Geminis and Love

I was wondering about the fleeting and fickle Gemini love. I??ve heard that their love is fickle and that when they are in love (real love) and they know it then they will show it to the person and most of the time be loyal to that person. On the other hand I??ve read that many people that fall in mutual love with a Gemini and are told that they are loved by that Gemini the love still at times fleeting and fickle. This would be due to the dual personalities I assume since depending on their mood swing or personality shift their feelings change. The complaints across the board are the same when it comes to Gemini love that the Gemini makes the person feel like unsure of their love, they never know how they will behave, they are ignored without explanation, they lie, they don't deal with emotional shows well. Love is the deepest emotion. Many people have the same experience with Gemini love coming and going. It may last years but the twin will come out and may not love the way the other does. Gemini??s say that when they love it is real but is it real for one of their personas or all? So that being said how can the love of a dual personality, fickle, emotionally uncomfortable Gemini that needs verity ever be a sure thing?

I have had experience with a Gemini male and he said he loved me. I didn't get that he didn't know how to be there for me emotionally when I needed him. It was hurtful but as usual I let it go. I gave him space. I rarely spoke to or saw him (saw him about once every two weeks and spoke 2 to 3 times a week through text) which made me feel like he wasn't even in my life. He would ignore my texts and calls often but I let it go. On the flipside he is so warm to me when we are together. He can be so sweet and intellectually deep so we talk about anything. I just can't always deal with his becoming cold and distant or ignoring me. Does this last forever? Will he balance out? I'm a Virgo by the way with a Gemini Ascendant. He is a Gemini with a Pisces Moon. Mentioned those because that seems to be why we don't clash as Virgo and Gemini tend to do. I like my space too and I am very understanding when he says sorry for anything I let him back in.
I would love to hear from Gemini??s who have been in real love what it was like and what complaints did they get from the person they loved.

I dated a gemini for awhile ( i have a gemini moon not sure if that really makes a difference) anyways, yes what i learned is that well...you can't really listen to their words. For their words are used to either persuade, to hurt (sarcasm), to coax, etc. Their actions are true when it happens but it doesn't last long. Tomorrow they will feel a different emotion. Whether or not they truly feel what they preach is different. The actions part: sweet, warm loving, perhaps is what they think the other person needs or what is needed to play the role. BUT once again, to truly understand their inner workings if they really like the person is a different story. Gemini's tend to need to seek all possibilities, rationalizing everything, contemplating every angle, at the end of the day, this is to seek "balance". I find that Some Gemini's SAY THINGS TO FEEL THEM. NOT becaue they FEEL them so they express it. Or it could also be vice versa. My relationship with the last gemini was confusing because we are too similar. WE both are unable to communicate our deep root issues.EMOTIONAL issues. WE find the most logical answer as our "feeling" but the arguments all have the undertone two parties:playing games..going around the true issue. Then we end up battling the formation of the arguments just to FINALLY talk about the real issue. Geminis are very very caring and sweet. They tend to accommodate their lovers while having the easy capability of concealing (unintentionally) what they really feel and think. Because you see, in that brief moment of accommadation, gemini's are already opened to those ideas. Tomorrow is a different story. Geminis are so opened to every POSSIBILITY, IDEA that they confuse themselves and go back and forth seeking one TRUTH. which is their downfall and mine as well. My GEmini moon gives me these crazy mood swings and ideas and thoughts. Geminis think every idea is right .just depends on what situation they can apply it. Even in dating, men find me inconsistent and confused. When things get too happy, the start thinking if they are bored. is this it? if things are bad? they think they have to try harder and things COULD get better.

