Am I a Crutch? Or is this Leo into Me?

So a Leo I went to highschool with has recently got in touch with me. We've shared mutual friends, but never actually hung out together. He started hitting me up on chat and then eventually started emailing/ texting me stuff on the daily. After that it went to calling me. We talk about 2-3 hours every night and communicate everyday. He is always the one to initiate and call me. He's in another state and currently went there to get clean off of a bout of doing substances and ending his engagement with his fiance. Before he came down i gues he was also living with a rebound for 5 months .. anyway is this Leo into me or is he just using me to pass the time? He mentions moving back up to my area where I live.. but also says it wouldn't be anytime soon because he wants to save money where he's at. He'll subtley make passes implying he thinks I'm good looking, but that's as far as it goes. He just shows enthusiam that he wants to hang out. My question is: Is he using me as a distraction/crutch? Or is he hunting me?

You sound too good for him, and he's the crutch.

You're basically his new potential booty call that he's trying to line up. Drop him IMMEDIATELY.

Why would you want a booty call in Pennsylvania when you're in Flordia? You'd have to spend some serious dough to come out and visit. Also, why spend 2-4 hours talking on the phone every night?

I think he treats you just like a "normal" friend...nothing special.

If he really loves you, he would treat you like a "queen"...make you feel special...then you need NOT ask such a question.

Posted by Ariescorpisces
Why would you want a booty call in Pennsylvania when you're in Flordia? You'd have to spend some serious dough to come out and visit. Also, why spend 2-4 hours talking on the phone every night?

He just wants attention.

Why would you even waste your time on him?

you're right. fuck it.

Why do you need to ask these questions, can you not just enjoy your newly found friendship with him? leo's love to have friends and to be in touch and communicate with them, I don't see anything sinister in this. Just enjoy it for what it is.

Oh and compliments just roll off our tongues - but they are sincere, so if he's telling you he thinks you're good looking then he thinks you are, so therefore you should be told 🙂

Posted by Ariescorpisces
you're right. fuck it.

omfg this makes me love you.

you go girl!!!! you deserve to be wooed by a dreadfully handsome gentleman who you can hold. 🙂

so it's been 7 weeks and this Leo guy continues to text me all day long, and call me every other night for 3-4 hours. He has to dig me right? I mean he's doing all this for attention? He's working this hard for a booty call over 1,000 miles away? this just doesn't make sense. He's scheduled a trip up here to see his friends and me at the end of May. I think I actually really connect with this Leo, I just don't want to risk being played. So perhaps I won't give up the goods and just play it by ear. SO you leos really think this leo, is doing all this work, for a bootycall.. ?? or mere attention.. ?? why not talk to someone down there? why invest so much of your personal time?

Maybe you're the only one whose not tired of listening to him talk about himself for four hours. Haha
No seriously... How much of the convo is about you and how soon after you try and talk about yourself does it turn back to 'all about him'?

Lotuslily raises a good question for you to ask yourself. Keep tabs of that next time you two talk.

He actually talks about ME a lot. we talk about both of us- in fact sometimes I have to stop cause I find myself talking too much. Do you think he really just wants someone to ramble on to for hours every night— this puzzles me. I know I wouldn't call a guy THAT fucking much just to talk about myself? WHAT A WASTE OF TIME?

He has a history of substance abuse, lost his fiance and I don't want to hear he dumped her, BULLSHIT, she dumped his ass for being a drug addict and lord only knows what else he did to get dumped, now he's with a rebound for 5 months and you really have to ask us what's his motivation?

He's unstable and talking 3/4 hours is equivalent to being brainwashed before he unleashes all of his demons out onto you..Please leave this joker alone. He's looking for his NEXT FRESH TARGET, someone who doesn't KNOW all of his fucked up ways and the best way to get you hooked is to INSERT HIMSELF INTO YOUR DAILY ROUTINE, that is what the talking 3/4 hours a night is, it's the GROOMING PROCESS TO GET YOU HOOKED LIKE A CRACKHEAD and then he'll be able to unleash all the crazy and you'll most likely stay way longer than you should and he KNOW THIS already.

i think i'm safe 1,000 miles away from any unleashed crazy!

Posted by Ariescorpisces
i think i'm safe 1,000 miles away from any unleashed crazy!

LOL I think so too...

Yet you're spending 3-4 hours of your life regularly subjecting yourself speaking to him. I don't think the crazy is too far away.

