Heart or Head?

This topic was created in the Leo forum by Thetis on Monday, October 22, 2007 and has 23 replies.

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Which do Leo's tend to be ruled by?

Just wondering are you practical when it comes to affairs of the heart or do you get swept up in the romance of it all.

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"But once you've proven your self all your efforts will never stay unnoticed"

Proven yourself in what way Proverbs?

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That doesn't seem like too hard a task, I've had way more expected of me than just loyalty. For me that's pretty much a given in a relationship anyway.

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Thanks Proverbs - that makes sense. So friendship is first and foremost to a Leo when it comes to relationships then.

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"That doesn't seem like too hard a task, I've had way more expected of me than just loyalty. For me that's pretty much a given in a relationship anyway."

oh it can be hard Thetis, it means acceptance, it means when he's being a total ass your still there for him, holding strong, it means believing in him when he doesn't believe in himself or the relationship...it can get deep

okay! lol

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Well I survived an Aqua male for 2 and a half years and many of my previous ex's have been Cancers so I think I'm fairly well equiped in that sense! 😛

Giving is what I do best.

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Chocolate I'm a Pisces - but not a very typical Pisces at all I have Taurus rising, moon in Gemini, Venus in Aries and Mercury + Mars in Aquarius.

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LOL@Proverbs

personality wise your a lot like my leo, I pick up fast with the way you think, your a strong leo, know what you want, a mystery and most Aquas love mystery, atleast I do, I bet your a sweetheart all through and through but it takes time to see that side of you but when you unleash its magical.

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Thanks Chocolate I get you - I just wondered if Leo's are more prone to rationalise their relationships or it they're more likely to jump first and ask questions later.

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their are some thinkers out their inregards to leo men falling in love... he's more than likely chosen you before you said hello.

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Thanks guys everything you're giving me is proving to be really useful.

"Be confident and secure within yourself, no whining, nagging, constantly asking are we okay type of behavior, it will make him run even more"

Tiki I learned this early on with Mr Aqua, thankfully I'm a lot like that too, not that I pull away as such....I just like having my own space, so will allow others the same courtesy without any resentment.

I've just had no experience with Leo's in a romantic sense so I'm still trying to suss out where he's coming from. The signs all appear to be good thus far though.

LK said something before about not changing who you are to suit someone else and I totally agree. With this guy I'm just trying to gain a better understanding of how he's likely to be approaching the relationship. It's not about getting the upper hand or being able to anticipate him, it's about finding out a little bit about how he ticks.

As I said before Chocolate I do have that great Piscean intuition, although it is often better applied when I'm not emotionally involved. I was in a situation with a previous ex that everyone else could see except me, and I still wonder to this day how I missed all the signs, I guess I just saw what I wanted to believe.

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The main reason I asked about the practical side though was because of the distance between us, would a Leo therefore enter into a relationship that's entirely impractical (at least for the moment) if they really felt something? Or would they dismiss their feelings because of the logistics issue?

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"How much distance??"

lol, it's a 3 hour flight he is in Spain I'm in the UK.

This is why I am asking, he knew this and did say something about having to be careful and that he would normally not get involved because of this. However he also said that it's rare he finds someone he clicks so well with - I did get the impression there was some turmoil there. There was on my part too. He is however coming to stay with me for a week in December, and I'm going back out in February for 2 weeks.

We did discuss what would happen after that, and moving to Spain was something that's been on my mind since the last time I was there anyway - my sister is very keen to go too so it's not like I would be going on my own OR moving just for him.

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"you can't bank on him feeling the same way 6 months later..."

I don't expect anything from him in that way Tiki, we talked about what would happen if one of us "met" someone else....because you have to be realistic in these situations.

I've told him that I don't expect him to wait for me as such, it's different for me because I'm just out of a relationship so the break will do me good. Besides I'm not really one for casual affairs, and I don't "click" with someone romantically very often at all.

But I don't want him to feel under any pressure to do the same, we're different people and just because I make a choice doesn't mean to say I expect him to do the same. We have however promised each other to at least be honest if we do meet someone else, but we're both adament we want to remain friends because at the very least a good friendship will come out of this - and to be honest if that's all it ends up being then I'll be happy with that.

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Chocolate I understand and don't worry I would never move away from home (especially to a different country!) unless it was right for me. I wouldn't even move in with my ex (before we split up) because it didn't feel right and I knew I wouldn't be happy.

The Spain thing is something I have been thinking about for a while, with my sister. What we plan on doing is going out for 6 months next year to see how we get on, we've already looked into it and we're lucky in that our parents are 100% behind us (as in from a support point of view) as they too are hoping to move out there permenantly in a couple of years time.

So as I said even if it ends up just being a friendship then that's still a plus.

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Thanks Chocolate. 🙂

I know it's early days but I'm positive because the way I see it either way it's a win/win situation. If I don't gain a partner I've at least gained a good friend. And that in itself will come in handy during my time in Spain!

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I am sooo excited about going, I would actually go tomorrow if I could I love it there. But I know it's important to plan ahead - all good things come to those who wait as they say! 😉

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Exactly. 🙂

I do think having a realistic approach and a positive outlook help though. I'm not going to Spain thinking that it'll be the answer to all my prayers and that whatever problems/issues I've had here will mysteriously "vanish" upon arrival lol.

It's just something I really want to do and, whatever happens, I'll at least I've had that experience.

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So I am realistic, but also looking at it as being a positive step, at least from an experience point of view.

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"Life is about taking risks, so take them when need be. I do, because i have faith in myself and a positive outlook on life and my higher power gave me that tool to use to my fullest capabilites"

That is such a good attitude to have Chocolate.

And I will certainly try, although Mr Leo still has my head up in the clouds in some ways lol. 😛

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Thanks Nyx and RFL - I have to say I have a very similar outlook when it comes to relationships, so that makes sense.

Proverbs I've already thought about that lol. I'll a fairly good cook but what I would like to do is master his favourite local dish from his home because I like to make an effort and I thought that would be something he would appreciate being in a foreign country.