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hello everyone i have a big problem
I've read a lot about gemini girls and the "cat and mouse" thingy.. so there is this gorgeous girl in my college we study physics together, we both are fascinated by it, by cosmology, cool scientific things, explorations, we independently watched the same documentaries about conspiracy theories and we are both doing pre-med. and i just see myself in her, the tomboy thing does not bother me at all, she is always very nicely dressed - above average, we both like hookah, and both just stream to achieve and overachieve..

now my grandma is also a gemini and i am very close with her and i love her
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so now i don't know what to do, to play cat and mouse with her seems kind of dangerous because she doesn't know me that well, she doesn't know much about me, and there's a lot of things about me im sure she would like, she hasn't experienced my feelings towards her to want them back and chase after me, you know what i'm mean? so i really dont know how to get her after all. Should i just kiss her when im close and were doing something..because when im close it is SO hard to resist shes so gorgeous and smart, for people like her i would do literally anything, i know it sounds insane but i am a giver and id give anything as long as i felt that she is mine and i was hers
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Listen, wineaux doesn't know sheet. 😄 Coffee is just fine... for people who ride the subway to work and smoking hookah is bad for your health. Now ask her what she likes to puff on and sip on in the am.

Ok.....so......

When you ask her out.... I'd leave any of this out....

Posted by KingOfAries
he's always with her ugly ass girl friend with annoying voice, big boobs, and apparently doesn't believe in make up



I'd also, never, ever, ever say anything like that to a female, ever. You may like speak with males openly like that, but it's not kosher with the ladies.

Back to your question.... you are 19, people don't really ask each other out on dates at your age.... this I know. However, you need to make a gesture to let her know you are truly interested. If she's started really ignoring you she could be dating someone or interested in someone. You want to overcome that easily and quickly. If you just march up to her and ask her to do something physically with you there are a lot of reasons she could say no. Let's try a few things first that may not offer up as much instant gratification, but will be more memorable and will give you plenty of insight.

You said you both enjoy scientific type things.... why don't you download one and put in on a disc for her? Give it to her the next time you see each other and comment how you remembered your conversation and knew she would like it. Or maybe check out a book from the library and then loan it to her, tell her you marked an article in it with a post it that you just knew she'd enjoy (I may even write something darling on the post it, but we can chose what you do first and then decide that).

These are the type of things that show your interest, guarantee a conversation later and above all give her time to think (and if there is someone else compare you and reflect on how darn sweet you were 🙂 ).

It's too darn bad you hadn't come earlier because I'd say watching the shuttle take off on Friday would have been an excellent first hang out!

What do you think KingofAries?
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wineaux,
lol, she said she has 2 hookahs at her house, that would be nice but for that i'd need wheels and i dont have that to pick her up and take her to a good bar, that would be good though for like 2, 3rd date though, actually a good idea, but im not asking that for the first date.. the homework sounds good, i will have a chance on monday and saturday,

GeminiDahl,
that friend is always with her thats the problem and i dont wanna text her its kind of weird i tried texting her once but she was very passive i sent her 5 messeges she sent 2, the last tho i sent were - i asked her whether she watched the movie insidious but after 15 minutes of silence i started freaking out and texted her saying "sorry wrong IM"

When i get a chance ill ask her to go eat together or something, wish i get that chance ugh
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GemsRaGalsBestPal

i know i know its not kosher but she really is unattractive to me, and the worst thing is they are always together! loaning a book from the library is a good idea, always wanted to read about parapsychology - that would be a great topic to talk about, but again wish i could get a hold of her alone.. =[ oh and i just turned 19 and whenever her birthday is she will turn 21, however theres only one year difference between us in school she is junior and im finishing my sophomore year, im lower junior, i dated girls 2 years older not that big of a deal for me, and i love when girls show that they are smarter, as long as it doesnt make me look dumb.
the worst thing is that i just cant get a hold of her alone so that we could go eat or whatever and get to know each other, i dont have a problem what to talk about or anything its just the first moves are crucial
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Hmmmmm I worry that you may scare her off just trying to get an opportunity to get her alone to ask her out. I would find a way to get a few minutes alone with her the next time you see her so you can ask her to coffee. Even if you have to say, can I talk with you privatetly for a second? Otherwise she may mistake you trying to set up the perfect timing for something else and keep you a safe distance away.
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Exactly! It's not rude to look at her friend and say, "Could you excuse us for a moment."

