Pisces w and Gemini m should I stay?

I am very much in love with my gem bf. He is very passionate funny loves to talk great sex and just makes me feel loved to my core and soul and has no problem expressing that too me. So here's the thing he has always said he wants a baby and wants to marry me but he's not ready financially and here is where we bump heads. He believes if he can't take care of me then we shouldn't live together or get married yet. But I'm like I work I'm supporting myself together we can do this but he keep saying he's not ready financially. My thing is I love him so much I want start our life together now. So now I'm growing feelings of rejection but I believe in my heart he loves me hell I can see it in his eyes. But as much as I love him I'm ready to leave...

I do see how I'm being selfish well more impatient because when I ask him how much time he needs to be financially ready he doesn't have an answer or plan.

I just don't understand why he keeps saying when he's financially ready what does that mean he has a good job hell a fairly new car actually he works two jobs so our time is cut between him working and needing sleep to function. So I told him we should live together so that way we have time together and he said OK but we keep going in circles about money . I understand as a man he wants to be the provider...but I'm ready for the home life the love is there but I need the home life that's how I function best I'm all over the place when he's gone

I had my Gemini friend pop up out of the blue. We once worked together and I helped him with his business by sending referrals and I even shared my space with him. He got scared and decided to move to Texas. I am not going to lie I may have had a crush on him at one time. We both work in same type of industry. Felt it would be a great biz venture together. I was annoyed because I helped him with contacts and promoted him and boom he decides to move. I was over it. Wished him well. I even told him hey I believe in you and the work you do. You can do this.

He all of a sudden popped back by texting me while I was on vacation talking about moving back.

So I tell him about an opportunity if he wants it...he than jumps down my throat and tells me he does not need the pressure already under pressure from his mom. So I tell him your life your career you do what's right for you.

I am at a point my career is booming. ...he needs me more than I need him. I am a little reluctant to do anything for him. Why the heck is he contacting me again?

I think just thinking sometimes with a gem guy they don't realize they want you until your gone and they don't know how to admit it but they want back in your life. I had a gem ex who just broke off contact them years later wanted to try again but I'm like dude I'm not the same as I was then....but him coming back to you does mean something because when a gem man is done they don't come back

Idk but trust me ....he is going to have to put more effort in growing his own career. I don't care how attracted I once was with him. I will help by giving contacts but he will have to do the leg work. I am not putting my reputation on the line for him to freak out and move again. I had been so supportive morally and with his business. I really was an awesome friend. I know he got scared. He even went as far as meeting someone in the middle of WA and thought about moving there. And they say pisces are wishy washy. lol So he is coming back to Colorado this weekend but he has a thing to learn I won't be his doormat.

I have worked hard to get where I am today. Just found it odd ....I almost feel like he sees my success and wants to ride my wave. I feel like he has a lot to prove to me.

@bella fish yes it would be best to keep career life separate he needs to find his own path and what works for him just be there to listen you can offer advice but I've found a gem is gonna do what they think in the end ha ha just be light and supportive and don't day I told you so with them lol

@tokerx yes we both are scared it would seem because I know how deeply he loves me and how I've come to love him I will wait but geesh how long will it take him to realize I'm not leaving. Its like he expect me to leave so he trying to keep some parts of himself at bay and then I think about leaving but nobody will have my heart like he does. I know the grass ain't greener. I won't leave I guess I just need to work on my patience which is hard for Pisces me because when I want something I want it now

My Gem was an workaholic who made a fortune. He didn't want to live with his then girlfriend, till she invented (?) a dangerous neigbor and a break in.

He didn't want to get married either, but he did so in his late 30ties, under pressure from his girlfriend of 5 years. He didn't want children, yet he's got two boys and is a perfect father.

My point is, instead of being with one foot out of the door, take an example from women who are much admired by Gems (aka Aries, Leo, Sags, Aqua) and put your foot down (and your overnight bag, then weekend bag, then a full truck load) into his door.

Hahaha I have a lot of sag in my chart and when I get fired up as my guy says he always laughs and doesn't take me serious but I'm sure these things will happen for us I'm just not patient not that he isn't worth the wait but yes maybe I need to put more fire under his are lmao

*butt

Maybe, focus on what you HAVE with him instead of what you don't have... If you've talked to him about it, and he knows, the ball's in his court. Maybe, what he's saying should be taken as just that. Respect his wishes. The more you push, the more it might not happen.

My response is not based on the fact he's a gem. It's based on him being human.

Posted by Karma_is_pisces
@bella fish yes it would be best to keep career life separate he needs to find his own path and what works for him just be there to listen you can offer advice but I've found a gem is gonna do what they think in the end ha ha just be light and supportive and don't day I told you so with them lol

KiP ....great advice. Thank you.

BTW girl I have a lot of sag in my chart and I seem to attract Gemini people in romance and friend relations. I have a sag rising and an aries moon. I am telling you I am more fire than water. Talk about raining on my own parade. Ha!!

