need insight on what to do about this gemini boy.

SO, i spent a very long time typing out the way i feel about this gemini, how i felt the same way about a past gemini, how similar the two of them are, being that they're both very into drugs and very lost, but i just find that attractive because i'm someone that really enjoys fixing and helping people, even though i know hot bad of an idea it is because the first gemini boy turned out so bad but i just can't help myself.

so, even though things with the first gemini turned out bad he still texted me a couple months after asking me to forgive him and meet up and all this shit.

anyway, this new gemini boy, i met him because this one boy wanted to go on a date with me but i didn't want to go alone so i suggested me him my friend and his friend go out together. he brought gemini boy and we went bowling. when i first met gemini boy i was not attracted to him but we made eye contact and i just felt something instantly. as the night progressed i got more and more interested in him and more and more attracted to him and we were alone and he told me how beautiful i am and our convo got deep about ourselves and ended with us making out then the night ended with us sleeping together. things were fine for a while, and me and his friend remained friends, and his friend kept telling me how i'll never see gemini again, how he sucks and all this stuff, and i just took this as him trying to steer me away from him because he wanted me, i believed this because he told me how he will never give up on me.

anyway, i saw gemini at school (he's 20 and i'm 21, we go to the same college) and he came up to me and talked to me and everything was fine. the 4 of us hung out again that friday and drank and me and gemini slept together and he told me again how beautiful he thinks i am, and how he likes me, and begged me to help him in school and with his life and all of this shit and i just fell so hard into his stupid trap. i fell even harder the next day when he said how happy he was that i slept over and asked me to sleep over again that night. i texted him, he told me he has to wake up early the next morning and so he can't have me over, but he went out that night. i texted him again that week and asked him to hang out and he was so about it and we made plans then the day of they never happened. me and his friend became closer and went out to the bar together the next weekend, he pointed out 2 other girls he slept with, and one told me about how he sometimes pulls the same shit with her.

Then, today, me gemini boy and his friend all went out to the bar together. Gemini boy was talking to me as if nothing happened, OF COURSE, and asked me to hang out tomorrow and i told him maybe bc i didnt want to get my hopes up nor fall into his trap AND ESPECIALLY not let him think i'm falling into his trap. We actually had fun together. but i know thats how gemini men are. anyway, the point of this post is he wanted something from me tonight and i said no and he kept begging (it was not sex i am now smarter than that) and i kept saying no but the more and more i looked at his face the harder i found it to say no and i ended up giving in. SO, that leads me to some questions:

1. do gemini men have a certain face girls can't say no to?

2. does me being a leo have anything to do with that? i know we're compatible and that i just want to be with someone bad so maybe i'm just holding onto the small chance that we can be together?

3. how do i learn to say no to him? i really don't want to be into him but i can't help it but i just want to have the upper hand.

4. how do i know if he actually is into me? i don't think he is, i think its just a game, but i still feel that connection when i look into his eyes and it just makes me weak. and if he is into me how do i keep him?

5. am i just stupid and thinking too much into this?

please someone help me before i go crazy. i really don't know what to do.

If you sense red flags... listen to your gut

Posted by littlesnow
conceal your emotions until you know how he really feels

Agreed... meaning verbally or by actions as well?

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Posted by littlesnow
conceal your emotions until you know how he really feels

Agreed... meaning verbally or by actions as well?

Are you gonna conceal your emotions from the Gem you are dating?

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I think I'm going at a good pace... I'm affectionate but not mushy or clingy I guess.

Posted by NotSoInstant

Posted by Moonbutter

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Posted by Moonbutter

Posted by littlesnow
conceal your emotions until you know how he really feels

Agreed... meaning verbally or by actions as well?

Are you gonna conceal your emotions from the Gem you are dating?

I think I'm going at a good pace... I'm affectionate but not mushy or clingy I guess.

That's great :-) Hiding things or manipulating would back fire... At the same time, being too emotional too soon can backfire too...

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Yup... balance is key ?