Dating a Leo - pulled back

I am so confused by this Leo Sun/Libra Moon guy. Took 2 months of us texting for him to finally ask me out. He has 2 jobs so work takes up his life 6 days of the week. Usually he gets home around 7p-8p.

We had fun text conversations. Then when we hung out first time it was great conversation for 3hrs. No pressure. He likes to ask a lot of relationship type questions and wants to build a relationship off of a solid friendship...

He says he needs a lot of attention and affection so I give it and he's surprised bc women he's dated waits for him and he doesn't like that... I give attention but he doesn't seem affected. I told him and he says that's the farthest from the truth. He says I'm special to him and something about me scares him/makes him nervous...

Well last Wed we end up sleeping together. I text him Thurs about nice time I had he thanked me and said he'd respond later bc he was slammed at work. He didn't get to it. Friday he sends me good morning gif and we exchange a couple of texts but not the usual banter and laughs we do. He also says he's never been late to work and he had been late every drop last week (I hung out with him 2x).

So Fri sat I give him space to work and rest and don't text him, he doesn't text either. Sun nothing from him so I send txt just saying thinking about you hope you are well. He says everything is everything..wth... and hope I had a good weekend. Today I heard nothing.

What's up with him? Should I give him attention or space?

We take night classes tonight... that's how we met...how should I act. I'm confused.

How should you act?

Be your authentic self.

This isn’t a play games, win prizes scenario.

That is my question. That's why I'm here lol. Referencing the first part of my question of should I give him attention. My authentic self wants to ignore hi. It isn't a game but he isn't communicating which he stressed was very important as did I.

Posted by Libralove813

That is my question. That's why I'm here lol. Referencing the first part of my question of should I give him attention. My authentic self wants to ignore hi. It isn't a game but he isn't communicating which he stressed was very important as did I.

O almost wasn't going to go. I just want to know why he's acting like that and if he needs space? No longer interested?

Don't text him at work unless he starts it. If your relationship escalation caused him to lose sight of work and be late, he may be weighing that in his head. Jokes make great icebreakers.

" this isn't going to work. Can't have you wrapped around my finger if it's effecting your work. No complaining when I tuck you in myself and call it a night next time😉"

Your over thinking this.

You’ve already reached out half a dozen times since y’all fucked. You’ve given him the attention he claims he wants.

All you need to do is show up looking 🔥 to the night class you both have.

And chill tf out. What will be, will be.

Posted by Lostthoughts

Don't text him at work unless he starts it. If your relationship escalation caused him to lose sight of work and be late, he may be weighing that in his head. Jokes make great icebreakers.

" this isn't going to work. Can't have you wrapped around my finger if it's effecting your work. No complaining when I tuck you in myself and call it a night next time😉"

Yeah I was the one trying to make him get up so he wasn't late. If I don't text him he'll take it as disinterest. He wants attention. I LOLd at that line... we'll see how it goes.

Thank you for your response

Posted by LadyNeptune

Your over thinking this.

You’ve already reached out half a dozen times since y’all fucked. You’ve given him the attention he claims he wants.

All you need to do is show up looking 🔥 to the night class you both have.

And chill tf out. What will be, will be.

I'm sure I am. But I like him and he's giving me nothing. And yes I'm looking 🔥. I always am. I'm sure that's what attracted him.

Thank you

Posted by frozenintime

Not gonna lie I am a Leo with a Libra moon and this guy sounds like me lol

I want people to come to me most of the time... I need to feel secure and especially since sleeping together he wants to know you’re still interested.

Just keep up how you are he may just be feeling more feelings since sleeping together and processing it in his head. Trust me the libra moon is always analyzing and taking time to process how they feel. Be patient and still show him you’re around.

But also another piece of advice. Put your foot down at times because... if he likes you he will definitely snap out of it in certain ways.

He seems serious and not being a player.

Thank you, Thank you. When you say keep up how I am do you mean prior to the sex with attention? These last two days I've only exchanged communication with him twice bc I wanted to give him space and allow him to reach out but he isn't unless I do.

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Not gonna lie I am a Leo with a Libra moon and this guy sounds like me lol

I want people to come to me most of the time... I need to feel secure and especially since sleeping together he wants to know you’re still interested.

Just keep up how you are he may just be feeling more feelings since sleeping together and processing it in his head. Trust me the libra moon is always analyzing and taking time to process how they feel. Be patient and still show him you’re around.

But also another piece of advice. Put your foot down at times because... if he likes you he will definitely snap out of it in certain ways.

He seems serious and not being a player.

Thank you, Thank you. When you say keep up how I am do you mean prior to the sex with attention? These last two days I've only exchanged communication with him twice bc I wanted to give him space and allow him to reach out but he isn't unless I do.

I would say reach out when you feel you want to. Don't resist or force anything... does this make sense?

