Gemini man with sagittarius moon pulling away after 5 months..

Hi all,

Been seeing a typically flirty, over-confident gemini man (age 32) whom I met online for 5 months - at the start he would send me over 50 texts per day and be actively pursuing me and flirting with me etc. Despite slight ups and downs, we've been seeing each other for 5 months (once every 2-3 weeks seeing as he lives 3hours drive from me and he often drives to see me, I occasionally visit him). We were physically intimate with each other about 1.5 months ago (I was a virgin and he knew this). He became super clingy and affectionate after the first time we slept together (I have dated others before but had a parental rule/asked by parents to wait till I'm 23 for silly reasons which I chose to accept) and well, I met him just a few months before my 23rd birthday so we were "intimate" after 3 months of dating simply due to this rule (but I did feel comfortable enough with him - he was caring, spent hours on the phone talking to me, texted me quite often, would get jealous if he thought I was seeing other guys, even bought my nice presents (costing over £70 in total) and spent a lot of effort visiting me.

However, he has always had a very busy job even when we met, he would work 6.30am to 7pm but now it's even worse with hours like 6.30am to 9pm, 6 days a week! and I know it stresses him out loads and he drinks quite a bit so has often been hungover and moody (not at me but at the world in general) in the last few months but still kept up contacting and would initiate texting about 95% of the days.. once he didn't for two whole days and he was online on WhatsApp and Facebook all day so I got angry/upset he was cheating on me not to think about me once or even just say hi, in nearly 48 hours.. (this was before we slept together) and he phoned me the same day and said he was just feeling moody generally and just online talking to the football lads from his team - I apologised and all was ok..

Anyway, now 5 months in, the last 2 weeks - he has been really quiet after our last date (on a saturday) - on this day he was telling me how he needs some time to himself as he's been rushed off his feet with crazy hours at work, friends wanting to see him, etc and he never gets alone time (he didn't directly blame me as I only see him once in 2-3 weeks anyway so not a huge time drain for him).. I took the hint and didn't initiate contact on the next day (Sunday and Monday) and neither did he despite being alone.. he then texts on tuesday morning asking if I'm angry at him.. I said "no, I thought you wanted space, are you angry at me"? and he said "no no, you're fine, I just had a bad day, I'll call you this evening".. but he ended up finishing work at close to midnight and told me next morn about this late finish so didn't call..

he dodged my attempt to offer a phone convo 2 days later but he had a 14 hour shift so I assumed he must be tired.. he was working in another city all of last week to get extra work done and so I kinda understand his hours were crazy last week.. last weekend, he didn't come online at all on anything for 48 hours, I was worried about him and initiated but he said he was so tired so slept through the weekend (also believeable)

Anyway, the next day, I initiated late in the evening at 9.30 saying hope ur day was ok and he immediately responds saying "yeah, just going home now, so tired" and we had a little text convo which continued into the next day where I was feeling very ill and teary (about other things as well - not just this e.g. work, health) and he was sympathetic but replied quite late after footie practiced. I said he made me feel a bit better but I was tired and I'm going to bed, he said "night kid"... this was tuesday and now it's thursday - he kind of comes online every hour or so throughout the day but still does not contact me at all 😢

I know he's crazy busy but he was almost as busy since we met but usually he'd send good morning texts etc. and reach out through the day.. it's so unusual to have had quite a few 2 day periods of silences, only broken by me initiating contact (to which he normally replies straight away).. I do feel hurt that despite me being so ill and weepy on tuesday, he doesn't care to ask how I am for 2 days 😢..

I assume he has lost interest? I heard all these theories of people, especially sagittarius/gemini men pulling back to gain their independence, the rubber band theory, but I doubt any of that is true..

I know words don't mean much but he always told me how perfect I was and his actions matched his words... also, after being intimate, he seemed more clingier, saying he missed me, etc.!

There was once a rough spot where I jokingly suggested that he only wanted me for that one thing (physical stuff) and when we met up a few days later, he did say he felt annoyed by this and I apologised but no huge major rows or anything..



My chart:

Taurus Sun, Aquarius Moon, Taurus Mercury, Aries Venus, Leo Mars,

His chart:

Gemini Sun, Sagittarius Moon, Gemini Venus, Scorpio Venus..



We were never like super marriage orientated or anything but I thought we were having fun..