Gemini man driving me nuts !!! Help please !

A gem mean? Hmm not to me. Lol. I love em.
They are a bit blunt, and as a Pisces I'm not so sure your shear layer of skin can take it on a regular basis, which is why I assume you go so long without hearing from one another. I have a Pisces moon so I'm like that when I really like or love someone, it's not hard for them to hurt my feelings in some way because I care just that much. The Libra in me will analyze every little thing they do, the Leo in me won't allow me to show how much I care unless I'm certain it's mutual
This sign is a huge people person. The men like their women silly but smart, sexy but not a hoe, and crazy about them. Simple.
You have to give him space, as he craves it, but no too much where he's left to think if you like him or not.
Do NOT drown him in your girly emotions, 99.9% of the time he won't want to hear it unless he's dead wrong.
Try to keep things fun and interesting, and just stay cool. Let him lead in the emotional department. Keep in mind he's a man of many different personalities based on his sun sign alone, and that doesn't even include the other aspects of his chart, so any woman that wants to keep a Gemini man will have to have patients, and ability to keep up.
He's probably not lying about the other women being his friends, even if he likes them they are still his friends until he makes them officially his, and the same goes for you. He looks at you as one of many out of the bunch, if he didn't he??d claim you as his own.
As far as him being mean to you, well darling he's only doing that because you allow it. He probably gets a kick out of the way you let him. My suggestion is as kind as your heart maybe, you are going to have throw that soft shell to the side, grow some big girl titties and tell him straight off the next time he comes at you sideways. Gemini men and women don't respect people they can run all over, especially the men. So if you want ANYTHING with him, you will have to learn how to stand up for yourself even with him.

This sounds like a scenario where the man is keeping things "on/off" so that he can see you when he wants to and keep his options open. A year is more than enough time to wait for things to firm up. They haven't firmed up because he has what he wants from you - sex without a commitment. At this point you need to ask yourself why you're investing time and energy into a man whose not committed and isn't treating you well either. This man isn't worthy of your love. Moral of the story - don't give men all the benefits of a relationship without actually being in one. Don't lower the bar. It's a great way to weed out men who bring nothing to your table but a moment's good time.

PS: I've been in a 10 year relationship with a gemini man. He was always hot to trot and didn't do mixed messages. Men chase after what they want. Don't settle for a man whose not actively courting you. They aren't in it to win it.

You asked if Gems hold grudges. If they did, my Gem would have taken revenge long time ago. We've met on a dating site, one day after my Aqua ex run away. I was heartbroken for the first four months. Not surprisingly, I initially rejected his offer to be his girlfriend. I also told him I was busy with my career and would have time for only one call and one date per week.

Six months into our relationship, he initiated another "talk". I honestly said I wasn't in love with him, but liked his brains and personality and how good e are for each other. I said I was fine with continuing our relationship as it was, but would understand if he goes back to dating other women. After that, he started asking often if I miss him and how much, if I like him, find him attractive, etc. He was a bit insecure.

A couple of months later, I managed to fall in love with him, yepeee! We practically confessed our feelings for each other. And we lived happily ever after...errr.....not. I was ready to meet his boys.....he wasn't. Other things happened, for example: I sent him a text last evening and got no reply.....so I asked him today if he was OK. Got this: "Sorry, honey, everything is fine. I was out last night and have been running after the boys. I'll have a look at cinema or for a dvd worth watching with you tomorrow. Speak later." Then a separate text with "XX". I was in tears because I felt I wasn't a priority for him!!!! LOL, so quickly it goes.

Oops, I forgot you have read enough stories about Pisces-Gem relationships. I would say the best way forward is talking to him. Is he teasing you? Tease him back. Is he malicious? Give him a taste of his own butter, but don't over-indulge him. Also, don't get defensive; that could drive him to push your buttons. Sting him like a bee instead!

Perhaps other signs do not realize that the proverbial Piscean kindness is reserved mainly for people we have little interaction with. I personally would feel emotionally exhausted to be nice and kind all the time, or even most of the time. Respectful, polite and cool is far easier.

If he's a man of many different personalities based on his sun sign alone, we also have different personalities, swimming in opposite directions! If one of them sucks at the moment, why not bring the other one forward? Do a 180?? turn from time to time, just for the fun of it?

Posted by samantha12
Hi all,

I am a piscean girl and the guy i m with now is a gemini. he's a typical gemini i believe. we have been on n off for a lil more than a yr now. he likes playing mind games.....gives mixed signals.. all this has left me very very confused n frustrated....he goes out with other women too but says they are just friends....he's once told me he'll never tell me how he feels about me 'coz m a mean person...dunno what made him think tht..i have always gone outta my way to help this guy yet he's mostly rude n uncaring towards me...there r times when we don't speak to about 2 weeks...maybe he misses me maybe not...we pisceans r always helpful n kind to others n thats what i have been with him...yet he doesn't trust me or ever express his feelings for me...but tells me he loves being physical with me..he's nice to other people so i know he s nt a bad person...its just with me..he's also said once that i am the only person he's not nice to...am so damn confused...geminis please gimme some perspective to understand whats on this guys mind...thnx

😆 😆 😆 😆 I really laughed really really hard when I read the title and first sentence! HAHAHA!!! Gemini men attract me the most, but....I really hate them and find them to be some of he biggest most inconsiderate assholes in the zodiac. I'd say, you're a Pisces hun, don't get involved with a gemini, maybe just for fun. Because he seems to be just having little flings. That's how gemini are, a little of this and a little of that. They want a little bit of EVERYTHING. And yes it's really really really annoying it can drive anyone nuts. If you really want to figure him out, ask him questions, but never show any emotional interest in him, it'll turn him off straight away. Just ask him. Be straight forward.

I know several Gems who have often sent mixed signals, but this guy just sounds like an asshole. Also remember you can never change what you tolerate.

PS I too am a Pisces. And I've mastered the gemini kind. It's probably because of my aqua moon and libra rising tho, you just really have to be detached so he can feel he has his freedom without the clingyness. Gemini are really just the most confusing people, you just have to learn to love it and go along with it. It actually becomes kinda fun after a while.