What do you think of this gemini

Im libra female with ongoing 6yrs relationship with gemini guy. Been together 2yrs onsite then he went abroad til now. He got married when we lost communication probably i say on our 3rd yr. then got intouch with him after a week of his marriage. Now he is having a 2nd baby of his wife but wont give up on me. Im so desperate of breaking him up. Well told him many times that i dont want it anymore but he wont let me go. Anyway, they are now in good terms with the wife. The wifey is scorpio- from his description shes frustrating, demanding, controlling...

How do i break up with this guy? Its hurting me alot. I accepted the fact that he got married and his 1st baby with tthe wife. But i cannot accept his having a 2nd baby. He was like a wanna have a baby with you. I wanna take care of you. I love you. I dont want my wife anymore. We will figure out things like we do always.

Help here!!!

Posted by sweety0003
Im libra female with ongoing 6yrs relationship with gemini guy. Been together 2yrs onsite then he went abroad til now. He got married when we lost communication probably i say on our 3rd yr. then got intouch with him after a week of his marriage. Now he is having a 2nd baby of his wife but wont give up on me. Im so desperate of breaking him up. Well told him many times that i dont want it anymore but he wont let me go. Anyway, they are now in good terms with the wife. The wifey is scorpio- from his description shes frustrating, demanding, controlling...

How do i break up with this guy? Its hurting me alot. I accepted the fact that he got married and his 1st baby with tthe wife. But i cannot accept his having a 2nd baby. He was like a wanna have a baby with you. I wanna take care of you. I love you. I dont want my wife anymore. We will figure out things like we do always.

Help here!!!

You have got to be kidding.... You shouldn't be thinking about him, never mind asking anyone else what they think of him. If you must, look what he has and you don't. It had to take a 2nd baby for what? Stop listening to him and your feelings cause neither are working for you. Sorry.

Posted by sweety0003
Im libra female with ongoing 6yrs relationship with gemini guy. Been together 2yrs onsite then he went abroad til now. He got married when we lost communication probably i say on our 3rd yr. then got intouch with him after a week of his marriage. Now he is having a 2nd baby of his wife but wont give up on me. Im so desperate of breaking him up. Well told him many times that i dont want it anymore but he wont let me go. Anyway, they are now in good terms with the wife. The wifey is scorpio- from his description shes frustrating, demanding, controlling...

How do i break up with this guy? Its hurting me alot. I accepted the fact that he got married and his 1st baby with tthe wife. But i cannot accept his having a 2nd baby. He was like a wanna have a baby with you. I wanna take care of you. I love you. I dont want my wife anymore. We will figure out things like we do always.

Help here!!!

Sounds to me that it already is broken up, you just never had the closure you needed to move on your own way. While I can see where he comes from saying things such as "we will figure it out," there is really nothing more to figure out. He made his bed and now he needs to lay in it. Sucks to say that because I would take my Libra any day over a Scorpio (he sounds nuts for choosing her over you) but with things being what they are and the fact that now there are children in the equation these really are things he should have considered before he went as far as he did with her.

The only thing you can really do is be the bigger person and talk to him maturely about the situation. He needs a reality check. Whether he decides to make things work with her is completely up to him, for the sake of saving his family. But you need to do what is best for you and not dwell on it. The way I see it, if someone were serious about me, they would have never married and had kids. They would have waited for ME. He did not wait for you so it's time you stop waiting around and make yourself happy. It's only fair.

Posted by gemeliorist

Posted by sweety0003
Im libra female with ongoing 6yrs relationship with gemini guy. Been together 2yrs onsite then he went abroad til now. He got married when we lost communication probably i say on our 3rd yr. then got intouch with him after a week of his marriage. Now he is having a 2nd baby of his wife but wont give up on me. Im so desperate of breaking him up. Well told him many times that i dont want it anymore but he wont let me go. Anyway, they are now in good terms with the wife. The wifey is scorpio- from his description shes frustrating, demanding, controlling...

How do i break up with this guy? Its hurting me alot. I accepted the fact that he got married and his 1st baby with tthe wife. But i cannot accept his having a 2nd baby. He was like a wanna have a baby with you. I wanna take care of you. I love you. I dont want my wife anymore. We will figure out things like we do always.

Help here!!!

