Who says gems and scorps can't get along?

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So I've been seeing my Scorpio man now close to 3 months. And I must say, we get along very well which is quite the difference from the other scorps(multiple), I've dated. We haven't really had an argument of any kind, just talked things out when we differ.

We really like eachother; there are some emotional differences, I feel like he can be aloof at times and I'm more sensitive and he is very difficult to figure out at times. But I think I am learning to just accept these differences as I'm not meant to fully understand, not that he doesn't care, because that is without a doubt obvious he does. I'm just stopping stressing so much trying to figure out what I can't understand, and maybe that is best. I cherish his company, and we have a good time.

But I'm just trying to figure out all of this, "gem and Scorp are great IF they can ever get along", but he and I do very much. Much more than the last Scorp I dated, or multiple other signs.

What is your experiences with Scorpio, Gems? I'm having a good one, but the scorps up to this one were not the best...at all.
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So I've been seeing my Scorpio man now close to 3 months. And I must say, we get along very well which is quite the difference from the other scorps(multiple), I've dated. We haven't really had an argument of any kind, just talked things out when we differ.

We really like eachother; there are some emotional differences, I feel like he can be aloof at times and I'm more sensitive and he is very difficult to figure out at times. But I think I am learning to just accept these differences as I'm not meant to fully understand, not that he doesn't care, because that is without a doubt obvious he does. I'm just stopping stressing so much trying to figure out what I can't understand, and maybe that is best. I cherish his company, and we have a good time.

But I'm just trying to figure out all of this, "gem and Scorp are great IF they can ever get along", but he and I do very much. Much more than the last Scorp I dated, or multiple other signs.

What is your experiences with Scorpio, Gems? I'm having a good one, but the scorps up to this one were not the best...at all.





I just don't like'em, there not for me. Water and Air aren't that great in relationships. Mostly your chart could let you know if you go well with them or not. What's your rising and moon sign?
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It's also funny you say that water and air aren't the best in relationships, that is ALL of my close friends. My best guy friend is a Gemini and just married his Pisces female after 8 years together.

My other good friends, and soon to be roommates, are a Pisces female and Aquarius male, they are married and have been together a total of 11 years. Their relationship is my inspiration, as they are so much in love and it is rock solid. They rarely ever butt heads.
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I hate Aries. They are too jerky for me.

The only thing that is different for my Scorpio is to sometimes be aloof or hard to read emotionally. But this could be a venus in Virgo trait, my longterm Leo ex was this position and was the same. Also I say what I want/need because he doesn't always pick up on it. He's really silly and a practical jokester, exceptionally open and non secretive.

The only thing Scorpio about him in my opinion is his showiness.

The last Scorp I dated was a rising aqua, moon Leo, and venus Scorp. That was quite possibly the most argumentive 3 months I ever had...he brought the worst out in me, and I didn't even really like him

My Scorpio now is not the least bit jealous or controlling. I'm the jealous and paranoid one.
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I'm a Gemini/ Scorpio rising/ Pisces moon and I've been married to my Scorpio/ Gemini rising/ Scorpio moon husband for about 8 years. I've been told that our charts are actually highly compatible when they're taken as a whole.

I can say that everything was EXTREMELY easy in the beginning. We were friends for about a year first, so our dating time was only about 6 months before we got engaged. It was so easy that I wondered how he could even be a Scorp (past Scorp relationships had proven disastrous), but I was about to find out.

About halfway into our relationship (once the "honeymoon phase" was over), it got a lot tougher as our inherent differences starting becoming apparent. I don't mean subtle differences, but bone-deep differences that were absolutely in line with our sun signs. The hidden jealousy issues (his) became almost unbearable. His silent nature felt smothering. His fixed attitude drove me insane. His homebodyness felt imprisoning. Meanwhile, he was getting an unpleasant taste of what he had signed up for in taking on a Gemini. I thought about leaving many times. Understand that neither of us were being mean...we just were from two different planets (Mercury and Pluto- LOL)

I can say I'm very glad I sucked it up and stuck it out. I admire and respect my husband immensely. He's truly one of "the good ones". I learned to roll with our differences, and figured out that we really can accommodate both of our needs with a little creativity.

Is there a sign that would be more astrological compatible with me? Without a doubt! But I'm sticking with my Scorpio.

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There are things I don't fully understand. We are exclusive and it is without a doubt committed, but he seems terrified of a full commitment. He owns a company and has more business endeavors, his line of work is very...specific and unusual. While he is older, so are the majority of my friends and we met through them. He's never been married and he claims it's because of his work and it's always gotten in the way and eventually drove the girl away. He seems scared. We don't have an official title yet, but I'm one of the only girls he's dated he hadn't already been friends with for awhile. Plus he's very hesitant with things. We have pics and tags covering his Facebook and everyone knows we are together, he has no issue telling.

I want the title yet at the same time am also unsure and hesitant, I'm feet fickle! He has certain oddities that I suspect he may have a form of autism. He has a very structured life and regimen and while he is very social, can be incredibly awkward.