Then you say to her, "Sorry, I hope that wasn't rude to ask your friend to leave, but I've been wanting to ask you.... *give it the brief pause of anticipation* Would you like to grab a coffee at the campus Starbucks? I've been reading this parapsychology book and it's really interesting, I'd love to get your opinion on it."


BAM!

You've not only asked her out, you've already given her an idea of what the date will be like.... thus relieving pressure and (because wineaux is right) giving her a chance to brush up on the topic.

I really think it's best to be really direct. Don't go with "coffee sometime" or leave it to vague. When I first hang out with someone I want the comfortability of knowing where I'll be and what his intentions are ahead of time.
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Geez, I feel differently about this approach. I guess I'll be in the minority. If I'm ignoring a guy with whom I used to have conversations, it's because (1) I'm attracted to him and am flustered (2) I've picked up on the fact that he likes me and am avoiding. That's where the famous cat-and-mouse thing comes from. The lack of interest in texting points to the second scenario. Asking her out point-blank will definitely let you know which it is, I suppose.

To increase your chances of success in asking her out, you might want to wait a little while while you increase your level of intrigue. If you keep courting her mind, like you have been, without showing huge interest in her as a female, that might do it.

If a guy I don't have an interest in were to suddenly kiss me, he would receive a blunt object to the head. You've got to be quite cool and cocky to get away with that one.

But since the other Gems think coffee is the thing, maybe it is.

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oh my god guys i love you!! 😄

GemsRaGalsBestPal,
that's an awesome idea, although im afraid she says something like "its okay to take my friend" the thought is awesome i might just as well use it

Whimsy,
so you think the fact that shes "avoiding me" is just a sort of defense mechanism? i agree it would be a good thing to wait a little and to, i guess, tease her a bit more
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Posted by KingOfAries
m afraid she says something like "its okay to take my friend"



She says that or you even suspect she is thinking that you say, "well, that's why I asked you alone... I was thinking it could just be us. *smile*

If she says anything at that point about another guy or not dating or anything in the genre, you say, "Listen, I respect all of that, that's why I am not asking to pick you up in a limo and go to a fancy dinner. *smile* Dating is complicated and can be messy, I was thinking we could hang out as friends, have some coffee, talk and get to know each other. Alone. With all that said, is it still an issue?"

If she says yes.... you say... "Cool." and then you either take them both or you move on.

Make sure to let us know how it goes!!!!
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Posted by KingOfAries
well i will look for a chance to ask her out for a coffee, when she is alone, because she's always with her ugly ass girl friend with annoying voice, big boobs, and apparently doesn't believe in make up.. ugh.. fine ill try and will keep posting




🙂 larfin......get a wing man to take care of the friend while you do the spadework with the GemChick.



Now I think about it, why don't you PM Metaphysical - he likes girls that don't wear make up. Problem solved.
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Im tuning in late but... I would say just be direct. I've noticed with myself.. guys who beat around the bush get a backseat.. guys who are direct and tell me upfront or at least act a LITTLE persistant about it.. I go with them.

Be a confident and bold aries, go up to her when you see her on her own and strike up a quick casual convo... maybe about an assignment "did you finish it yet?" etc etc and she'll follow the conversation, dont let the convo go on for too long, cut in and be like "are you doing anything later? Lets go have a coffee".