What I'm implying is- if he is just waiting to unleash this crazy- he is only visiting here. So, I mean it shouldnt' be an issue- i wouldn't say I'm subjecting myself to anything negative currently but just playful fun phone conversations. yeah it sounds bad writter on paper- he went through a hard time during broken engagement- got into some negative stuff was depressed, but is also taking appropriate steps to get back on the horse. I can see where i should be totally cautious and aware of the situation- i'm just tryin to grasp leo perspective i guess. what's he getting out of it all. what is the point of having some phone thing when he lives so far.

No pressure...You're safe, he doesn't have the added pressure of BEING responsible for you and your feelings, he doesn't have to think about you and your happiness.

I was implying that it's crazy that you're still wasting time on him. 3.5 hours average for say.. 5 nights a week is 17.5 hours every week. That's like enough time for 3 lecture/lab courses with 4 credits each.

I don't know - it's just seeming like you're literally wasting time you could use doing things that you'd probably benefit way more from - and be happier doing.

I guess I'm just saying you're worth alot more than what you're giving yourself, you know what I mean? It's literally not worth your time or thought.

Posted by Ariescorpisces
What I'm implying is- if he is just waiting to unleash this crazy- he is only visiting here. So, I mean it shouldnt' be an issue- i wouldn't say I'm subjecting myself to anything negative currently but just playful fun phone conversations. yeah it sounds bad writter on paper- he went through a hard time during broken engagement- got into some negative stuff was depressed, but is also taking appropriate steps to get back on the horse. I can see where i should be totally cautious and aware of the situation- i'm just tryin to grasp leo perspective i guess. what's he getting out of it all. what is the point of having some phone thing when he lives so far.

as far as i know, when a leo is into you, he or she is entirely, completely devoted to you. mind, soul and body, however much we whole back, it will be obvious. we can't hide it, unless we are out to play games, but most that i know are too weak to handle manipulation. love makes us bold, and love makes us weak, for the person we feel for.

if he isn't showing these signs, it would just be a friendship. he could crave company, attention, and is using your presence as a healing, comforting tool. perhaps you need to give this companionship (notice i use this word) some thought, because both of you might want very different things. unless you're okay that he might suddenly disappear into someone else's arms, i suggest you back off. leos can be known to be overly friendly and then drop a friend cold after they find "true love", because love overwhelms us entirely and is the core of our being. i don't even think that i'm being overly romantic here.

Good luck.

So an update on this- We still continue to talk every night- sometimes 4 hours at a time. He came up here and it was incredibly passionate and we spent a week together- I made arrangements to go down there after he asked me to come visit. I am going to be staying there for half a month- he had planned and was discussing with me that he was going to move back up to my neck of the woods, and that he just needed to save money first. So as he applied for a job- he actually got a job that is paying him a wopping 80,000 a year. So i don't know if he'll be moving back up! He said he's going to fly up here every month. He tells me he knows what he wants and he knows he wants to eventually move where I'm at and he wants to be with me. the other day he said " I heart you" but not love. This shit is confusing- ya'll told me i was wasting my time.. Am i still wasting my time?? what the heck is " i heart you" ..

So an update on this- We still continue to talk every night- sometimes 4 hours at a time. He came up here and it was incredibly passionate and we spent a week together- I made arrangements to go down there after he asked me to come visit. I am going to be staying there for half a month- he had planned and was discussing with me that he was going to move back up to my neck of the woods, and that he just needed to save money first. So as he applied for a job- he actually got a job that is paying him a wopping 80,000 a year. So i don't know if he'll be moving back up! He said he's going to fly up here every month. He tells me he knows what he wants and he knows he wants to eventually move where I'm at and he wants to be with me. the other day he said " I heart you" but not love. This shit is confusing- ya'll told me i was wasting my time.. Am i still wasting my time?? what the heck is " i heart you" ..

-facepalm- Can't even bother..

geez. sorry?

( just waitin for dxp to tear me a new asshole) -- but honestly. it feels right. i just over analyze and question a lot of things due to horrible past situations.. i probably shouldn't.

Tread very slowly. You're asking the questions here and we are telling you to tread very slowly with this one. I don't know if I would believe everything he says. Lots of times, we tend to ignore the red flags and believe every word that comes out of men's pie holes.

Do yourself a favor....go to Google and search "lovebombed". See if this guy fits the description. Put up your radar, there's a reason you're asking questions.

Good luck.

Posted by Jynja
Ariescorpisces - You've been spotted, hunted down and soon the spoils will become carcass. Though, leo females are usually too immune to crazy leo male behavior so might be wrong on this.

Good luck, girl.

Leo females know right when it comes to our phallic counterparts. So the first remains standing.

And if you *are* a Lioness entangled with an eyeing Scorpion (I'm a curious kitten and clicked your profile teheh).. good luck yourself, my dear~

Stop hiding silly 😉