People who seek attention...

Anyone know someone or heard of someone using a friend's illnes/disease or death to gain sympathy?

I have a friend who uses her grandmother's death as an excuse as to why she's late for work or why she's in a bad mood. The friend was not close with her grandmother.. she met her a month or 2 before she passed. And by then she was in a home with Alzheimer's.

The same friend enjoys getting sympathy for my illness. I.e I have a tumor, nothing serious, but I told my friend, because I wanted someone for support if I needed it, and she goes up to anyone and says, "Oh my friend has a tumor. And I'm so upset."
What p's me off is that I didn't want a whole lot of people knowing because it's not a serious thing. But my friend insists on telling everyone and she get's sympathy for having a sick friend. But she honestly could care less about me which I don't mind..I'm used to being on my own, but if you care enough to act like your friend's illness is affecting you so terribly... don't you think you'd visit the person. See how they are, offer help, or even just give them company?

Clearly best friends can slip under the manipulation radar with me.

If I recall correctly, that can be a symptom of narcissism.

I read something about a situation very similar to that-- I'll see if I can find it.

Sorry to hear she's upsetting you, though.

i had a friend who actually lied about having a terminal illness in HS for sympathy. then the following week she was miraculously cured. sick.

and don't worry, you will find in the next few years what friends are worth keeping, and which ones your life is better without. you will be stronger for it. at least that was my experience in my 20s 🙂

Is this your same pisces "best friend"? the one that slept with your boyfriend?

I know a few like this... I just let them have their limelight!! 🙂 It eventually bites them in the rear.

For example: my cap son does it constantly! He's in his EARLY 20's and will go around to various family members about his "oh, woe is me". Of course they all call me to ask what's going on just to find out he put himself there!!! That's the issue now, but he will use illnesses, death of family members that he's never met before they passed, a gf's issues, or his sister's issues, etc.... Needless to say... He's burt bridges already.

*burnt

@camim20- yes this would be the same person. :/

I put up with more than I should. I don't think it's cause I'm weak.. I just think it's pointless to try to change someone/something you can't change.

But, you can CHOOSE who your friends are... You can CHOOSE to hang out/around with her or not...

I'm sorry, but you choose to keep her in your life... Personally, (based on this and the other post) IF I were in the same situation, I would have left both, my friend and my bf!

Damnata