Open Up!!!

My boyfriend (Gemini) and I had an argument, and I hate to leave anything unraveled. When I try to talk to him about it, he seems so shallow, doesn't talk about how he really feels, instead, he turns selfish, and acts like I am the one who done all the wrong. I'm like wait a minute, your silvertounged words, and careless gestures hurt too. Is this a gemini trait, how can I get him to talk?

Sorry I didn't mean to post this twice, I had typos in the first one.

He is 25, I am 27. We have been together 2 years this coming Jan 07'. The argument is a little more complicated, I myself am a single mom with 2 jobs, he has a job, lives on his own, but no kids, "free bird"! He tells me he is coming to see me early in the day, then calls at 11PM, wakes me up, to say he had company (some of his buddies) stop by and will be over after they leave, I say no, I am already in bed. He gets mad, and we argue about it, like I have done something wrong. He can be so inconsiderate sometimes, and it's like I can't make him understand that my life style is different from his, and I will not bend to his request at the drop of a hat, I can't. He doesn't act this way all the time, events like this are few and far between, usually he is very loving and considerate of me. I love him, and I know he loves me, I just don't know if I can hang in there for the long haul if this is always how it is going to be. Sorry if I have carried on and on.

how long has he been up to this, Piscgirl? how long do these periods of selfishness tend to last? i have a nagging suspicion that he's acting this way because he feels like a jerk. i think Gems tend to actually take their flakey missteps pretty hard, contrary to what some may beleive. i'd put money down that this guy feels like a jerk because he didn't come through for you and now is trying to alleviate the self imposed pressure by pretending it's not his fault, aka. covering it up by acting as if you've slighted him.
i did something like this to my husband last night actually. discussing some problems with my daughter, he presented some information regarding it (or at least a different interpretation of the info) to me that i had missed. i immediately bristled up...because i felt inadequate for missing this information in the first place. so after a few minutes of acting like a total jerk myself, as if what he had told me was stupid and wrong, i finally admitted to him that i was just mad because _I_ felt stupid and wrong. so i thanked him for the ideas, told him i'd try them out and then went off to sulk. once i was done sulking, i was able to go back and actually appologize for the way i acted.
perhaps this ties in with WheelHomies thread about admitting when we're wrong...

RainbowChaser, GeminiLover, thank you both for your insite and opinions, it was greatly appreciated. My Gem and I talked about a lot of stuff last night, and we realized there was more hurt feelings and misunderstandings that lay below the surface then we realized. The only thing that we agreed on, what that we did in fact love and care for one another very much, and wanted to be a part of each others life. We have decided to take a break for a little while, collect ourselves, and get our heads together then decide if we are going to stay together or go our seperate ways. So it is a matter of time, it heals everything, no matter which way it goes. Thanks again!