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Thank you, Frozen. Yes it does. Even if it's me becoming the one that's regularly initiating? Do Leo-Libras not like to lead?

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Posted by frozenintime

Not gonna lie I am a Leo with a Libra moon and this guy sounds like me lol

I want people to come to me most of the time... I need to feel secure and especially since sleeping together he wants to know you’re still interested.

Just keep up how you are he may just be feeling more feelings since sleeping together and processing it in his head. Trust me the libra moon is always analyzing and taking time to process how they feel. Be patient and still show him you’re around.

But also another piece of advice. Put your foot down at times because... if he likes you he will definitely snap out of it in certain ways.

He seems serious and not being a player.

Thank you, Thank you. When you say keep up how I am do you mean prior to the sex with attention? These last two days I've only exchanged communication with him twice bc I wanted to give him space and allow him to reach out but he isn't unless I do.

I would say reach out when you feel you want to. Don't resist or force anything... does this make sense?

Thank you, Frozen. Yes it does. Even if it's me becoming the one that's regularly initiating? Do Leo-Libras not like to lead?

I prefer the other to take the lead until I am completely secure... then I may lighten up a bit but majority of the time that's how it is.

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Sigh....my Libra Sun/Taurus Moon is uncomfortable with this lol. My Libra likes to be pursued and know that I'm what he wants and is truly interested. Otherwise, how will I know he's not just being nice or stringing me along? This is going to be interesting. How long does it usually take? LMBO!

Posted by Libralove813

I am so confused by this Leo Sun/Libra Moon guy. Took 2 months of us texting for him to finally ask me out. He has 2 jobs so work takes up his life 6 days of the week. Usually he gets home around 7p-8p.

We had fun text conversations. Then when we hung out first time it was great conversation for 3hrs. No pressure. He likes to ask a lot of relationship type questions and wants to build a relationship off of a solid friendship...

He says he needs a lot of attention and affection so I give it and he's surprised bc women he's dated waits for him and he doesn't like that... I give attention but he doesn't seem affected. I told him and he says that's the farthest from the truth. He says I'm special to him and something about me scares him/makes him nervous...

Well last Wed we end up sleeping together. I text him Thurs about nice time I had he thanked me and said he'd respond later bc he was slammed at work. He didn't get to it. Friday he sends me good morning gif and we exchange a couple of texts but not the usual banter and laughs we do. He also says he's never been late to work and he had been late every drop last week (I hung out with him 2x).

So Fri sat I give him space to work and rest and don't text him, he doesn't text either. Sun nothing from him so I send txt just saying thinking about you hope you are well. He says everything is everything..wth... and hope I had a good weekend. Today I heard nothing.

What's up with him? Should I give him attention or space?

We take night classes tonight... that's how we met...how should I act. I'm confused.

He's busy. Don't read too much into it. Sounds like he let work slide to hang out with you and now he needs to focus on it.

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Posted by Libralove813

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Posted by frozenintime

Not gonna lie I am a Leo with a Libra moon and this guy sounds like me lol

I want people to come to me most of the time... I need to feel secure and especially since sleeping together he wants to know you’re still interested.

Just keep up how you are he may just be feeling more feelings since sleeping together and processing it in his head. Trust me the libra moon is always analyzing and taking time to process how they feel. Be patient and still show him you’re around.

But also another piece of advice. Put your foot down at times because... if he likes you he will definitely snap out of it in certain ways.

He seems serious and not being a player.

Thank you, Thank you. When you say keep up how I am do you mean prior to the sex with attention? These last two days I've only exchanged communication with him twice bc I wanted to give him space and allow him to reach out but he isn't unless I do.

I would say reach out when you feel you want to. Don't resist or force anything... does this make sense?

Thank you, Frozen. Yes it does. Even if it's me becoming the one that's regularly initiating? Do Leo-Libras not like to lead?

I prefer the other to take the lead until I am completely secure... then I may lighten up a bit but majority of the time that's how it is.

Sigh....my Libra Sun/Taurus Moon is uncomfortable with this lol. My Libra likes to be pursued and know that I'm what he wants and is truly interested. Otherwise, how will I know he's not just being nice or stringing me along? This is going to be interesting. How long does it usually take? LMBO!

Tell him this!

Let him know you can’t be the one to always initiate. If he really likes you he may step up a bit.

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I'll see how the rest of the week goes. One poster had a good point that maybe he's trying to get back focused on work, which I get. If it becomes a regular I'll just fall back to see if he will initiate. Thank you

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by Libralove813

I am so confused by this Leo Sun/Libra Moon guy. Took 2 months of us texting for him to finally ask me out. He has 2 jobs so work takes up his life 6 days of the week. Usually he gets home around 7p-8p.

We had fun text conversations. Then when we hung out first time it was great conversation for 3hrs. No pressure. He likes to ask a lot of relationship type questions and wants to build a relationship off of a solid friendship...

