Pisces man. Situation with gem girl

I am in a complex situation with a gem girl I have begun falling for big time. I am 31 she is a mature 24 year old. The situation is extremely complex. She has decided to just be friends because of the drama I've caused. I'm trying to break up with a girlfriend who is pregnant with our baby, and in a relationship that isn't ideal. Up until nOw we have gotten along well. I make her very happy, she likes our conversations but she is extremely typically Gemini.

So far me and gem girl have gotten along perfectly for the last few months. She became impatient with my situation and went away for a week, gathered her thoughts and decided 100% that she wants to be friends and once I've sorted my shit out that we can start fresh. I try not to let my emotions control me but I have really fallen for this girl, I care about her immensely and need to analyse the situation to work out what I should really do now.

Please fire away with questions And advice as long as you aren't going to be judgemental I would love to talk about this more.

Rx

Posted by capgirl75
Wow. I think she's right to be cautious. You impregnated this woman and now you're trying to break up with her. So 1) until you get that sorted out you are basically unavailable and 2) any woman would be thinking she could be the next one you do that to. Not judging you, that's just what anyone would think.

I think you should concentrate on this baby. No matter what goes down with the mother, you are going to be parents. You are going to be bound to each other for the next 18+ years. Take care of your responsibilities as a parent. You shouldn't even be thinking about dating right now. No matter if you guys are together or not, the child deserves a loving mother and father.

And this is the reason why I don't like Pisces. Always something F'd up going on in their lives. Way too much for me. I can't even believe you are trying to date someone when you are about to have a kid. You have responsibilities as a father. Instead of trolling our board you should be making plans on child support, etc. Dating should be the furthest from your mind. Damn right that Gemini won't date you till you get your life straight. What's wrong with you? No offense but you should know better than to approach a Gemini with your life all messy. We aren't here to be your therapist. She's too smart for that.

First of all I'm not trolling your board. I'm simply having a hard time with a couple of things in life and wanted to ask some advice. Money and child support is not the issue here. The mother and our baby will be taken of by me as long as im alive. Funny thing is the Gemini girl is a psychologist...

I have every intention to raise my child properly and she will not be losing either parent. I am willing to be 'single' for the time being but is this issue going to ruin any future chance with the girl who clearly has feelings for me now

It looks like my situation is not agreeable with anyone on this board? I don't want to leave her. We became very involved and close and that would hurt a lot. I do not want to throw away something this good.

She kissed me once on friday night after office drinks, we went out for dinner together, but nothing else happened. I try to avoid her at work because its a bit hard just talking to her as a friend. I will be working away soon, for a few weeks at a time, with about 9 days back home after each trip. I will pursue her but I don't know how. I don't remember having feelings like this for someone in the past, and I have had enough relationships to know.

As a gem here, if we say we should just be friends..we kinda mean it. We gems are blunt, yes we can change our minds, but our feelings for another person doesnt change so swiftly as our minds do. and us Gem females, we go by out gut more. Also you may tell her she wont have to deal with this drama again, but we dont like taking our chances, and drama is something we absolutely dont want to deal with. We like to keep our lives as light and happy as we can make it. Sounds to me you need to clear out your baggage before dating anyone and accept she is just wanting friendship and nothing more.

Are you French— This sounds remarkably similar to a situation a Gemini friend is involved in, she's older than 24 but she's also a psychologist. Perhaps you are changing the details to protect the "innocent"! small world!
My pal dated a French fellow who was working in the US, when his assignment was over, he went back, she didn't move to France with him, they broke up. On the rebound, he met a girl online and "oops" impregnated her within a month.
Since then, he has been trying to come back to the US to reunite with my friend. She refuses to be anything more than a friend, and a distant one at that. She won't get in the middle of the situation of Frenchie and his pregnant girlfriend, even though, as he says, they are not together.
Gems process mentally first. Even though she may have feelings for you, she will not let her judgement be clouded by emotions. Your Gemini girl has decided not to interfere in your situation, even if, it is, as you say, over between you and the gf. A wise decision, that I'd agree with.