Besides, the intimidation of the gemini lover profiles, the only skill you really need is mental agility and wit. Seeing not with your eyes. But with your mind. Understand, different definitions of words when used in a certain TYPE of situation. If you guys have dated for a long time and he says "i like you a lot"

then couple weeks later he may say "i love you"...one must understand that at times "i like you" in a certain setting is much stronger than "i love you". Dating a gemini also entails understanding subtleties. indirect messages hints etc. Geminis really have a good idea on what relationships should be. They want to not have to speak so much about their feelings and their plans with a person. They simply want to get to know a person without the games. to see the other person of their interest share themselves. ShoW them who they really are without a "MISSION". Hence, a girl who talks about when they will get married or exclusive will find them left in the cold. IT could make a gemini feel that what you do and how you talk and behave is a front to get the committment. BUT what if they give it to them? they will wonder if its gonna be different. Mostly likely it is. So, that being said, a gemini needs a woman who can just have fun and take it day by day. And let everything else fall into place. IT makes perfect sense to me. For instance, you wouldn't want a guy to pretend this act of sweetness, courtship, just to get into your pants right? like what a lot of women dont want. Same with a gemini man, they dont want to committ to a person who could be pretending, or enhancing non-existent traits, just to get commitment for the sake of it. Geminis, then in this light actually want a sincere, loving, trusting, mutually beneficial FRIENDSHIP, with good sex.

Yes, dating a gemini is trying to decipher between what is and isnt or is it both? its not really that big of a deal. EVERYONE has duality. Its just geminis, air signs , reserve their right to CHANGE their minds. Not that they choose to ..Geminis dont want to hurt people,. But it happens, just like life. They are just growing and understand who they are and where their values lie*. They are the 1st child of the zodiac. and aquarius the second child. One trapped in a adults body the other in a childs. SO geminis are better as they age..as they make TON AND TON of mistakes. after they dated A LOT of people.

JUST be yourself. Have a strong center. understand yourself before entering a relationship with a Gemini. Share yourself. enjoy yourself. take the problems as they come. Simple. If it doesnt work out, think of it as a good time spent and it was true in the moments. Geminis really need someone who can teach them things, help them understanding their both sides, by playing devils advocate in talks

whether it be about their choices in career, friendships, what food to eat, where to go explore, how they feel about the relationship. Being proactive in helping them ..guiding them be their rock is what they need. IF they give you both sides of how they feel about you..e.g. "i like spending time with you, your perfect..." but "i just feel im not ready, i dont want to hurt you" In this situation, you must ask questions to help him with each of his sides. You then can respond "in what way do you enjoy me? 😉 (crack a sublte joke in there) i have a lot of fun with you too"..he'll respond. then go to the other side and say "yes...sometimes i get scared of getting in a relationship..IS it because you are afraid of losing your freedom?"
okay i hope i didn't confuse you there. The point of that is TOGETHER..as a TEAM to help each other out. In this process, the overall goal is to help him reach a higher state of ideals that squash the negative one "but i just feel im not ready.."
Also understand, when to offer advice, or when to listen. They love talking..and because sometimes they dont express their emotions to even their closet friends..if they pour out their deep root feelings it means they trust you and thats the first step in establishing a stable gemini. Someone who can be their rock, trustworthy ..wont judge them base on their multiple ideas.

Thank you so much for your response. It was very detailed and made sense. I understand my Gemini love very well and he has talked about our future many times. I make sure he gets his space. I know he loves me. He takes our relationship seriously and he wants to marry me but he says he needs time before he makes that commitment. I get that and I'm happy he has been honest. I just never know who he will be and when he'll pull away or why so I wait and watch. Gemini are so interesting and I think very misunderstood. I can tell they love very deeply when they feel it. I just wanted to know if that feeling is there when they are being distant and cold.

think of him as a spine. When there is a problem in the spine it tends to come from the central nervous system. The bones branching off isn't the problem...if a doctor tries to fix those bones...the problem will keep coming back.

His "issues" (bones branching off the spine) is not who he is. its a reflection of the "core" "central nervous system". His core spine is made up of seeking balance, novelty, maturity, to be respected and understood, to have good friends, good relationships. Then all this reflects into bad traits of the "bones" indecisiveness, moodiness, restlessness, unrelaible, etc

but then the latter part..they are loving and caring, compassionate!

that above right there is who they are.

