Sag female needs help w Gem man

This is my first experience ever dating a Gem man! I have always went for Virgo or Leo. I honestly can't tell if he is a player playing me or what? I need help understanding if he is, advice would be most appreciated.

He and I really hit it off. We are both successful in business which keeps us both extremely busy. Up until this week, he was calling constantly and texting constantly, but after our last date on Sunday that has changed. As he left Sunday night, he asked me out for Tues but I just couldn't go due to business reasons. He says he text me, that he had an amazing time that night but I didn't get the text so didn't respond. Just left it as to see him that week. No texts and no calls, so I text him. He has continued to text all week, just not as often. He did ask about Thurs night but I couldn't make it either. In my field, the end of the month week is crazy. He text me last nite, alittle before 9, said he was putting kids to bed had to get up early, asked what I was doing, then said gotta run. This is a man who hires a babysitter when having his kids to go out after they go to sleep, we have done this. Noway is he going to bed at 9, just noway on a Friday night. I think he is seeing someone else and she is getting the attention he always gave me. He did ask when I could come over this week, and so no weekend time at all this weekend. So now I think he thinks I am just some guaranteed booty call! Is he playing me and doesn't really care about me other than a booty call? Do Gem's do that?

Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

How do come to that conclusion based on those actions? lol
My experience with Sag. girls are that they will often start talking and then get themselves worked up/get angry over something they've just said. Deep breaths. 🙂
You shouldn't just start assuming all of these things

Actually, this is what I needed someone to say I was overreacting to these things. I am the type of Sag that needs space but I also need contact, as in calls not just texts. There have been times when he was smothering me, but that changed to the exact opposite. But he did contact me today just to say I hope your having a great day, then disappeared again. So it makes me feel like I am a booty call or something. But thank you very much for your comments. And I guess your right, cause my last boyfriend was a Virgo, and he cheated and lied. And the one thing I don't want to do with the next guy(s) is have that hurt go to mistrust for them. Cause I don't get jealous, I am just a truthseeker. I want the truth regardless, can't stand lies. I need my "me" time as much as any Gemini.

I asked him to help me understand his schedule so I could rearrange mine so we could have more time together. He was very vague about it. That bothered me cause my experience with child custody is not vague, the judge makes it very straightforward to not cause any issue. But I am trying to adapt my schedule to his schedule when he lets me know his schedule.

Again, thanks for your help. I needed to hear this, really I did.

Well, took your advice, he asked me this weekend about tonite. I totally rearranged my schedule with my business and was going to let a few things go and work harder the next day, guess what? He cancelled. Some bs about exwife not picking up the kids after he had them all weekend. Noway, they have joint custody. Its all just bs. I work in the legal field and know that is pure bs. Unless an extreme emergency, they must keep to the schedule. Oh well, chalk it up as lesson learned I guess.

he's seeing how you will react. You blew him off, he took some steps back, now he is doing the same what you did to him, and will evaluate if you are worthy of his time based on how "you" react. We pick apart everything. If you go all crazy on him...haha IDK he may or may not like it. I'm going through this with a gem guy now but now I see it as a game of tag...fun stuff cause I really like him and its challenging, fun, finally...game on 🙂

That may be the case with him, but I am done. Honestly, I don't have time in my life with my business and stuff to deal with those type of games. I am straight forward an completely honest as to how I feel and can't stand games. I feel that is what he is doing "playing games with me" as he chases other women. I was worth his time. We could have been great together, but I can't handle the game bs. I enjoy a challenge in a man, but I don't have time to chase them. All the men in my life men have chased me, and I guess I am spoiled by the ones who chase me. They always catered to whatever I wanted. So yes, I got spoiled, but I always got smothered by it eventually and moved on. He doesn't do that and thats probably why I am so drawn to him. But I still need time with him, and I rearranged my time and he blew me off. So its over in my opinion. And I am sure in his as well.

He wants to see if you react negatively or if you go with the flow! These aren't really games, he is testing what kind of person you are. But if you think he did you wrong go ahead and be like every other girl who is unstable in relationships...b*tch, whine, and cry. He's already got children why would he want to deal with another one?
Timing isn't always right but if you act out and can't let that go maybe you need someone else to "cater" to you. Personally, i couldn't be with a guy that catered to me...i'd wonder if he still had his manhood.

Do you even know he is chasing other women? Or maybe he is just busy or hurt that you didn't have time for him.

