that he loves me, that we are fine, and that tomorrow we will go back to be our usual selves.

He has yet to read it, but his answer will tell me how this "relationship" will go.
If he doesn't answer or tell me he loves me, tomorrow I'll go to his house, get my stuff, ask for 300 $ back and tell him it's over.

I don't often reminisce about the full fledged relationships that are over. I can look back at those fondly, in a detached way. They have been wrung dry, and experienced fully. There are no crumbs, so there is no hunger.
The ones that give me pause are the relationships that had potential but were never realized. I dated a wonderful Cancer, but we were too young, and we were on different paths. I needed to travel and see the world, and he had a scholarship to the school of his dreams. We made the right decision to end our relationship, but it was a painful one. He still lives in my home town and I have seen him with his beautiful family when i visit. I am always surprised by the wave of emotion that overwhelms us. 20 years has not diminished its flame.
It doesn't surprise me that he doesn't want to talk about this you. We keep these things close to our hearts. Rarely does anyone get a peek, as you have.

I reminisce about the past. But I tend to also remember the bad along with the good. Exes are exes for a reason.

We are thinkers, we never stop thinking about everything that has ever happened to us.
I still think about old flames every now and then, wonder sometimes if they think of me too.

I would say its normal. Gems will think back too way back when and then they usually pursue that friendship again unless there was some sort of damage, the sort of damage hes not willing to tell you. Because it makes him vulnerable. Gems are always thinking therefore they're always analyzing things. You can be worried, sure. But best not fret over it. Because those feelings that the gem has will never go away for that person, they'll only bury it and hide it from you until one day they decide too share. And even then its not the full story. The thing is you're there in the present with him and thats all that he really thinks about. He dosent want to bring up that awkwardness and situation with you......... I dunno. I could go on forever. I could be wrong. But this is just how I see it in my experience.

I tend to fb 'stalk' my exes every now and then for no other reason than curiosity and because I can.. but there is one guy in particular that I think about every now and then. I know it could never work out between us but I can't help but go through the what if's in my head... He's extremely arrogant and cocky though I can't stand him. But the way he made me feel that summer... It was quite amazing while it lasted. I know he thinks of me too because he often puts up a cropped pic of us from his birthday wearing the shirt i got him, and when people compliment him on it now almost 3 years later he comments things like "good times good memories.." I wouldn't take him back if he came and begged me right now however. I just like the feeling of having a beautiful memory to think of every now and then..
Your gem's case seems different though. I wouldn't bother with him right now

No. If someone mentions their name or I happen to see the person then yes, but this is the only time they will cross my mind. When I was younger, very different story. I use to have obsessive thoughts about old flames (missing special moments, longing for their touch, etc). I guess I've just learned to detach much quicker now, and that is both a negative and positive thing I suppose.

.....Actually, one exception: if I am in the process of self reflection and a particular person is attached to that process/life lesson then they will cross my mind. In either case, its a fleeting thought. The point is to find the lesson, not reminisce on old loves. My energy is only reserved for the people I think are important and are actively involved in my life.

My ex husband of 18 years cheated on me. I kicked him out. The day he left he hugged me and said "I'll always love you". Well, one nasty divorce later: I don't love him anymore, but I don't hate him anymore either. It would be nice to think he thought about our good times every now and again.

Just sayin'.