Gemini Lady: Time to Throw in the Towel?

Thanks for all the great feedback I got from my previous question I asked earlier.

My Gemini gf and I broke up a week ago. We always got along great--no arguments or anything. Physically passionate. Kids got along. But she started pullin back as far as seeing me, though she'd still call/text every day. She does have a busy schedule at times, so I gave her the space I thought she needed. Well, explanation I got for the breakup was that she just fell back into the daily routine of being a single mom that she had been used to.

We had an instant connection when we started dating. At that time, she was looking for something long term. We fell deeply for each other--neither of us had said "I love you" to someone for years. We had tossed around the notion of marriage in the future. Then some physical distance for a month--and then the breakup. First thought was she lost interest. That happens. Then I wondered if maybe she got scared of taking that big step into a deeper relationship--fell back into where it is safe. Everyone in her immediate family is single and a parent.

So I went about a week without texting or calling her. Sent an e-mail yesterday that was overall nice and wished her well and said I wasn't going to be contacting her for awhile but would like to hear from her if she ever wanted to contact me. So she texted me. I ended up asking her if she was scared at the thought of going that deep with someone and it not working or them letting her down. She said of course...but not with me. Come again? A)she still loves me B)she trusts me C)she knows I'd be a good husband/step-father D)couple months ago she was interested in marriage E)we have amazing chemistry, but F)she decided now that she wants to wait until a someday stage in life and find all this again.

She also mentioned maybe getting together this weekend, but I'm unsure of the offer actually happening. I think this is THE worst possible reason to have someone break up w/ u. Most frustrating at least.

My question: Is this decision that she she needs to be single at this stage in life an in-stone declaration or is this the Gemini in her reacting? Does she just need to experience single mom life once more? Deciding if I need to leave her be and wait or close the book and move on.

(Again, I'm a Sag) Thanks.

Hi there.
I'm a woman, a Gemini and had a relationship with Sagittarius,which I am still not sure if ended. For sure every person is different, and reacts differently in such situations. What is in common for Geminis, I think, is that we need change and challenge, all the time. This does not mean to change the partner though. Its just like having something "moving". It comes like a cycle, I am up then down, then up; For people is like inconsistency, but has nothing to do with my partner, its all about me. I am not sure what is the reason for your girlfriend reaction, but I found in the past, demotivating to stay in relation when was feeling too much pressure,and was taken for granted. But the more mature I got, I must say it happened after 30, realized that I need to keep my self stable at least when it comes to the partner so he can;t get confused. However, my Sag man with whom we had great time, got scared from my behavior. He was so loving, I still hope he would come back. We keep in touch.
My advice, take it slowly with her, and try to understand real her and her dynamics. Don;t make assumptions. Ask her what is the problem and that you are there for her if she needs, and then move aside and wait. When she approaches, don't take her for granted, show her something "changed", maybe she has something that minds her but is not communicating it.
Good luck.

hello, i am a gemini woman.. we have a tendency to run away or just walk away when not feeling cared about.. maybe thats not the right description ,cause you have said how much you care.. I personally will just leave.. don't let her leave. don't not call her or text. the man that fights for me instead of with me is the one. i will feel like i'm not number one to someone and not appreciated. i was with a sag man for 7 years.. he ended up being a cheater with a much younger girl.. i didn't know till i moved out with our son. it hurt badly. i didn't date for 4 years. we have this shell that goes up around us.. its like the clown you know.. laughing on the outside and crying on the inside. be persistant..