Do you allow people to let off their frustrations on you ?

So I don’t know if this is normal in other people family

I was raised by a single mom .... and when she gets mad , have migraine , gets headache , is sick , late for somewhere or whatever ... my whole life she lets it off on me. She’ll blow up because I’m breathing too loud or some random stuff that has nothing to do with why she’s frustrated.



I’m scared I’m picking up her behavior now that I’m older . Is this normal frustration behavior or do “normal” people don’t really lash out on others .

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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
So I don’t know if this is normal in other people family

I was raised by a single mom .... and when she gets mad , have migraine , gets headache , is sick , late for somewhere or whatever ... my whole life she lets it off on me. She’ll blow up because I’m breathing too loud or some random stuff that has nothing to do with why she’s frustrated.



I’m scared I’m picking up her behavior now that I’m older . Is this normal frustration behavior or do “normal” people don’t really lash out on others .

That's not good. If she's not well she needs to get the appropriate help to relax. Lashing out and taking it out on others isn't normal. Definitely not if it's happening regularly.

Ideally if someone were to lash out, I would walk away from that spot and give them breathing space. But if it's a habit and gets abusive and starts to affect me, I won't come back.

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Unfortunately I don’t think this is something my 50 year old mom can change about her self not wants to. Too stuck in her ways .