So when he becomes distant, he may just be worried about work, friends, other life stresses. ALways thinking about the next adventure. then at the end of the day, if he comes back to you then you know 🙂 if they dont, then well ..u k now.

Posted by LolaBelle
I was wondering about the fleeting and fickle Gemini love. I??ve heard that their love is fickle and that when they are in love (real love) and they know it then they will show it to the person and most of the time be loyal to that person. On the other hand I??ve read that many people that fall in mutual love with a Gemini and are told that they are loved by that Gemini the love still at times fleeting and fickle. This would be due to the dual personalities I assume since depending on their mood swing or personality shift their feelings change. The complaints across the board are the same when it comes to Gemini love that the Gemini makes the person feel like unsure of their love, they never know how they will behave, they are ignored without explanation, they lie, they don't deal with emotional shows well. Love is the deepest emotion. Many people have the same experience with Gemini love coming and going. It may last years but the twin will come out and may not love the way the other does. Gemini??s say that when they love it is real but is it real for one of their personas or all? So that being said how can the love of a dual personality, fickle, emotionally uncomfortable Gemini that needs verity ever be a sure thing?

I have had experience with a Gemini male and he said he loved me. I didn't get that he didn't know how to be there for me emotionally when I needed him. It was hurtful but as usual I let it go. I gave him space. I rarely spoke to or saw him (saw him about once every two weeks and spoke 2 to 3 times a week through text) which made me feel like he wasn't even in my life. He would ignore my texts and calls often but I let it go. On the flipside he is so warm to me when we are together. He can be so sweet and intellectually deep so we talk about anything. I just can't always deal with his becoming cold and distant or ignoring me. Does this last forever? Will he balance out? I'm a Virgo by the way with a Gemini Ascendant. He is a Gemini with a Pisces Moon. Mentioned those because that seems to be why we don't clash as Virgo and Gemini tend to do. I like my space too and I am very understanding when he says sorry for anything I let him back in.
I would love to hear from Gemini??s who have been in real love what it was like and what complaints did they get from the person they loved.

Omg we have the same issues

Omg we have the same issues regarding dating a Gemini. He's sweet and makes me feel really special when we're together but apart sometimes I feel he's not part of my life. He would ignore my texts and calls but he initiates contacts. I give him lots of space then he comes after me and wants my attention. Once he has it, he pulls away. He pulls away but he always comes back. Sometimes I wonder how long I can deal with him. I feel like giving up. I did not talk to him for two days(my choice). He texted me,I didn't respond. A couple days later he sent another text wondering if I have forgotten about him. I responded.After couple of texts from him he stopped texting and left me hanging. So I finally told him I have a problem about him ignoring my texts. And of course, no response. It definitely feels like dating two different people. It drives me crazy sometimes but I always look forward to time I will spend with him. We always have fun times together.

I heart you candi3bb!!! Sooooooo true about not following their words. My gem would say something to persuade/convince me that that was actually how he felt...hahahaha, but his actions were pure emo mush. It's like if he would get mad at me, he'd say something to hurt me, then change it 5 minutes later, then show me how sorry he was verbally apologizing seldom, but he would always SHOW me to make it up to me. I told him that his actions don't meet up with what he says, lol.

You know how men would say "I love you" but they don't do shit to back it up? He shows me but doesn't verbally express it. It drives me crazy sometimes how he can be, but I'm a little nutty too so...I blame that on Gemini occupying my 7th house. 😛

You have to read between the lines of the lines with them & you're so right about that wit. Half the time I outwit him if we're joking & he goes back to being serious...hahaha. Those fucking Gemini men...I love them & I hate them. What happend with your gem Candi?