Just my opinion, I know nothing about you or him...so this isn't a personal attack or anything; just personal opinions from experience. There a right and wrong person for everyone, much love PM Sag girlie 🙂

Posted by PandorasMystic
That may be the case with him, but I am done. Honestly, I don't have time in my life with my business and stuff to deal with those type of games. I am straight forward an completely honest as to how I feel and can't stand games. I feel that is what he is doing "playing games with me" as he chases other women. I was worth his time. We could have been great together, but I can't handle the game bs. I enjoy a challenge in a man, but I don't have time to chase them. All the men in my life men have chased me, and I guess I am spoiled by the ones who chase me. They always catered to whatever I wanted. So yes, I got spoiled, but I always got smothered by it eventually and moved on. He doesn't do that and thats probably why I am so drawn to him. But I still need time with him, and I rearranged my time and he blew me off. So its over in my opinion. And I am sure in his as well.

What if he telling the truth? I used to talk to a sag girl that would always cancel on me and claim work. So i stopped calling and texting and she had the paper nerve to be mad at me about it. To me it like what the point? When a person constantly canceling on you it doesn't seem as if they interested. As far as i know and what you put, you mad he canceled on you one time compared to your several times.

Also i have always ended up like a sag. The thing with them is i always get the run around. We have a bunch in common and are always close but when it comes to a relationship i get the run around. Usually it us guys that do the run around. Lol

Yes, there were 2 times I had to cancel but technically, I did not cancel, because they were not planned times as this one was. And he gave up long before I did it appears.
I am being completely honest on here about the situation cause I wanted everyones honest opinion. It is the way I am. Mine were stickily business reasons, unlike his reason. I was free all weekend, he had his kids. I understand and respect that. However, now his kids will be there all this week and weekend. Which was not the situation before at all. It seems very convenient to me.
I can't prove there is another woman, but my gut says that with all the changes in contact there very much is someone else he is after (seeing) however you want to define it. My gut feeling is generally always right, it has been trained to be right in the profession I am in.
I am not giving up afer one attempt, there have been others. And this same thing seems to happen, he uses the kids as an excuse. These aren't small children. Don't get me wrong, I admire his drive to take care of them and be there for them no matter what. Actually, I encourage that of him. I just don't like banging my head on the wall for no reason and that is how it feels. If I felt there was a chance and he was as into me as I am him, then I would never give up. I would look over the crazy things that appear to be lies to me. But my gut won't let me.
And I did let him know that I rearranged my schedule for him. He didn't appreciate that at all. I let him know that I would in the future arrange it to fit his schedule with his kids. No response from him!
I have not heard from him since, so there isn't another chance even if I was willing to overlook this issue with no time for us.

I take the part back about the no contact, I got a text on my phone that I didn't notice from him. It came thru at 20 till 10 last night. "what u doin" is all it said. This is not how he talks. Not at all...

"Hate to say it, but you still think it is all about you. These previous guys must have made it set in stone. You are trying to put yourself above his children, while not putting him on equal ground with your own life. He has a life to, and it doesn't revolve around someone that isn't apart of the family. His kids are much more of a priority then a chick he is dating.

He didn't appreciate you making time for him, are you sure? Half the stuff you have been posting have been all based on assumptions. But whatever, things are done, and I don't think you two would work out anyways."

I did not intend to make it all about me. Honest, I did not! I encouraged him to put his children first. I swear I did! I even told him until we were serious that I shouldn't meet them. Because my parents were divorcred while I was very young, and my father drug me thru all his gfs. They were nice to me but still I didn't meet the ones who were fly by nite type girls. And I think thats best for the kids, and he agreed. I do put him on equal ground, he has a career that is as busy as mine. But I guess I don't come off to you guys as that. Nothing I can do but say I did those things. I only gave you the things I had issue with. We had alot of the same values as far as family goes.

Yes I am positive he didn't appreciate me making time for him. If he had said that to me, then I would have thanked him for doing that for me and did my best to arrange a time even if later in the evening.

I asked for your opinion, and I respect that. Thanks for all your help.

"I agree with yo Domz. It looks like it's all about her. Her actions are justified but not his. You mentioned in a post that you are spolied, that guys chase you and this guy is not chasing you and I think that's what is bothering you.

Good luck anyway!"

Yes. I am aware that is what is bothering me. Honest I am! I am very aware of that being a flaw of mine. I need to work on changing it. And I have been trying thats why I changed the type I normally date.

One assumption after another.
And a Gemini will only chase for so long
If he's not worth the extra time then oh wells.