I don't mind his quirks though. Just wish he was more sensitive and lovey dovey sometimes. That was one of the only arguments I had with my last longterm Virgo in venus. But I also had a lack of physical with him and him not wanting to go out. My Scorpio and I do no short of either of those things. We attend most social outings as a pair and have many mutual friends and aquaintances and all hang out together. People ask to see us BOTH, not so much as individually...although we do have our sep friends too. He shows no jealousy when I hang out at my best guy friends place just he and I before I go to his weekly, but I will get in a jealous tizzy over him having dinner with a female friend. It's hypocritical, but to my defense I have never been physical with my friend and he's married to my other good friend. He was physical with his now single female friend. Although it was only 3 weeks, 2 years ago and he says they were not romantically compatible and has no interest in her romance wise. I'm the opp, when a flame dies and the romance is over, I don't stay friends like him. My feelings tend to linger, so I cut the connection 100% . I'm very all or nothing. I need to control my jealousy, it is obvious he's a very loyal guy despite having female friends.
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I think I act way more like a cancer emotionally, and then a Gemini for air headed nature and being fickle.

I don't know why I'm such a jealous person, insecurity I can guess. I've never been cheated on to my knowledge, but I have done it once. Wouldn't ever again though. He's 13.5 years older and has never, he has the better track records.

My Gemini best man friend who is Scorpio moon, says he can identify with my Scorpio on many emotional levels and understand his hesitancy because he is the same way, if not more so. He's me if I were a boy.
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Been happily married to my Scorpio man for 16 years. Other than that we are both stubborn and opinionated at times, we share many qualities as our sense of humor, our passion for things we love, and the way we view the world in general.

I think a sign's tendencies is a good thing to understand, however, it comes down to the individual person, how they were raised, inherited traits etc.

I'm adopted. So am I a true Gem because of my birth date or is it possible the nurture vs. nature thing is the key?
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Hmmm...I don't understand all the hesitancy he has. When my Scorp decides he wants something, it happens YESTERDAY.



This is true of most Scorpio, he is different. He's had serious, longterm relationships. But keep in mind he is a very different person; is 38 and has never married. He's also never had a girlfriend live with him.


One of his exes of 3 years told me that he had admitted to her, he sees himself dying alone. That all the relationships he's had have never progressed past a certain point. Although not really sure what he's expecting
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He's also had experiences with men, but very rarely does he found a man attractive like that and he's only dated 3 in his life time. I guess you could call him bi, but he's extremely partial to women.

I was pretty weirded out by this at first, but I have dated bi men before. Also I've had multiple female on female experiences myself, years before my first guy kiss even. I do find myself attracted to women, multiple women. But I don't feel the need to be physical(not anymore at least, would have to be a rare spur of the moment thing at least) and never dated. Many people in our scene are bi, it's very common.
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Hmmm...I don't understand all the hesitancy he has. When my Scorp decides he wants something, it happens YESTERDAY.



This is true of most Scorpio, he is different. He's had serious, longterm relationships. But keep in mind he is a very different person; is 38 and has never married. He's also never had a girlfriend live with him.


One of his exes of 3 years told me that he had admitted to her, he sees himself dying alone. That all the relationships he's had have never progressed past a certain point. Although not really sure what he's expecting
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I've noticed that once my Scorp forms an opinion about the way something is, it would be faster to wait for an iceberg to melt than for him to change his mind. If yours has it in his head that he can't have a relationship for more than "X" number of years, or that he's going to die alone, it might be an uphill battle for that to change. But let's hope that's not so!

It could be worse- mine's unshakeable opinion is that all his lovers will cheat and that he's going to die extremely young.
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I always said ones true sign, is their Moon Sign, the Egyptians believed that as well.



Oh nooooo!! I don't wanna be a leo😢😢
*double pout*



To be honest, you act like a Leo most of the
time....



And you act like a Scorpio about 65% of the time! 🙂

I admire leos in so many ways, although I don't like leo women that much:/
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Shoot me now and put me out of my misery!!
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Aqua; really? Hmm.

Yeah he's more grounded and I'm jittery. We don't talk a whole lot during the week (we message daily, but sometimes just a few etc). I practically live with him though. The week is really busy with his business, auctions, cleaning, gym, laundry etc. he frees up the whole weekend for me and weds. So I stay weds night til real late, then stay the weekends Friday-Sunday.

I've got stuff stashed all over.
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I'm a Gemini/ Scorpio rising/ Pisces moon and I've been married to my Scorpio/ Gemini rising/ Scorpio moon husband for about 8 years. I've been told that our charts are actually highly compatible when they're taken as a whole.

I can say that everything was EXTREMELY easy in the beginning. We were friends for about a year first, so our dating time was only about 6 months before we got engaged. It was so easy that I wondered how he could even be a Scorp (past Scorp relationships had proven disastrous), but I was about to find out.

About halfway into our relationship (once the "honeymoon phase" was over), it got a lot tougher as our inherent differences starting becoming apparent. I don't mean subtle differences, but bone-deep differences that were absolutely in line with our sun signs. The hidden jealousy issues (his) became almost unbearable. His silent nature felt smothering. His fixed attitude drove me insane. His homebodyness felt imprisoning. Meanwhile, he was getting an unpleasant taste of what he had signed up for in taking on a Gemini. I thought about leaving many times. Understand that neither of us were being mean...we just were from two different planets (Mercury and Pluto- LOL)

I can say I'm very glad I sucked it up and stuck it out. I admire and respect my husband immensely. He's truly one of "the good ones". I learned to roll with our differences, and figured out that we really can accommodate both of our needs with a little creativity.

