How to get your Gemini back ?

Hi Angel,
Obviously I am not a Gemini (or a guy) but I can definitely confirm that having a pre deployment tiff is totally normal although very upsetting because then you spend the whole deployment freaking out about the fight.
Possibly Mr Gemini has forgotten all about it. Try not to worry. Yes I know that is easy to say!! Lots of guys get weird like this before they go away... it's part of a coping mechanism. It's easier to leave if they are a bit cranky with you. Sometimes it's the wives/GF's who pick the fight. It sucks, but that's the way it goes.
He will be fine. Truly. And depending on what type of ship he is on and what job they are doing, yes the lines of communication can be dreadful.Subs are worse. He may get nothing, then a bunch of messages all at once. Are you able to set up a RECEIVED/SENT mesage on your email? Just so you know he has gotten your messages?
Are you sending to his private email or his on board email? Again, depending on his job, the official emails often go through the comms dept and not direct to him so go easy on him if that's the case.
Stay cool, you will get thru this. xxReally

Hi again,
Don't worry I am not a stalker!!!!
Just reading a few more posts as I try to figger out these Gemini Guys for myself.
I think we should start a Gemini Military Support Group!
Ok so your guy is a Seal. x3 what I said about the communication thing previously.
I had assumed he was a "normal" sailor (like there is such a beast!!) serving on a ship.
Your man could be absolutely anywhere so there is a major chance that he hasn't got any messages so don't fret about that.
If you have sent any grumpy messages I would try to recall them if possible or send some sweetie pie ones to cancel them out! He will need them and despite whatever happened when he left he will appreciate them immensely.
His job is so intense I would almost guarantee that his pre-departure meltdown has been long forgotten.

The genius that designed the human brain decided that it would be easier to go away for prolonged deployments if you were angry or upset with your loved one - not quite so heart wrenching (was this person a Gemini we wonder??)
So turning into a Cranky Confusing Nutjob before he left is A BIT more a military thing than a Gemini thing. Not saying that GemGuys can't be cranky confusing nutjobs but his profession unfortunately increases his natural nutcase potential.
So try to stop freaking out about it if you can. If you are upset or need to get stuff off your chest get on here and lay it on me - I know what it's like and you don't want to worry him about it.
He will be missing you and thinking nice things about you. I promise.
xReally

I dont know any gemini males but or all its owrth, as a gemini girl, I d say that
a. If you went all crazed about his not contacting you when you argued (how long did he ignore you for?) he probably took 10 steps back as we don't thrive on drama normally or appreciate scenes...if he was second-guessing the whole relationship thing which i suspect, he confirmed in his head his reservations...remember, we are hard to pin down, ad i hear males even more so (females can be pretty devoted and loyal once our heart is captured)
b. His going to the navy perhaps was a big, real issue and he figured it wouldnt work between you two if he s away anyways...perhaps he found a 'way out' by not having to confront you directly or have the 'talk' with you...he pretty much said you are not his girlfriend...now, i am not saying that u were delusional for a whole year if he treated you as a girlffriend (you dont offer many details) so I d say he blurted this to make the separation easier, with the argument as an excuse

Your not having heard from him in moths is pretty indicative IMO...I d suggest you move on, because regardless of whether the fight was a reason or a mere excuse, you got your answer since silence speaks volumes....

oh and about getting a gemini back (generally);
that s not so hard lol! if the separation was in friendly terms but if we are wronged/betrayed our Mercurian brain will device any sort of mental 'tests' to test the waters as gems don't commit easily anyways but once we do - at least the mature ones - are pretty much set and faithful/loving and reciprocate x100...

IF you somehow get back in touch (assuming he contacts you), be cool, polite and pleasant - you dont owe him an apology, he broke up with you abruptly and hasnt tried to contact you for so long...geminis secretly crave open displays of affection since we are not the best in that department lol! yet, and because of that, we are impressed with ppl who are more calm and collected/aloof than we actually are ourselves...(general gem attraction advice)

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having said that


i stick to my opinion that you should move on from this Gemguy...

sorry angel but the DOD will not give you any info unless you are fam or he has listed you as next of kin/emergency contact person,are you friendly with his folks or buddies? But that might make you feel weird if everyone thinks you guys had a falling out before he left.

I know it hurts. You have offered someone your heart - the most precious gift you have and now you are sitting on the floor picking up the bits that are left and trying to sellotape them back together.
Lilith is a Gem and says its all over and she obviously knows what goes on inside those Gemini heads..I have no idea what they are up to. They are like some weird drug that you know you have to quit, but you can't get hold of the antidote.

i don't know much about the seals, but I do know that wherever he is he is not sitting around playing chess or popping into starbucks to check his AOL account. If he loves you he will (I'm guessing) come strolling back into your life like nothing happened. Probably the day after you announce your engagement to a nice reliable fire sign.

I cried when you wrote I was nice, but if I really was nice, my Gem would be able to see that. See I got it bad too!!

Some unhelpful facts.... a Gem Airforce friend rang me about 3 weeks before heading out on his last tour and had me on the phone all night telling me how his family hated him and no one cared about him. (his family just think he is the greatest - he is all they ever seem to talk about. I seriously thought he was going mad, but I think they check that out before they put them on the plane)(you would hope so!)

Another Gemini guy told me in all sincerity that he was leaving his wife - this was pre Gulf War (Gulf War One, not the current version) and we are still waiting for the split!!

Helpful Stuff - you are gorgeous and any guy that lets you slip away is a bozo

where did the rest of your post go—? it was just getting interesting. I hate that