Posted by saggirlius


Omg we have the same issues regarding dating a Gemini. He's sweet and makes me feel really special when we're together but apart sometimes I feel he's not part of my life. He would ignore my texts and calls but he initiates contacts. I give him lots of space then he comes after me and wants my attention. Once he has it, he pulls away. He pulls away but he always comes back. Sometimes I wonder how long I can deal with him. I feel like giving up. I did not talk to him for two days(my choice). He texted me,I didn't respond. A couple days later he sent another text wondering if I have forgotten about him. I responded.After couple of texts from him he stopped texting and left me hanging. So I finally told him I have a problem about him ignoring my texts. And of course, no response. It definitely feels like dating two different people. It drives me crazy sometimes but I always look forward to time I will spend with him. We always have fun times together.

@Saggirlius I see the same thing all the time posted by women with Gemini men. I find it to be exhausting and unfair at times to have to deal with someone so difficult. Especially because they tend to move on quite quickly and brush off bad feelings so if you let him go he'll seem to not care and move on to other people. I realize that this is who he is and I know if I'm with him I'll just have to the ride on his mood swing roller coaster or leave. I often feel like giving up to. He is definitely the one that controls our contact and whether or not things go well between us. I wish many times that I never fell for him so I wouldn't be so torn and many times feel so hurt and confused. How long have you been with your Gemini guy?

Posted by MrDomino
So much for reading on a phone eh? Ha!

heh! i know the feeling..... lol!

Hey hon I'm a gemini dating a gemini, and I even have that same problem with him...but I'm pretty sure he has the same with me too. :p And whose not best to explain then a gemini herself?? 🙂 You have to understand not only do we have dual personalities, but our minds change constantly and different ideas on how to approach changes all the time...(you have to remember our brains are like the energizer bunny...it keeps going and going and going...and trust me it gets so tiring sometimes!)So I'm going to put it to you this way, one minute we say or do something out of anger, the next we realize what we have done and say sorry! the next were trying to show were sorry, and then...HEY! My favorite TV show just came on!...Yea there's no stopping us once our attention is turned to something else. Its like ADHD. Plus whenever something negative is going on (like arguing with our significant other) unless its serious like someone cheated or about to end it for good, we really like to say our sorry's and be done with it and move on to the next thing...like go finish a puzzle or watch a movie type deal.
We tend to also have hard time expressing our feelings such as feeling guilty, angry, or sad because we are constantly analyzing every single situation, action, and feeling, and a lot of times we do get over board.
Please be patient with your gemini and understanding. They are faithful partners when in love and we cherish the friendship we have with our significant other. 🙂 we LOVE love. lol

Thanks Cassibird89, I am patient with him and I'll continue to be patient because I know he isn't trying to hurt me. It must be tiring to have your mind going like the energizer bunny. I can tell he has a hard time expressing his feelings but he has come a long way with that in the 10 months I've known him.

@ LolaBelle..we've been seeing each other for a lil over two months. He sent a text message yesterday and we ended hanging out. I show him that I can ignore his text and not respond to him if I don't want to. He sent a text Monday night and I ignored it. I got pissed cause I sent him a text that morning and he didn't reply so I didn't reply to his text either. Then he sent another text on Wednesday worried if I have forgotten about him. He texted Thursday too and we spent time together..

Ignore his texts if he ignores yours. Give him a taste of his own medicine 🙂. I notice if I ignore him he gives me more attention.

That's good! Were all about changing and growing too! That is a plus.

@Sagittarius that may work for dating but when it comes to relationship not so much lol

Wow. Reading up on Gems, is kind of bitter sweet. I just recently started something with a gem and he sounds??_well??_just like me. I'm a Libra.