He says he needs a lot of attention and affection so I give it and he's surprised bc women he's dated waits for him and he doesn't like that... I give attention but he doesn't seem affected. I told him and he says that's the farthest from the truth. He says I'm special to him and something about me scares him/makes him nervous...

Well last Wed we end up sleeping together. I text him Thurs about nice time I had he thanked me and said he'd respond later bc he was slammed at work. He didn't get to it. Friday he sends me good morning gif and we exchange a couple of texts but not the usual banter and laughs we do. He also says he's never been late to work and he had been late every drop last week (I hung out with him 2x).

So Fri sat I give him space to work and rest and don't text him, he doesn't text either. Sun nothing from him so I send txt just saying thinking about you hope you are well. He says everything is everything..wth... and hope I had a good weekend. Today I heard nothing.

What's up with him? Should I give him attention or space?

We take night classes tonight... that's how we met...how should I act. I'm confused.

He's busy. Don't read too much into it. Sounds like he let work slide to hang out with you and now he needs to focus on it.

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You make a obvious but forgotten point. Thank you Chuckcem. I'll see how the rest of the week and maybe next week goes. If no better I'll just fall back until he's ready

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Posted by frozenintime

Not gonna lie I am a Leo with a Libra moon and this guy sounds like me lol

I want people to come to me most of the time... I need to feel secure and especially since sleeping together he wants to know you’re still interested.

Just keep up how you are he may just be feeling more feelings since sleeping together and processing it in his head. Trust me the libra moon is always analyzing and taking time to process how they feel. Be patient and still show him you’re around.

But also another piece of advice. Put your foot down at times because... if he likes you he will definitely snap out of it in certain ways.

He seems serious and not being a player.

Thank you, Thank you. When you say keep up how I am do you mean prior to the sex with attention? These last two days I've only exchanged communication with him twice bc I wanted to give him space and allow him to reach out but he isn't unless I do.

I would say reach out when you feel you want to. Don't resist or force anything... does this make sense?

Thank you, Frozen. Yes it does. Even if it's me becoming the one that's regularly initiating? Do Leo-Libras not like to lead?

I prefer the other to take the lead until I am completely secure... then I may lighten up a bit but majority of the time that's how it is.

Sigh....my Libra Sun/Taurus Moon is uncomfortable with this lol. My Libra likes to be pursued and know that I'm what he wants and is truly interested. Otherwise, how will I know he's not just being nice or stringing me along? This is going to be interesting. How long does it usually take? LMBO!

Tell him this!

Let him know you can’t be the one to always initiate. If he really likes you he may step up a bit.

Also what is the rest of his chart? Yours too?

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By chart is this what you mean:

Me / Him

Sun: Libra / Leo

Moon: Taurus / Libra

Mercury: Scorpio / Leo

Venus: Libra / Gemini

Mars: Leo / Gemini

Jupiter: Virgo / Gemini

Saturn: Virgo / Leo

Uranus: Scorpio / Scorpio

Neptune: Sagg / Sagg

Pluto: Libra /Libra

Quick update: Leo guy says he's a routine guy and that he needed to rest that's what he went quiet😏

Also, the sex caught him off guard... whatever that means, lol. He has been moving very slowly with things which I've also wondered about if he is really interested. This situation makes me wonder that even more.

I'm also noticing in our conversations that he's kind of shy/uneasy about talking about his thoughts/feelings and other things which surprises me about this Leo-Libra.

Any way. Just gonna pull back a little and not get my emotions so involved until I know what he wants

Posted by Libralove813

Quick update: Leo guy says he's a routine guy and that he needed to rest that's what he went quiet😏

Also, the sex caught him off guard... whatever that means, lol. He has been moving very slowly with things which I've also wondered about if he is really interested. This situation makes me wonder that even more.

I'm also noticing in our conversations that he's kind of shy/uneasy about talking about his thoughts/feelings and other things which surprises me about this Leo-Libra.

Any way. Just gonna pull back a little and not get my emotions so involved until I know what he wants

Leos are not as emotionally effusive as most people believe, at least not until we know the person can be trusted. Basically if you like a Leo, don't pull back. That will only create more confusion.

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by Libralove813

Quick update: Leo guy says he's a routine guy and that he needed to rest that's what he went quiet😏

Also, the sex caught him off guard... whatever that means, lol. He has been moving very slowly with things which I've also wondered about if he is really interested. This situation makes me wonder that even more.

I'm also noticing in our conversations that he's kind of shy/uneasy about talking about his thoughts/feelings and other things which surprises me about this Leo-Libra.

Any way. Just gonna pull back a little and not get my emotions so involved until I know what he wants

Leos are not as emotionally effusive as most people believe, at least not until we know the person can be trusted. Basically if you like a Leo, don't pull back. That will only create more confusion.

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I'll keep this in mind. It's difficult. Give me something Leo man. I guess him responding is his something in his mind.

Thanks again Chuckcem