Cancelling a date

The aqua sun/pisces moon & venus cancelled our first date today. Said a work colleague asked for a professional favor that day and he had to accommodate him since the guy has done the same for him. But, he did not offer to reschedule. This after a week of getting to know ya convo's and laughing and flirting. He had voiced his concern about our living 60 miles apart cus he likes to see his woman several times a week when dating and mating.

I'm thinking it has something to do with that. Cus otherwise wouldn't he have offered the resched? And I personally don't sig a cancellation via text. I am annoyed. Dating just sucks.

Thanks, Elle. 🙂

I know it has nothing to do with me, I'm just frustrated at how incredibly difficult it is to meet stable, emotionally communicative men these days. Feckles, the dysfunctional ones are all over the dating sites it seems.

I have decided to take the rest of this day and roll in my anger, frustration and confusion and then tomorrow... I will wake up and turn on my awesomeness and be the bomb.com.

PS..my 20 yr old son is aqua and def weird. In a lovely way. That kid is so respectful I cannot imagine he'd do this to a woman, without rescheduling, I mean.

I'm tempted to email this dude and swing my lioness tail a bit and ask him what the *real* issue is. RAWR!

Thank you, Jynja.

I thought I'd like a Pisces moon/venus even though they are wishy washy and emo. I was all excited at the thought of dating a guy who cries 😛

Elle, he told me he cried watching "Home Alone". How can that NOT turn me on?
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I think it's just hard for Aqua to plan things. It's like if you give them too much time to think about something, they'll talk themselves out of it. I don't think its intentional. At the time they plan it, it seems like a good idea, then when the time comes they don't want to do it. Spontaniety works good for them. Possibly an air sign thing...my gem ex husband used to be this way too.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Elle, he told me he cried watching "Home Alone". How can that NOT turn me on?
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I don't even cry at movies.

*shivers*

True, I think you're right. My son isn't a planner either. Must be the flighty airy thing.

There was another aqua man in June whom I chatted with for a week straight, he asked me out for coffee for a Friday night. Friday morning he woke up with pink eye and had to cancel. Even texted me a photo of his eye and it was pink!

a few days before that, with only few hours notice he asked if I wanted to meet that evening. I couldn't so I passed. Then the pink eye ordeal on our originally scheduled date. We continued to chat for a week or so, then he went quiet. I waited a week and sent a "nice knowing you" email. He replied right away saying he did want to meet and would get back to me. Never did. Found out a month or so later he had met someone else. So one never knows where the other is in their dating life. This guy may well have an ex in the back ground or another woman on a string. I did send him an email a bit ago just tying up the string saying I felt he has a change of heart cus he didnt suggest a reschedule. I was nice and polite and said I just wanted to put the period on the end of the sentence. I cant stand to sit around waiting on a man, Id like to have some honest and openness. (not like Im always gonna get it).

So if he doesnt reply, then I will know I'm right. If he does, it probably won't matter what he says cus I don't like being dicked around and I've got a bad taste in my mouth now.

So here is his reply. I will expound on it more later cus I gotta run out now.


BGP -

I was hustling this morning to make arrangements, so rescheduling didn't come to mind at that moment. I'd like to think I was very open and honest about what I'm looking to find in a soulmate. And for me, because I have to travel so darn much during the week, I honestly feel I would be a lousy partner with someone who lived over an hour away. Maybe I'm unrealistic, I don't know. I feel that a relationship can truly grow, beyond a once a week get together. I very much want to be able to see someone during the week, as time allows, when I get back in town, for a mid-week dinner, or coffee, or whatever. I'm not needy; but I know for now, if I'm head over heels, I want to get together more often. I just don't want to it to be on the other end of a phone. And regarding the distance; I can't have a lady driving home alone at night who would go out of her way to visit me.

At least for now, I have to try this course. And as for you, you are an amazing catch, and I hadn't even met you face to face. Your smile, eyes, personality and wit can fill a room. But, naive as I am, and because I do have friends who are ladies, I was truly looking forward to having dinner with you because of your qualities, and having some sort of a friendship. And you create great visual imagery. I'm sorry for being naive; in some ways I really haven't grown up. But I am nice, that much I know. Please don't be angry with me, about what I want to try, at least for awhile.

**so, he was trying to keep me on a string in case he couldnt find a woman closer to where he lives.

How lovely.

Dude, I wouldn't have even responded after he cancelled without mention of rescheduling. My immediate response would've been *delete number*. Next!!



My bro is an Aqua. When it comes to him and women, I don't even ask nor do I want to know. He's a good guy overall, but I feel sorry for the women who fall for him.

Ok, so we are both to *blame*. He DID tell me all this on day one. How he wants a woman to be close to him and spend oodles of time with him (pisces venus/moon anyone?). Absoutely did tell me, cannot fault him for not being verbal. But, as the convo grew and he saw all my awesomeness, he tells me he does come to my city twice a month for work then asks me out to a new trendy, hot, happening restaurant in my city, (60 miles away) and says he will use a free night certificate he has for the Marriott and sleep over here. Well, that sounded to me like he was doing a mind change about distance being an issue. I guess I thought my incredible charm and lovely deliciousness had wormed its way into his thinking and he was now open to the distance being ok.

Then, he goes on to contact me daily, laughing and flirting and telling me how fab I am. In other words, mixed messages. So, heres MY part in this thing: I believed the secondary actions instead of what he told me initially. I thought because he was going to all this effort to meet me, he had changed his "distance requirement". My bad. Though, in his email, you clearly see he wanted to have a "friendship" basically in case his search for local love doesn't work out and that he needs to try it and see. But still hang on to me and my awesomeness. Bad on him for that.

So, another lesson in love. Listen and believe what they tell ya....and don't read into anything, and if you do, ASK ASK ASK what it all means. He was a cool guy, but clearly like me, just doesn't know how to date maturely.

Sounds like he really tried to be nice about it, for what its worth. Too bad yall aren't in the same city.

Ya, he is a nice guy, though slightly askewed in communication. I did find offense in feeling like he was trying to *back pocket* me and told him so in a follow up email. He apologized and said he was sensitive to my point and didn't mean it that way. It was a nasty case of miscommunication and assumptions on both parts.

He really has some nice traits but just is hard bent on the distance issue. I thought we should've met first cus if we were grossed out by each other then this wouldn't even be an issue. :/

Life goes on.

Oh, Aquas.

Been flirting with the same Aqua for years and he's always the same flighty personality.