I like attention from my partner, but not too much. I'll never admit it but I enjoy missing my partner, gotta admit that once I finally get a call or text im like AHHhhh??_lol. Its like that with my gem. He's in a different state. So right now all we have is communication. I'm going back to visit in September for my birthday and I think we are both just bursting to see one another.
Anyway, I don't call him. He always calls me. I don't text him unless he text me. Its something my friends and fam having me trying with him because they all know I really like him but I have a problem with falling to fast, and falling for a guy that stays out of state before truly knowing him would NOT be a good look at all. Plus I have a tendency to be too sweet. So it seems to be working on him though.

Gemini's are very open and blunt if you ask me. You just have to ask the right questions and listen. Hear what they SAY, not hear what YOU want to hear and run with it. My sister whom is an Aries was married to a Gemini for yrs. He drove her nuts when they were younger because he honestly didn't know what he TRULY wanted out of life, he knew he wanted her but she began to smoother him, which caused him to push further and further away. So now she's coaching me to be as carefree, and fun and seemingly dethatched as possible with this gem. He has even openly told me that he will cut a girl off, if he finds out she likes him more than he likes her. He says he doesn't like wasting people 's time. So never let him know you're head over heels, even if he says it to you. Just say "aww, babe. You're so sweet. I like you too." And leave it!

Also I want to add, that by being a Libra I often have the same issues as Gems where people may take my words and run with them. As you may know Libra's are guilty charmers. Saying and doing the most to charm the pants off the one they like. Or you may not even be someone they truly like in an emotional way, they may make you feel its possible one day, when in reality you probably have zero chance with them in a romantic way. Yet they enjoy your company or whatever else it is that you bring to the table. With a libra, I always advise to NEVER go off of what we say, always pay attention to what we do. Same as gems apparently. Wow.

I guess I'm saying all this because it seems gems are just like us. Only they flip flop on a daily, where as a Libra can flip flop within the hour. One minute we could be feeling on top of the world, and the next we could think about something, or someone, or something small that we don't like or rubbed us the wrong way could happen, and bam! Our whole demeanor and attitude is different at that moment. No telling how long it will last. If it's a true Leeb we are definitely quick and determined to be happy again hopefully within the next hour again (see what I mean.lol). I'm excited about this gem. Maybe we can help each other, because I seek balance all the damn time, and it drives me banana's to where I don't want to be bothered until I find it in my life or at least within myself some days. My only problem is this damn Pisces moon, thats where the falling too hard too fast I mentioned earlier, comes from. But at least I know it's there so I can control it. I have more Libra and Leo in my chart. So fear of having a bruised ego if he doesn't keeps me from calling him and smothering him too much. I'd much rather he do it for me instead. Lol.

Posted by ALibra


Also I want to add, that by being a Libra I often have the same issues as Gems where people may take my words and run with them. As you may know Libra's are guilty charmers. Saying and doing the most to charm the pants off the one they like. Or you may not even be someone they truly like in an emotional way, they may make you feel its possible one day, when in reality you probably have zero chance with them in a romantic way. Yet they enjoy your company or whatever else it is that you bring to the table.

With a libra, I always advise to NEVER go off of what we say, always pay attention to what we do. Same as gems apparently. Wow.

"...Never go off what we say..."


No offence A Libra, just pointing out that to some people this is going to sound like lying.
A man (or woman) is only as good as their word.
If I say something I mean it. I stick by it. I expect the same courtesy in return, regardless of sun sign.

If I can't take someone at their word I am a bit lost.

But then again you ARE an Aries. Your going to say what you want regardless. lol, whether it sounds good, bad, rude, or sweet. If its the truth Aries is going to say it. Not saying that you are like this in particular, but most Aries i know do. You and I are night day. Two complete opposite poles of the zodiac. So i wouldn't expect you to understand what i meant, no offense. Blunt people, or people who are blantely upfront about everything normally dont.

Posted by ALibra
NEVER go off of what we say, always pay attention to what we do. Same as gems apparently. Wow.

I'd have to agree with this. The gem I used to date used to SAY so many things (negative) but showed me otherwise (positive). We'd fight, he say he didn't care, but his actions screamed you really hurt me. I can also be this way, when angry. I would scream one thing, but show another. I have alot of Libra placements so I feel you.

