Has anyone else ran into this?

Hi all.. Just now getting back into the swing of things after the death of my beloved Jim.. and it is tough. I was so accustomed to his personality and little quirks (He was Cancer.. all the way!) and I loved it...we got along great.

Recently, I have been talking with a gentleman that is a Leo... just like me.. but we have same birthday.. only different years. It has kinda been interesting to see the similaries in the two of us. Anyone here ever dated or been in a relationship with someone born on the same day? Is this a good thing or am I headed for a train wreck here?

hi Patricia,

i'm sorry to hear abot the loss of Jim. when did it happen?

though my lionman and i don't share the same bday (we are one week apart) we do "connect". perhaps by sharing the same sun sign and core values, we are mirrors of each other to a minor degree. there is a sense of familiarity and mutuality. of course we've faced challenges because we live far apart (for now) and we both get stressed running our own businesses but ultimately we are real with each other. he challenges me and is my best friend. it's a well balanced and positive relationship which each of us give priority to. my lionman makes me very happy 🙂

Patricia, go for it and stay positive! you never know.....this leo you have met might make you happy and give you companionship filled with love, honesty and support. and that wouldn't be a bad thing 😉

Sorry I was so vague. Thank you all so much for your kind words. Yes, Jim passed away April 22, 2008. I had spent the previous week with him and if things had turned out the way we had planned on New Years Ever this coming year we would have been married. I returned home on Monday, talked with him twice that night after I had gotten home. Talked a couple of times through the week. I received a call one week and one day after the last time I saw him that he had passed away suddenly. His son found him sitting at his desk. He said it just looked like he laid his head down on the computer desk and went to sleep.

I am sure some people will think that I am moving along with my life too fast. I guess you just do what you have to do to get by. I have lost loved ones before but never has anything been such a blow to me. My mind is constantly envisioning him laughing, I have dreams about him (which never happened before, and when time allows (I have to go to work) I would like to share something very special that happened after his passing. To me it was his way of saying.. "It's ok, girl... I don't want you to be sad.)

Please note that I did say "talking" not dating. I'm not doing THAT well yet. But I know the time will come when I am going to have to just move on and I am trying to get to that point. It's tough...

Thank you again for all the kind words and support I receive from this group. I don't post a lot.. but I do enjoy the friendship and encouragement I receive here.

Keep me in your thoughts and prayers.. this is a rough road to travel... I guess "baby steps" are in order.

patricia, it's touching how much you cared for this man. and with any luck you won't have to forget the good times. but i definitely recommend you take a little more time to try and get over this man before testing the waters elsewhere. simply because you're not in a condition to commit yourself to anyone else while still attached to his memories. from your last post it seems like you might already know that, but i just wanna tell you just in case. eventually, finding someone else will be good for you because it will remind you that you can love again. but you're gonna need time to reach that point.

don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with talking to another man. just don't rush into something hoping to find comfort.

Patricia, I am so sorry for you loss. I will keep you in my prayers. I know how you feel because I lost my brother on April 16, 2008. I can say I pray alot now more than I used to do and I get out and do extra things with my life.

I have my brother in my memories and he was a very good father, husband and good provider for his family. You will be in my prayers and my God bless you.

Some times talking to another person during your bereavement time can actually help you feel alot better and you will not be down as much. Leo's like to listen to others and we will stick by you for good or bad.