Libra needs help with a gemini.....

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mai95
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Hi all,

I have a confusing situation:

I am 22. For the last few years I've been good friends with a gemini woman several years my senior (we're both queer women, she's in her 30s). Ever since we met, there's been chemistry and a very happy friendship, but she has been concerned about the age gap (with good reason), and so aside from occasional prolonged hugs, hand holding or drunken makeout sessions, nothing has progressed much, and we haven't had any physical moments in the last 6 months or so.

I have strong feelings for her, but am a little nervous about seeming to be unrelenting, so I don't contact her as much as I would like to.

However, she contacts me about once a month, and when I had a close family member die recently, she was there for me way more than I eexpected, insisted on spending lots of time together, kept checking in, told me to ask her for anything I needed, etc. Thing is, she is ivloved with someone else now (she confides in me too), and I found out their relationship is uncertain, but she does seem intent on staying with the relationship for now.

My issue is that I want her to be happy, and don't want to make her uncomfortable, but want to clarify whether she still likes me or not. It's been years, and despite other relationships, I can't get her out of my head. Any advice?
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As less tight ass Gemini I say go get her before she got married!

We also don't wipe tears of the faces we don't want to $ &&@@!

So I had lost a man who was 7 years younger just because I was stupid!

He is still not married.

I didn't want people talk...and eventually we both left the country. So there was no FB yet.

Tell her you understand her concern but you don't care! Hugs! And don't wait with sex or she will slip again.
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Posted by Gemitati
As less tight ass Gemini I say go get her before she got married!

We also don't wipe tears of the faces we don't want to $ &&@@!

So I had lost a man who was 7 years younger just because I was stupid!

He is still not married.

I didn't want people talk...and eventually we both left the country. So there was no FB yet.

Tell her you understand her concern but you don't care! Hugs! And don't wait with sex or she will slip again.
I've wiped the tears from lots of friends' faces that I wasn't romantically involved with. I don't think you can say this for sure.
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Not the formers almost boyfriends.

Friends I do to!
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The best advice i could give you is to: talk to her about it...

Usually, Geminis are quite receptive to communication. If you want to know something - don't waste your time trying to a read into a situation (to understand her current whereabouts), just ask and it's quite likely that - she will tell you exactly as it is (as she already did - about her current relationship). It's quite important too. You say you rarely talk this days - that you don't contact her as much as you would like to (only she does once a month), well... that's not a good sign - especially when it comes to a Gemini. With that move, you probbaly enforced her doubts - and gave her the wrong impression (that you don't like to talk to her anymore... and communication is a core necessity - while in a relationship with a Gemini). Either way, by the looks of it... you still mean something to her - you're still someone she sees as a close friend. If you want to know how she really feels - ask her.

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mai95
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Posted by littlenanobyte


As a Gemini, I feel very confident saying that we don't generally keep romantic feelings and urges repressed for years and years. I don't even think that we possess the attention span to like someone and not do anything about it for years, that just seems crazy and like a huge waste of time to me.
Posted by NotSoInstant
We tend to act on our feelings. We wouldn't let it rot and we are risk takers so I think age may not be the real factor here unless she felt very bad about it. Do you think she feels insecure about the age difference?

I would suggest speak to her openly.
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Well, obviously I can't say for sure, but the age thing has seemed to genuinely bother her--she is somewhat conservative, and has lamented the age difference quite vocally many times.

The other thing that makes me wonder is that most of anything that has happened between us, physical or otherwise, has been initiated by her, for years , due to my insecurity about the strength of my feelings (which probably wasn't the best move on my part). So in that sense, she has taken action, but stopped now, due to the relationship she's in.

I wouldn't even bring this up to her night now, seeing as I do respect her relationship and confidence in me...and if I were certain about her feelings one way or the other, I wouldn't have posted. But wouldn't it put her in an uncomfortable position to bring it up?? Especially after letting it sit from nearly a year.