Gemini's and flirting? Is it serious?

So im dating this great guy and we are really vibing each other. He just moved to my city when I met him almost two weeks ago. Hes only been here a few months and Im aware that his friends from the other state miss him etc. He is athletic and determined and I am determined in my field so we respect each other. We went on a hiking date (somewhere hes never been) then to get something to eat at his place where we went from not touching each other all day to kissing. A few days later he asks me on another date (a real one 2 days later) and we had a blast. We look forward to meeting again. I give him his space. He used to say gm or something at night the first few days but recently he hasnt lately. I told him "hey! I hope you had a good and productive day. Have a good night" He said " Thank you hun...im pretty sure you did. Good night."

Recently, he posted a basic close up of his face (which he looked handsome) on instagram and of course friends that were girls commented and he never called them a pet names that he calls me. But there was one girl who said "Nice photo" he said "thank you miss. Tryna keep up with you" She responded ";* I miss you!" He responded, "Miss you too" and that was it. Now I feel like Im being overly paranoid or that time of month haha(esp because shes apparently from his old state) but what do you think? Is something wrong or am i over reacting?

I don't know if I'm alone with this one but I have a major problem flirting and "pushing the envelope" with the one object of my affection... she's a Virgo (whether this has something to do with it, I don't know) but I cannot flirt with her... I just can't. If anything, she's the ONE person I WANT to flirt with but I simply cannot do it no matter how much I try to take that step and initiate flirtation...

When it comes to other women, I have no problem... I can't turn it on and off at will like a light-switch! But the one I'm actually pursuing and want to be with... I can't do it...

Maybe I'm just a really odd case...

I can flirt with anyone (and often don't even realize I'm doing it) except for the person I actually want. If I want someone, I clam up, get flustered, say foolish things, or hide. On occasion, when I'm in relationships, I flirt even more. That's because I'm "safe" (the flirt-ee can't ask me out because I'm already taken).

I've noticed being a Gem, in most cases I can converse with just about anyone and about any topic. I bring a sense of inquisitiveness, some intellect, and of course, innate humor to my conversations. That's just my nature. But I have no doubt a few people might consider my style "flirting", when in fact, it's just me being me. I think many Gems get a bad rap about being total flirts. We just have mercury driving us and enjoy a lively chat. When you add our natural smile and that glint in our youthful eyes, I've read we at times can be quite mesmerizing to the opposite sex.

Posted by peanutsNcrackers
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What's that for? Do you have an issue with what I said?

I do know for a fact that women can come across as "flirts" when it's just being who they are. Women like to talk. It's how we are wired. But talking doesn't always equal real emotional connection. I understand men look at women's actions through a man's perspective, which is obviously different because of how men are wired. It's a physiological fact that we utilize our brain capacities different; which also controls are ability to feel and analyze emotions.

Being married for 14 plus years, it always amazes me to read how men perceive some of the actions of women who post on this forum. Men aren't wired to "connect" emotionally.
Men are wired to "hunt" and get from point A to point B as efficiently as possible. So thus when we women chat and laugh with some guy, he's often going to take that as flirting, when the reality is, we're just being who were are by nature. It's no different from dudes going to a sports bar and hanging out with the guys. It's male bonding. It's what guy's do.

Posted by gemini64

Posted by peanutsNcrackers
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Men aren't wired to "connect" emotionally.
Men are wired to "hunt" and get from point A to point B as efficiently as possible.

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From one Gemini to another... this is the biggest load of bullshit I've ever read.

Posted by SapphireGem

Posted by gemini64

Posted by peanutsNcrackers
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Men aren't wired to "connect" emotionally.
Men are wired to "hunt" and get from point A to point B as efficiently as possible.

From one Gemini to another... this is the biggest load of bullshit I've ever read.

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then obviously you don't know the physiological differences between how a man's brain is wired compared to a woman's. do some research on the difference in the corpus callosum and how we individually utilize our logical/literal sites vs. our emotional sites in the brain. This goes back through thousands of years of evolution etc. I teach A&P. I've also done a ton of research on how men vs. women think in terms of connecting with one another/how we differ in problem solving/spacial reasoning vs. communication prowess.

So if you think it's the biggest load of shit you've ever read, please by all means, disprove the physiological aspect of what I posted.