AnnaPhototaker
@AnnaPhototaker
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How would you react to this?
Well obviously the friend was hurt by the other person who she was friends with. The one who knew she was going through a bad time and chose to use hurtful words should have learned a lesson by this. Maybe the one that is hurt, just needs an apology,. The insensitive one should tell this friend that she is just not used to seeing her so down and acting this way. That you (or whoever) didn't know how to react to it so you ended up saying the wrong thing. Apologize and tell her you will always be there for her and it was just a dumb lapse in judgement. That it won't happen again.
Friendship is a two way street and it was pretty selfish of the friend not to support the other in a rough time, especially if they have supported you.
Friendship is a two way street and it was pretty selfish of the friend not to support the other in a rough time, especially if they have supported you.
When someone is going through a hard time they don't need to hear their friend tell them - "You know, it's really hard on me that you always need me and want to hang out with me." It's not a selfless friendship on either side- but I understand why your best friend would be hurt by you saying that. Although maybe you (or whoever the hypothetical person in this scenario is) didn't mean it that way, but it kind of sounds like you just told your friend she was being a pest.
I think... That maybe someone needs to understand a very basic principle.... Just cuz you were there for someone, out of your choice and free will, doesn't give the other person an obligation to do the same. I mean, whaf if said person wasn't built that way...? Would you force them to be a way they can't be....? This is when it's time to value a person for who they ARE. Not manipulate them into being someone they aren't.... Time to find a friend who can be that for the other.... I am a firm believer in how life paths cross and separate. Sometimes it's for a short term and sometimes it's permanent. *shrugs*
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