Is there a sign that would be more astrological compatible with me? Without a doubt! But I'm sticking with my Scorpio.



this has got to be one of the most under-appreciated posts in all of dxp history. possibly in all of astrology history.

well done to you both.
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I always said ones true sign, is their Moon Sign, the Egyptians believed that as well.



Hmm interesting...

Maybe that explains why even in the middle of crazy goo sex, all over the bed im still thinking "eww his feet are on my pillows!" Fricken virgo moon



LMAO!!!! Told Ya!
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Anyone care to post the information on this? About the "true" sign being the moon sign? Id like to read it. Or get some opinions.
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Oh really? Interesting. People usually guess Gem, Libra or Pisces for me. I'm very watery and show a lot of my venus.

But I was shocked when I found out my Scorpio was born on Halloween, I pegged him a Libra for sure. We may be gem and Scorp, but our Aquarius and Gem rising, Libra & Libra moon, Gemini & Libra mercuries balance us out I think.

Plus, while I can be peeved by some of Venus in Virgo traits, I think Venus in Virgo, and Venus in Cancer mesh well together? We also both have Cancer in Mars.
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Should I be worried if he says, "I am not ready for serious yet"? It seems as if the only thing he is not ready for, is the title.

I had an exclusive arrangement with a Virgo for 2 months, but it was different. We were dating and exclusive but it was a "until I find someone I really click with" thing. "Don't tag things like cuddling etc, don't have too many pictures"

His is more so like that because I think he's still getting to know me and also he's hesitant in getting the title because he thinks it will bring more pressure on him for expectations he doesn't think he can fufill because his work is at its peak.

That being said, I observe his actions. He still makes time for me to talk daily. He clears his whole weekend and allows me to stay with him and leave things at his place. He clears weds nights, it's a set schedule. He cooks for me consistently, takes us out etc. makes future plans, discusses possible trips months out. Tells everyone we are together, says nothing like "if I find someone else." He says he doesn't want to date others and has no plans to leave me. He has no qualms being tagged everywhere with me and have a million pics (in his history of serious relationships, he's not been Facebook official with anyone as he finds it frivolous) he is loyal.

He's also agreed to drive 40 miles in one directoon just to help me and my friend move a dresser up the stairs. Has his insurance in my car so he can drive it when we take my car etc.

He says he doesn't want a title or "serious" yet...but how much serious besides marriage and kids (which I do not want), can it get really?
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This could also help explain my husband and me. Maybe Gem/Scorp isn't the best match, but Pisces/Scorp (our moons) is.

Also, anyone who ever tries to guess my sun always guesses Pisces.



Not to mention you are Scorpio Rising...very much like myself, Scorpio Moon, Cancer Rising and Venus in Cancer. I also have Scorpio in Neptune, making my Moon Conjunct, my Venus and Rising are conjunct as well, makes for an intense water strain on my chart as a whole.
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I have 2 female Scorp friends.

I honestly never thought I would have 2 close female Pisces friends but I love them.

I'll be living with my Pisces and Aries rising friend and her Aquarius husband. My other best friends are a Pisces female and gem male with both Scorp moons.

Other female best friend is a cancer Aries rising. And my scorps best friend (they are very close alike and have a close bromance) is an Aquarius male, his wife is a cancer.

I do know he was very aloof to her and it took like 7-8 months before he could call her his gf though, and now they are married and she became Mormon for him.

My Pisces female and gem male friend had some very rocky times but they are solid now and together as of 8 years and married.

The Pisces female and Aquarius male however have always had the most solid marriage I've seen and have been together 11 with no issues.
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Oh really? Interesting. People usually guess Gem, Libra or Pisces for me. I'm very watery and show a lot of my venus.

But I was shocked when I found out my Scorpio was born on Halloween, I pegged him a Libra for sure. We may be gem and Scorp, but our Aquarius and Gem rising, Libra & Libra moon, Gemini & Libra mercuries balance us out I think.

Plus, while I can be peeved by some of Venus in Virgo traits, I think Venus in Virgo, and Venus in Cancer mesh well together? We also both have Cancer in Mars.



From my experience Venus in Virgo and Venus in Cancer can only do well if the Virgo can try to understand the needs of the cancerian venus. My ex and I literally have mirrored charts, the big whammy is the Venus in Virgo and Cancer. Oh and I have Mars in Virgo and he has Gemini in Mars.
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I just ventured over to the Scorpio room, thought it'd be cool to pop in and say hi. I got called a liar, was told that I pretty much made my whole life story up, and was promptly chewed out for no good reason lol

I'm new to this astrology stuff, but I learned a valuable lesson today.

Gemini + Scorpio = not a good match



Like I said I dont think the match is good with a Scorpio female and a Gemini male. Scorpio male and Gemini female yes.