You have got to be kidding.... You shouldn't be thinking about him, never mind asking anyone else what they think of him. If you must, look what he has and you don't. It had to take a 2nd baby for what? Stop listening to him and your feelings cause neither are working for you. Sorry.

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This is true and the fact that you were in a relationship with him for six years and he threw it all away I think speaks volumes of where his head is really at.

Do you mean "How do I BRING MYSELF to break up with this guy"? Because the actual act is quite easy if he's long-distance. Just don't respond to him.

Posted by gemguyaz34

Posted by sweety0003
Im libra female with ongoing 6yrs relationship with gemini guy. Been together 2yrs onsite then he went abroad til now. He got married when we lost communication probably i say on our 3rd yr. then got intouch with him after a week of his marriage. Now he is having a 2nd baby of his wife but wont give up on me. Im so desperate of breaking him up. Well told him many times that i dont want it anymore but he wont let me go. Anyway, they are now in good terms with the wife. The wifey is scorpio- from his description shes frustrating, demanding, controlling...

How do i break up with this guy? Its hurting me alot. I accepted the fact that he got married and his 1st baby with tthe wife. But i cannot accept his having a 2nd baby. He was like a wanna have a baby with you. I wanna take care of you. I love you. I dont want my wife anymore. We will figure out things like we do always.

Help here!!!

Sounds to me that it already is broken up, you just never had the closure you needed to move on your own way. While I can see where he comes from saying things such as "we will figure it out," there is really nothing more to figure out. He made his bed and now he needs to lay in it. Sucks to say that because I would take my Libra any day over a Scorpio (he sounds nuts for choosing her over you) but with things being what they are and the fact that now there are children in the equation these really are things he should have considered before he went as far as he did with her.

The only thing you can really do is be the bigger person and talk to him maturely about the situation. He needs a reality check. Whether he decides to make things work with her is completely up to him, for the sake of saving his family. But you need to do what is best for you and not dwell on it. The way I see it, if someone were serious about me, they would have never married and had kids. They would have waited for ME. He did not wait for you so it's time you stop waiting around and make yourself happy. It's only fair.

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Yup...and I only know a few libras...

Thanks for the comments. i dont know how to break up with him. I did break him up many times but when he started begging i just cant. Im too nice not to respond to his messages. I just wanted to be friends and he doesnt want it. Well, i can play along. He is allowing me to date. Of course, he just cant decide with that. Its unfair! i cannot find a man if the situation is like this. My energy is all scrambled. It doesnt attracts. thats my solution no.1. Or moving out of the country. i am planning nextyr. Atleast i will loss contact with him.

Ugghhhh. If only you can tell him. I really really love him. ž

There is nothing wrong with telling him you love him. But you really need to put the ball in his court and just move on, at least for now. If he comes around later after he figures out what he's going to do then so be it. That's up to you. Nobody here can really advise you in that sense because ultimately you Leebs have a way of doing what you want anyway. That's true love unfortunately. It may or may not work, but regardless, now that he has had kids with her, it will NEVER be the same and she will be a part of his life regardless and that will too, put emotional stress on you, so remember that.

Posted by Lust
Delete him permanently. He is full responsible for the sperms that he's been donating to people. Granted that this girl happened to be his wife now, that should be enough of a closure for you to move on.

Wipe your tears, then go to a park and scream laud to get rid the negative energy inside you. Then go to places where there are lots of hot people. You have so much to offer, do not let anyone take you in a free ride. There is a guy out there, waiting for a girl like you. You just have to find him.

lol...too funny.

OP, you aren't that weak so stop telling yourself that. Oy. As Gemguy said...he made his bed....leave him too it.

As you are having trouble thinking of yourself....then think of his kids. They are the ones that are important now. Even if his wife is controlling and miserable, it's up to him to do something about it. What are you going to say when child #3 comes along? Does it matter at this point if he is "trapped"...

Go live your life as he is living his....he has his kids to make all the unpleasantness of his scorp wife bearable or else he wouldn't still be there.

Just to entertain your so called dilemma...what if he did come to you and had to leave his kids behind (evil scorp cannot be civilized and will try and make life worse for everyone involved forever, very destructive entities)...do you think he would be happy not being able to be with them even on a part time basis...would you feel better knowing that he is with you, but missing his kids. Because if he had put you above all else he wouldn't be where he is right now, which is STILL NOT WITH YOU. Hope you can move on....I've had to and I'm sure as hell know that it's possible. Good luck 🙂