I think me wanting to help is in my nature. When I see potential in someone I am the biggest cheerleader. I need to remember I am not here to fix anyone.

KIP probably why you and I attract Gemini ....sag is Gemini opposite. One of my most special friendships / relationship was with a gemini. He got married to another pisces.

Yes its like they see the fire in our eyes lol chart. But this is my second Gemini the first one was 10 years ago and crazy lol but this gem is different he made me believe in love again he really stable mentally and very affectionate and loving he has a cancer moon and Venus in Taurus he is really like a rock but he has a lot of Taurus in his chart may be that why he moves slower than I want...but gem and pisces most def work I'm not compatible with any of the signs I'm supposed to be with

Awww that is really sweet KIP. I hope things work out for you and your gemini. You sound like you really care for him. I would love to have a romance where someone made me believe in love.

Well I didn't realize how much he loved me at first...but as time went on I realized when I would throw tantrums lol he would calmly talk me down he was just really stable. He definitely calls me on my butter but that because he loves and wants to correct what's wrong. Most men just play games and never really care to fix anything. He has always been like a rock always been the same. When I fear something I go in my shell and cry but he has taught me to speak what's wrong. One thing I can say is love does exist we just aren't meant to love everyone we trunk. Just give it time you will believe in love I hope you do. Just take things slow...its crazy I keep reading these threads about gem being flighty and disappearing and I'm like is my gem a gem lmao but yes his bdy is may 26 and I'm mar 12. Heaven only knows why but it can work.

We've been together a year I am 32 and he is 44 I'm sure it has to do with my biological clock to an extent and maybe I'm being Pisces clingy lol but I try to balance that by giving him lots of space and he always comes back so its just balancing his wants and my wants. He does try hard to please me and when I see that it makes me more secure to let him have his freedom gems need to be in everything lol idk how he does it hahaha. When I was younger I thought love was that person always being around like suffocating but now that I'm older I realize when a man really loves you he will come on his own. So my advice is find a mature Gemini and it can work. They are mental so that does help because they are honest and if you listen they tell you what's wrong so both can work in it. A man will make mistakes but a wise man will correct them ya know. But he keeps saying I haven't met the bad twin yet ‚‚‚‚

So I talked to Gemini this morning. So the purpose of him wanting to get a hold of me is more of he wants to just see me and talk. So he will be in my area after Tuesday. We talked career stuff but I think he wants to find his own way. He does miss Colorado, nature, and his friends. So I guess I need to just back off on wanting to help. I will say this much, he does sound better before he left. Lots of growth for him. Yay for him!!

OK that sounds good yes definitely be a listening ear they love that. One thing they are good with keep their emotions in ...if that makes since....but if he calls to talk that means something....just keep it light and welcoming ... Its sounds promising...cuz when a Gemini done you will know

Posted by Karma_is_pisces
OK that sounds good yes definitely be a listening ear they love that. One thing they are good with keep their emotions in ...if that makes since....but if he calls to talk that means something....just keep it light and welcoming ... Its sounds promising...cuz when a Gemini done you will know

We are just friends. :-)

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Update me and Gemini broke up. I believe we love each other but our relationship is stalled and he refuse to compromise I thought gems were mutable. I guess his past hurts is making him mess up his future with me. Its hard but we just not compatible for long term

Posted by Karma_is_pisces
Update me and Gemini broke up. I believe we love each other but our relationship is stalled and he refuse to compromise I thought gems were mutable. I guess his past hurts is making him mess up his future with me. Its hard but we just not compatible for long term

Oh doll face...I am so sorry. 😢 I just started reading about venus retrograde. Not a time to make any long term committments. This is also a period for those relations that are not strong to fall apart. I wish I would have known this when we first started this conversation. Maybe because you pushed that button maybe he feels like he could not give you what you wanted and let you go.

I am a person who believes there are no accidents and this happened for a greater purpose. If the love is true I believe he will be back. Gemini tend to do that. In and out of your life. I had one come back almost 10 yrs later.

Do something good for yourself. Take care!!

I have to get my happiness back on my own. I was looking for him to fill a void I have to fill myself. But no worries this too shall pass. I understand he couldn't go deeper with me. Can a zebra change its spots of course not. I just need some healing time

Posted by Karma_is_pisces
I have to get my happiness back on my own. I was looking for him to fill a void I have to fill myself. But no worries this too shall pass. I understand he couldn't go deeper with me. Can a zebra change its spots of course not. I just need some healing time

You defiantly deserve to be happy hun!! You got the right attitude. You are a pisces you got this.....rise above. I will be your fellow cheerleader. Beautiful nurture your soul with music surround yourself with beautiful things. Pamper yourself with spa day.


I will say this much this beotch venus retrograde. ....let's you see very clearly the other person. Good and bad.