What is the deal with my Gemini ex-girlfriend?

i am a cancer man. my gemini girlfriend broke up with me 9 months ago. we were together 2 years. i still love her. she still texts and calls me every day and we still see each other. we don't have sex as she is a virgin but she still lets me love on her much like when we were together. the other day before i left our "undate" she was lying on the couch on her back and asked me to hug her goodbye. so i mounted her and eventually i just sort of started kissing her and then she reciprocated. it got kind of hot. first time i have kissed her since april of 2011. i cant figure her out.

any of you gem girls got any ideas? i dont know if she just uses me because i am the one who always drops everything to talk and text with her and she likes the attention i show. she knows i am basically wrapped around her finger and i will always come hang with her if she isnt busy doing something better. i say this because if she has plans, she doesnt really pay any attention to me. also, i know she has "talked" to a few guys since we broke up. she seems to get these little momentary infatuations with other guys where she seems to focus on them and texts and internet chats all hours of the night and so forth. a few times she has suddenly started exhibiting an obvious lack of enthusiasm in her interactions with me or had very little interaction with me out of the blue. short answers. bland phone calls. no emotion. just coldness. i know right away it is because she is wrapped up in someone else so i ask her and she confirms it. one turned out to be a dork the other was a scorpio she met at a wedding party. he facebooked her and started chasing after her and she was all excited until she found out he had a girlfriend. mind you as soon as he showed interest in her i become completely insignificant. suddenly it was "i dont think we should hang out anymore" etc. i got pissed and told her i was gonna whip his tail, then i stopped talking to her. one day she texted me a few times and then randomly tells me the dude had a girlfriend. she was basically saying "it didnt work out so now i want you to dote on me again." so obviously since all of this i have kissed her and we have been talking and "not dating" but getting together. what do i do?

Don't be a sucker

im going to assume that since you came here and posted this, you really do want help in order to change. so with that being said, lets get down to business.

first off, get some fucking respect for yourself. are you aware that there are tons of womanly woman who would adore the love and attention you give? this girl is USING YOU . this is NOT okay.

second, drop this girl like a dump after thanksgiving dinner. you'll be dumbfounded at what she does next. the rest will be up to you, but make sure you get it right this time.

Posted by westside
im going to assume that since you came here and posted this, you really do want help in order to change. so with that being said, lets get down to business.

first off, get some fucking respect for yourself. are you aware that there are tons of womanly woman who would adore the love and attention you give? this girl is USING YOU . this is NOT okay.

second, drop this girl like a dump after thanksgiving dinner. you'll be dumbfounded at what she does next. the rest will be up to you, but make sure you get it right this time.

Lol good advice

Cancer men are the sweetest. Give your love and adoration to a women who truly deserves it

Hi CrabbyAppleton.

you need to become unavailable ASAP. show the gemini what kinda man you are. for serious. she is going to be hit with the confused stick, then she is going to realize what she lost in you and you're gonna see her pleading and desperate for your attention again. That is, if she liked you to begin with. if she really really doesnt care about you at all... then she's gonna want you back but then she will be indifferent again. so your play. But she sounds immature so just let her ferment for a bit, you should go do your own thing ok.

thank you all for your replies. essentially it is my choice to communicate with her and see her so i can't really blame her, which is how she manages to keep a clear conscience about all of this. i have told her i cant do it anymore, but i always break down. her response is always an "okay" and then i worry that she really is fine with it all and i give in to my mind. one night i thought about it all and decided i was really done and just cold turkeyed her. then she sent me some texts about how all of this has been so hard on "for the past couple weeks" (mind you i have been what others would describe as falling apart over this for 8 months) and that she cried when she got home from work due to her sadness. you know what happened i dont have to tell you. i just keep believing i am making headway, but i am just fooling myself. i knew better than to go after this one. i had read about the match. in fact after a couple of weeks in the beginning i tried to end it but she persisted quite impressively. i wish i would have stuck to my guns so i wouldnt be going through this now. i guess she couldnt handle being blown off because she is the one who likes to dictate how things go. once she sucked me in she pulled the rug out and now i am chasing her like a lost dog. pathetically i cant even get excited about other women because i want her and i am simply not interested in anyone else because of it. i feel like i would be cheating on her. that is so messed up. please dont flame me, i know i am weak. i am trying to get better. i just need my swagger back. it will come. thanks for your advisories.