That's probably why I get along great with my libras. Lol they never question my motives and I don't question theirs. Plus my library ladies and I always know how to party lol

That's probably why I get along great with my libras. Lol they never question my motives and I don't question theirs. Plus my library ladies and I always know how to party lol

Scorpio lady here experiencing the same issues. I thought I had scared him away though after my emotional outbursts of frustration, but I think it intrigues him cause it's happening all the time, he apologizes for my frustration that he causes and says he is thankful for me putting up with him. He says for me to be patient with him which I think is a compromise for my emotional tantrums. oh and we aren't in a serious relationship. Sooo makes me more frustrated. He is afraid to commit, but afraid of missing out. He is so flip floppy.

Posted by lostinspace
Scorpio lady here experiencing the same issues. I thought I had scared him away though after my emotional outbursts of frustration, but I think it intrigues him cause it's happening all the time, he apologizes for my frustration that he causes and says he is thankful for me putting up with him. He says for me to be patient with him which I think is a compromise for my emotional tantrums. oh and we aren't in a serious relationship. Sooo makes me more frustrated. He is afraid to commit, but afraid of missing out. He is so flip floppy.

Well it sounds like you got a good one. Usually they can't admit to any wrongdoing on their part and the only apology you'll get is "I'm sorry you feel that way."

Posted by Wynter

Posted by lostinspace
Scorpio lady here experiencing the same issues. I thought I had scared him away though after my emotional outbursts of frustration, but I think it intrigues him cause it's happening all the time, he apologizes for my frustration that he causes and says he is thankful for me putting up with him. He says for me to be patient with him which I think is a compromise for my emotional tantrums. oh and we aren't in a serious relationship. Sooo makes me more frustrated. He is afraid to commit, but afraid of missing out. He is so flip floppy.

Well it sounds like you got a good one. Usually they can't admit to any wrongdoing on their part and the only apology you'll get is "I'm sorry you feel that way."

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O.M.G. Yes. I have heard these very words....when I asked about his dishonest pissant ratfink behaviour.
Another "No care and no repsonsibility" type. Man, these folk need to be weeded out😢

Hey hon I'm a gemini dating a gemini, and I even have that same problem with him...but I'm pretty sure he has the same with me too. :p And whose not best to explain then a gemini herself?? You have to understand not only do we have dual personalities, but our minds change constantly and different ideas on how to approach changes all the time...(you have to remember our brains are like the energizer bunny...it keeps going and going and going...and trust me it gets so tiring sometimes!)So I'm going to put it to you this way, one minute we say or do something out of anger, the next we realize what we have done and say sorry! the next were trying to show were sorry, and then...HEY! My favorite TV show just came on!...Yea there's no stopping us once our attention is turned to something else. Its like ADHD. Plus whenever something negative is going on (like arguing with our significant other) unless its serious like someone cheated or about to end it for good, we really like to say our sorry's and be done with it and move on to the next thing...like go finish a puzzle or watch a movie type deal.
We tend to also have hard time expressing our feelings such as feeling guilty, angry, or sad because we are constantly analyzing every single situation, action, and feeling, and a lot of times we do get over board.
Please be patient with your gemini and understanding. They are faithful partners when in love and we cherish the friendship we have with our significant other. we LOVE love. lol
^^^^I agree!! I am a gemini and I do things out of anger some times then Im happy again. Some times we do things and dont realize it. We have lots of energy and we are always thinking. My mood and thoughts change frequently. But when I love some one I love them! I give them my all when I care about them that much. Im not a cheater even tho I do mess with guys head a little. And I have no idea why. Its like I wanna see how mad they get. But I am also a happy hyper energetic person. I always keep them laughing. Until you do something that irritates me. Then instead of confronting and arguing I would rather mess with your mind and make you suffer. I know its bad. But thats the way I am