Are men that hard to understand?

What do you think? Specifically Leos?

I mean, I'm not stupid but men love games, don't they? And since i'm not good at getting "underlying meaning", I love being straight forward and stuff, I find men are irrational at times.

The Leo i'm with now makes me confused all the time. He said he likes me, and he really wants to be with me for a long time. But he NEVER texts me first. If I do, he will reply with short mess, and that's all. But when we go out, he looks at me the whole time, asking non-stop how was my week, how i feel, and many personal questions, like trying to know me. And even says (2 times) that if I wanna go out with some other men, He's cool with that and still wants to see me. However if I choose not to, he'd love to have me in his life.

Strange thing is, he's busy when i'm available and vice versa, so we can't go out seeing each other much. No chatting, not much time together. And when I suggest him to meet (I try to make time for him thou i'm busy), he turns me down by saying that he will hang out with his friends.

So basically, it's just "words". I think he's just showing like he cares for me while indeed he doesn't give a damn. And it's confusing for me, since He's Leo, and I know Leos don't play around with girls (or am I wrong here?).

So guys, work out pls...

Then if this guy is not complicated as I thought, it can only have one explanation, rite? That he's playing a lil mind game with me?

I'm sorry, but saying u like someone, and "show" it when you two meet. But don't make time, no text, no call. Is it normal? Really??

I really don't think so darling.. 😢

I have four brothers. Men are "easy" to understand if only the woman would listen or ask questions to understand and then actually listen to the response. Instead, most of us choose to guess, suppose, assume, and let our imaginations run rabid. Or, we take what the man says and try and twist it every which way until it matches the response we hoped for.

My boyfriend eats ice-cream with a fork because he doesn't like spoons. So maybe they are complicated...

Posted by fierceariesgirl
I'm sorry, but saying u like someone, and "show" it when you two meet. But don't make time, no text, no call. Is it normal? Really??

I really don't think so darling.. 😢

Hmmm so when you guys hang in person, he is all action.
He asks about your day, your week, he demonstrates with his actions that he is in to you. When he is with you.
But it's the in between dates, where you have no initiating on his end via text etc so he's not reaching out first and you feel this demonstrates a lack of interest or possible game playing...
How long have you been seeing each other and who organises the occasion.
? Is that the summary @fierceariesgirl

Haha, sorry guys for posting such question. But i'm in a bit of confusion. You know, girls with overthinking, all the time 😄.

I do feel the tension when we're together. But when we're not, it's really weird from his side.

Yeah He like my company. Noted that.

@wagtail: thanks dude you so got the point here!!!

We've been knowing more than 2 months. I know it's not that long but then.... Is it normal to dude?

Posted by LillyPetal
... My boyfriend eats ice-cream with a fork because he doesn't like spoons. So maybe they are complicated...

😆

Posted by fierceariesgirl
@wagtail: thanks dude you so got the point here!!!

We've been knowing more than 2 months. I know it's not that long but then.... Is it normal to dude?

You know, it's hard to say coz everybody is different...
For a two monther it may very well be fairly normal. Although, have you addressed this with him directly?
The biggest game we play is mind reading. I mean, in relationships in general.
And as a general rule of thumb when we start trying to mind read or guess our way through it, everybody loses the game...
Hit him up about the frequency of contact and if he's actually into you he'll start playing ball.
~good luck hun~

Thanks :*. I will ask him. But not sure if we're in relationship or just still "getting to know each other" stage. It's been an unamed thing.

He likes you but is goin casual. U should do the same and spare urself heartache.

Or hang out with a guy who pays u more attention than ur dude.

I'm an aries who's dated leo and he was exactly that! there have been some really nice and genuine leos, all my friends, sadly none of my leo dates have been genuine or sincere ( out of 2 leo exs). it's like they want us to be with them but when we are available for them they pretend they're busy. if I was busy he'd call me n number of times and talk about obscure topics like existential questions and shit and start a debate at 2am and stuff, I hated them! those two were simply an illusion of honorable men, what they were is simply self-fucking masturbators.

oh, just ditch him

Posted by LillyPetal
I have four brothers. Men are "easy" to understand if only the woman would listen or ask questions to understand and then actually listen to the response. Instead, most of us choose to guess, suppose, assume, and let our imaginations run rabid. Or, we take what the man says and try and twist it every which way until it matches the response we hoped for.

My boyfriend eats ice-cream with a fork because he doesn't like spoons. So maybe they are complicated...

This

@AriesLove, you're right.

Last time we met, we had a discussion and he said he wasn't ready for a relationship, since he fucked up the last one and needed time to heal. I actually don't want a relationship start to soon but if we're going out, dating, kissing, then eventually it's natural for a need in serious relationship.

So, I don't know. He expressed he wants to spend more time with me, and keep me around, and get to know each other more. I'm cool with that too, but I know deep down I'll need a clear relation one day and am not sure he'll be willing by then or not.

Do you have any advice for me? Since you understand them soooo well and I'm really glad if you can help me out. Thanks 🙂

Ok, us (Leos) are action oriented people. We love interactive environments and everything else is boring. That's why when y'all are actually together he cam SHOW you his feelings. I'll say my feelings but not very often and it's hard to do. So much more can be said with no words at all. That good kiss I lay on you and the deep gaze into your eyes afterwards says 1000 times more than I could ever convey via text. Plus, I stay pretty busy during the day. I'll say what I have to say, put my phone down and do something productive if the convo is boring. We are lighthearted and just love to enjoy life. A text fest is the last thing we wanna do when you are within driving distance.

The same thing happened to me. I asked him and he said the same.... He'snot into a relationships thing... I think it's just bullshit...

The first time when we were together he was sending me txts even if he was with his friends.. he was always finding time.. I think only 2 times he didn't send me sth...

The second time when we were back t ogether at the beggining he did the same. However after 2 weeks he started to be busy all the time/not into relationships/didn't text me so much and things like you describe above....

From my experience, when they really like you they will give you everything (almost), but when they take you for granted the get bored and then they start to ignore you.... yeah they want you but in a casual way, only to have a good time and nothing else.

And yes even when he was ignoring me, when we were together it was all good,

I think you have to stop intiating contact and see what happens... but my opinion is to find someone better or if you are willing start to play hot n cold