What to do with this pair of twins? lol

Hi all,

Its been awhile.. i still come back every once in a while. 🙂

So i've been with my gemini man for two years. being a capricorn and what i've read.. i think its a victory in its right. lol

I give him a lot space.. but there are those times, when he's off in his little world and i'm ignored for a day and that drives me nuts sometimes.

I know I have some insecurities I'm dealing with (ex cheating and all that) and I'm trying to work on it.. and it's crazy but when I can't find him, I have all these stories in my head.. and i start texting and if there is still no response.. i think I've offended him. then when i do talk to him, he asks why i get so crazy and it does annoy him.
So i'm getting help to work on that

I need to learn how to better handle my relationship and the on and off of him.. because I feel like I'm losing ground lately. i admit, it's because in my world.. an ex came back and rocked my world again. I pushed him away and that felt good, but it brought up past baggage that I need to confront.

Any advice fellow dxp-ers?

I don't want to push my gemini man away but i feel anymore of this and I will.

Give him space, we're an odd bunch. It could be a sign that the relationship is losing its luster for him. My suggestion would be to back off and let him miss you and come back to you. I personally find as a Gemini that when something is secure we undervalue it, but the moment its not in our control we are filled with regret and want to get it back. So if he is used to you being insecure and overbearing, then be secure and care free. When we love we love deeply, but once the shine wears off it can be difficult to communicate with a person.

Thanks Gemtaur and Judicious

This is what I probably needed to hear about my Gem. I hear you.. I'm a person that sometimes need security because of the things I'm going through.. but that is just translated all wrongly to my Gem.

Seeing I have things to deal with.. I've decided to go dark for awhile.
I mean, right now at my state of mind, I'm calling and texting JUST to get a reaction and if i don't get it, i get insecure.. and yes, clingy!
dang.. I'm not usually like this either. sigh

I'll just focus on the things I need to focus on right now, like my job and other activities..
let him come to me am i right?

But sometimes I feel if I don't initiate, I get anxious! That he might feel ignored... wait.. is that the whole point to catch their attention again? lol

Is that the little bit of mystery gemtaur? and what do you mean with consistency? (sorry.. a little hungover in my understanding of things today.. 🙂 )

First of all, thank you gemtaur and wiseoldowl.. you guys ROCK.
second of all.. I have a moon in pisces. I'm just a bowl of emotion
THIRD OF ALL...

i need to follow all of your advice more often.. because its FANTASTIC!

So my gem said he'd try to meet up sunday if he wasn't tired.. and i said ok. Sunday came.. he wanted to relax. So instead of kicking up a fuss, i said "that's cool! have a great night"
None of the usual.. "lets reschedule" or "why not??" from me. Just Good night!
A couple of hours later, he texts to say.. he's taking me out to dinner the next night.
I reply sure.

Next day comes.. I don't text, nothing! none of the usual good morning from me or anything.. evening comes, hes calling and texting wondering where i am and whether we are on. and I was like, oh yeah, sure. And he's sounding confused because I'm usually texting and calling asking where HE is.
So he shows up and I'm being just normal and calm and not affectionate except for the hello kiss.

Next thing you know, he's pulling all the tricks out to impress me, initiating more and more affection.. and all i can say is.. WHAT AN AMAZING NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ah. I need to stay cold more often like this if I'm gonna get results like THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
😄

I'll try to be more in check of my emotions 🙂

Thanks Gemtaur and everyone else 🙂

I will adhere to all this as much as possible! 🙂