BOOM!
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GemsRaGalsBestPal,
thank you i really like that, it will make it impossible for her to escape, when i get a chance, when its warmer perhaps ill try to hunt her down ^.^

Norcalman67,
well i believe im not a fool lol there are bunch of topics of similar interest we could talk about, i keep comparing her to my grandma and our conversations were never ever boring, we always have mutual agreement and i always listen to her because shes usually right about things.. i just really want her to get interested, once thats done ill be set

roamingfree,
ha yeah i gotta take it easier because i do stress out over that girl -_-

nats,
its fine all are welcome🙂 yeah thats an awesome starter, thats how i got her to go to mcdonalds last time, but only because she was with like 2 other girls and we all sat and ate and talked about school i didnt get a chance to talk to her directly about personal you know? if i caught her like that alone im sure we would get a chance to talk, im just freaking out about her ignoring me now

Geminithefoxy,
thats what i do i say something silly and laugh and people laugh after me, weird, but somehow works



So now i kinda have an idea what to do, if i spot her alone its a random convo which will lead to coffee shop, if her friend keeps getting in my sight then i will politely ask her to roll away and will do what GemsRaGalsBestPal suggested.
If she agrees though and we do go for coffee and start talking about stuff, ill start asking her about her, her family maybe like sisters brothers what HS she went to, show off myself a bit - by the way how do you feel about guys showing off? i hate showing off but i love to share my experiences and it can seem like im showing off. After that is done should i do what? If she will be freaking out and i tell her that were just going for coffee as friends - i wont do anything extra after coffee and convo, If she agrees to go for coffee or if i catch her alone and we go for coffee, after convo been going about whatever, how should i get her to like me? just by being intelligent or flirty? or should i really act like i dont care?

by the way remembered the time when i did that homework wrong and we were waiting for in 4 people line to go to our professor and they were talking about test they all failed - i got B+- so i intruded in their convo, thats how we really talked for the first time, then i said i wasnt there about the test i was there about homework and she started explaining it
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with such excitement and it was really weird for me because we didnt really talk before and now she is acting sooo friendly, so she explained it to me, i got it, and stayed with them for 10 more minutes - just physics stuff, and convo we kind of mentioned some cosmos stuff and she got really excited and started telling me things, but then her annoying friend came out and we changed topic to some crap again, then in couple of minutes i left because i had to go to the library. and the thing is she was looking me in the eye, full attention, talking to me and looking me in the eye, and she smiled, and it was nice, thats when i actually started considering her, like few days after

ReallyNiceAriesPerson,
lmfao! i wish, if he lives in NYC then ill get him to get her awayyyy
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Posted by wineaux
pay attention to her eyes and if she fidgets. if her eyes light up and she gets excited while talking, take that as a great sign. if she starts to fidget and look in other directions, she's looking for a distraction.



thats exactly what happened, that first day and few other times she was all lightened up excited interested, and few last times including today we were doing some calculations and she never looked or if she did it was a glance, she was fully concentrated on the calculations though she had to hand it in in 30 minutes, but yeah, i dont think i need to watch out for that we have too many things in commong to have that kind of problem lol, i hope.
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If shes ignoring you and she was staring at her calculations MAYBE she has already got an inkling that you might be interested and she is just in the "watching" phase lol. OR she is completely NOT interested and is ignoring. At this stage its hard to tell. You need to make some progress!

Also you need to get in quick with her. With geminis its all about the perfect timing. The longer you leave it without making a move etc or showing SOME interest, she will move on (if she is already slightly interested). You cant wait with a gem for too long, we have short attention spans and move quick.

Seriously just go up to her when she is alone or interject into conversations with other people where she is also involved and keep it light and casual THEN when you see her walking alone or something be like "hey wait up!" and BOOM! take it from there!
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Posted by KingOfAries

Should i just kiss her when im close and were doing something..






Oh yeah, hard and with your tongue. And grab her tits too.

Gemini females love to have sex .. and they have next to zero standards.


Kiss her, grab her .... next thing you know she'll be leading you to a private place to have sex. You said you wanted her to be yours ... and she will, easily.
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Posted by nats
If shes ignoring you and she was staring at her calculations MAYBE she has already got an inkling that you might be interested and she is just in the "watching" phase lol. OR she is completely NOT interested and is ignoring. At this stage its hard to tell. You need to make some progress!





Yes, this is what I was saying.

You know, I think you might just pull this off, King of Aries. You seem to have the right kind of confidence.

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Posted by KingOfAries
well i will look for a chance to ask her out for a coffee, when she is alone, because she's always with her ugly ass girl friend with annoying voice, big boobs, and apparently doesn't believe in make up.. ugh.. fine ill try and will keep posting



Look for what chance? the more you hesitate/wait, the more artificial all is going to come across. Just make it happen, spontaneously..just like that. Dont overthink it. Just make it seem casual, you already like spending time with one another..so in a way you already have a bit of an advantage. Surprise her, no need for any more waiting.
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Posted by KingOfAries

Should i just kiss her when im close and were doing something..






