back about an old leo...please help me decode!

The last time I had spoken to him was in August. I was pissed at him and pretty rude because he appears out of nowhere and expecting me to take him into my home (he wanted to vacation here) when I hadnt heard from him for a few months. Like he acted like nothing happened and it annoyed him.

After forgetting about him and ready to start the year of new he messaged me a few days before new yrs eve. I honestly was at a place where why not just answer his message and be cordial? He didnt do anything that wrong to me, and I thought I could just talk to him. He immediately wanted to skype with me (which i did find odd because i had not heard from him in a few months) but I couldnt because i was away visiting family and friends.

i decided to keep a like of communication open (why not i thought he lives in another country and I think i am ready to not be that person to just cut people off) so I messaged him "happy new years" yesterday. A few hours later (it was in the evening and later where he is) he messaged me back and said happy new years as well and asked if i was back home. I said yes and he asked if I could skype. i was unpacking and cleaning up so i was available and told him yes. we skyped for about an hour. i could tell he was trying to charm me, but i showed him no signs as i wanted to keep it straight and just talk. it was cool and ended well and he said 'come on tomorrow so we can skype'. i am still pretty exhausted from travelling so havent made plans these days because i was just going to clean up at home and what not. so i said "maybe" to him about skype.

the whole day i wondered what to do. i came to the conclusion that i should do what feels natural playing no games because honestly its exahusing to overthink everything. so i decided to come onto skype but was staying busy around the house. finally he sends me a message saying "hey" and asking wht i was up to so i told him. i asked what he was up to and after a long pause he said he was watching tv and was tired and asked if i could skype tomorrow. WHAT—!!!! I wanted to slap the shyt out of myself, well more him. why did i know that would happen, but i still dont feel mad at myself for going on skype. i responded to him with "oh..i dont know" and he gave me a sad face. Then he says hes going to bed and says goodnight. So i said goodnight and he immediately signed off.

please please please help me decode this situation. right now i am typing away so fast i am livid..

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..i am so livid i want to cry. not because i am sad i am just pissed and feel bamboozled

am i overreacting? WHY would he do this?? Is he playing a game? Did he want me to beg for him to skype with me? I am so tired of his games, can he just do what he says. Tell me to come on skype so we can talk, and then actually follow through? could he be seeing someone (we did not speak of that at all) and just came to see what i was up to?

most importantly what do i do now? i was going to spaz and write him a nasty message but i didnt think that was a good idea and i dont want to show him any kind of emotion. he just keeps popping up and its really pissing me off. i know he is a good guy but i just need to know what he is doing. i just wish he could be normal lol. like really does it need to be so complicated?? ahh!

thank you ladies for your responses 🙂

after reading my post back to myself, i sound like a crazy person 😄 lol

I calmed my ass down and felt ok with the situation. I know it was a little out of control for me to be so angry and i honestly dont know why i was SO mad. But i was and I cant control my emotions 🙂

anywho, i thought about it and there are different things affect me and the situation. yes, i am still attracted to him and I dont think i could just be friends with him because there is still that strong attraction on both ends. when we did speak on skype he was definitely trying to test me out to get a reaction out of me but i wasnt feeling it. i went to bed ok with what had happened and basically gained control of my emotions. i am in a different place than i was a few months ago when we last spoke, and thinking of it clearly i know that this shouldn't affect me as much.

when i woke up this morning i saw that he had messaged me about a neutral topic. i took it as him trying to see if i was "ok", but i dont know. we messaged a little back and forth and then he asked me when was the last time i had thought about him. "here we go" i thought. i kept my cool and told him the truth, that probably back in november and told him i didnt think i would talk to him again.

after a little bit the conversation stopped and i didnt hear back from him. after being out and about for a few hours i got home and decided to check skype. he was not online and never came on. i just got off and feel better about everything. i am not going to let this affect me again, i have many other things to think about 🙂

who knows what will happen, but not expecting anything

You should cut your ties, block him - it gets easier with each day.

You can do better. Be the leading lady of your life and not the side love interest. 🙂

Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
You can do better. Be the leading lady of your life and not the side love interest. 🙂

Thank you for this. I learn this more and more each day 🙂