Oh yeah, hard and with your tongue. And grab her tits too.

Gemini females love to have sex .. and they have next to zero standards.


Kiss her, grab her .... next thing you know she'll be leading you to a private place to have sex. You said you wanted her to be yours ... and she will, easily.
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Now don't get all tongue-in-cheek
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Posted by KingOfAries

Should i just kiss her when im close and were doing something..






Oh yeah, hard and with your tongue. And grab her tits too.

Gemini females love to have sex .. and they have next to zero standards.


Kiss her, grab her .... next thing you know she'll be leading you to a private place to have sex. You said you wanted her to be yours ... and she will, easily.



lol gemini females aren't that easy they loooove to tease. sometimes to the point where its like running on a treadmill after whom ever your going after. now pisces you just act all emotional like and you got them.
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That's true. They're like the girl in H.S. that everybody claimed that they fucked. Turns out, nobody did, and she's still a fucking virgin. Teasers, yup! But, when they fall, they fall hard, and fuck like crazy that one person.

Pisces on the other hand are a different kinda ho. Instead of sleeping around they marry or get into relationships with more people than they'd claim a Gemini is fucking. Just because you hide under the guise of marriage or a LTR, doesn't mean you ain't a ho. Just a ho with many relationships and many marriages. Liz Taylor anyone? Pisces women are easy, too easy. Gemini women, not at all. Well, at least the Pisces women I can be around for longer than 5 minutes have Aqua placements, so they aren't dense like the others.

What's funny is, I've seen men leave their girlfriends for Gemini women and the Gem didn't even know the guy was attracted to her. HaHaHa! Typical! He still never got in the panties. The rat should take solace in the fact that the men that dumped her for Gemini fems didn't get in the panties either. Pisces like the rat think that it's a good standard to only have sex in a relationship. 50 relationships is a lot of fuckin, don't ya think? 😉 That Gemini man broke it, now the Virgo man can't get it to work. HaHaHa!! Oy vey!

But, Pisces are always so obsessed with us once they've tasted us. Why—? My ex won't leave me the hell alone, either!! Delusion beings, aren't they? Bleh..
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Ooops messed that quote all up. I was trying to say I agree and my friends like to tease me and say I am the weirdest type of Ho they know. They have coined me the Cardinal Ho because while I make no excuses about loving sex, I don't sleep around. I would bet at 37 I have slept with less men than the people/person who wants to call us slutty names. Whatever. Sex is good and I am good at it too. Sorry for them if they aren't.
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KOA is bogus and this thread is also bogus...read from beginning. Another attempt for PA to dog GEms.



Honestly I can't keep up with who is real and who isn't so I just answer how I want no matter what. Their will always be someone who wants to poke at us but I ignore them and have my own fun with it.
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Exactly! Obsession, what a sickness. This isn't life. This is the internet, but for PA, it's a career.
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Posted by KingOfAries
well i will look for a chance to ask her out for a coffee, when she is alone, because she's always with her ugly ass girl friend with annoying voice, big boobs, and apparently doesn't believe in make up.. ugh.. fine ill try and will keep posting





You also tell her that ^^^^^^ just after the kissing .... tell her how much you can't stand her ugly ass friend with the annoying voice .... you'd probably get a really good blow job after she realizes that judgement you have for her friends.
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Posted by KingOfAries
well i will look for a chance to ask her out for a coffee, when she is alone, because she's always with her ugly ass girl friend with annoying voice, big boobs, and apparently doesn't believe in make up.. ugh.. fine ill try and will keep posting





You also tell her that ^^^^^^ just after the kissing .... tell her how much you can't stand her ugly ass friend with the annoying voice .... you'd probably get a really good blow job after she realizes that judgement you have for her friends.
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as much as i like sex, i am a respectful guy please stop posting here youre not being helpful, im not trying to screw her im trying to get her, if you bothered to read my first posts you would see that
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