Help me understand this leo girl...

Ok, after she heavily liked my facebook profile for a few weeks I decided to hang out with her. I had no particular intrest in pursuing a relationship right now, but our common friends told me that she liked me. So I said: she seems to be a cute girl (3 yo smaller than me) so why not try and talk to her?

All fine, I met her, she seemed to like me so I was trying to be nice and talk to her... Even if I liked her a little bit I wanted to be friends first, so thats why I was more open and talkative than I usually am when I want to seduce someone. The 2nd time I've met her we talked a lot and we had some chemestry too, then I walked her home and we had an akward "girls want to be kissed" scene... I didn't wanted to kiss her, for me it was too damn soon, so after a few seconds of awkwardness she hugged me and I kissed her on the cheek. It was the thing that I was the most comfortable with. I was not born yesterday, I know is better to play it safe until you know her.

After that I felt guilt for not kissing her, so I started to dubt myself and I became a little bit insecure. The next day, it was rainy and I didn't wanted to met her, but my best friend dragged me in a meeting. The thing is that I talked to her, but I was feeling like hell and she sensed that vibe. I know that I probably looked like that guy she probably wanted to friendzone, but I was having just a shiity day, nothing more.

The next day I boosted up my moral hard and I've bounced in the confident "I don't really care" normal aries state (yeah aries here). I look clearly on the situation an I realised that all I want inside is to be friends with this girl and maybe after see what's happening. I sent her a quick message telling her that we might see eachoter after a day or so and I choosed her one of my old architecture drawing for her to use as a poster (we talked about that).

Ok, a little break in the story here, I want to repeat myself: In that day I just realised that I don't like this girl that much as I tought, and for me is totally fine to stay nice to her just to be friends for now and let things flow. So I'be cooled myself really well at this point.

Now here is the thing: later that evening, after that short chat she message me out of the blue telling me the classic "I have the sensation we are going to fast, I came after a long relationship... etc." thing. I guess she espected me to be somehow affected by this, but for me it was a little bit hillarious because I was feeling just the same and in the same time it somehow hurted my pride. So I told her the dull truth about how I felt. I was like, "you're funny" " don't worry" "My friends told me that you liked me so I didn't know exactly how to treat you" "You are a cool girl so I didn't wanted to ignore you totally like I usually do" "Anyway, I'm not the kind to jump that fast in a relationship". She totally wasn't expecting this, and bet this slapped hard her ego. She was like "Im glad we disscused this" that... so

Good job. Wtf. Troublesome much?

... To me sounded really affected. I was like "is ok, like I said you don't have to worry 🙂)". In that moment I guess she realised she have done a really big mistake telling me that, because, yeah we had a great time togheter, and she made an really egoistical presumption in a tipic Leo way.

Like "I am the center of the universe and this guy is totally worshipping me." and I then got hitted by the fact that I'm not that hard into her and she just make a fool of herself telling me that thing after just 3 days after I've met her, and she probably losed all my respect by taking my frienship and kindness for granted.

After like 15 minutes she post a sad song on her wall, and I've got the feeling that what I've told her hurted her. Funny, isn't it?

Now, the real question here: What to do with this girl fellow leos? I find her cute, so I could give her a second chance and still continue to talk to her like nothing happened or I could plain ignore her right now and make things even harder for her. I'm ok with both at this point.

Whats your opinion?

My opinion is that you are both terribly immature, and you, specifically, are ridiculous?

You didn't want to look desperate because you thought she had this silly idea of you being overtly infatuated with her, so you completely made her look like a fool.

And now yourself, being online asking for advice after you two clearly have demolished any chances together after three days lol

Posted by JoPodie
My opinion is that you are both terribly immature, and you, specifically, are ridiculous?

You didn't want to look desperate because you thought she had this silly idea of you being overtly infatuated with her, so you completely made her look like a fool.

And now yourself, being online asking for advice after you two clearly have demolished any chances together after three days lol

Ok, consider this, I was I nicest I could with this girl even if I'm not that social at all. I admit it, I feel like most people dont deserve my time, but I forced myself to keep in touch with her even if I felt the urge to ignore her. I also wanted just to be friends, even if I fond her to be cute and I felt free to show her that I liked her, I didn't wanted to rush anything.

By telling me that, literally without a solid reason (like if I asked her to be my girlfriend or just to even say "i like you") she treat me like a total idiot. And you expect me to get over it. Now I'am guilty for beeing honest with her!? (because even if it was sharp it was the truth) She made a fool of herself alone by telling me that.

And one more thing... I asked here for advice to now that this kind of ppl act like this by mistake and I should forgive and get over this shiit she was about to give me or get the **** out of this whole thing.

I'm curious what would you do in my situation, if you are so mature as you give the impression?

I m not a leo bt from a girl's perspective... If u r not intrested it's better to leave things right here coz after u gv her a second chance n still not get interested.. It ll end up hurting her even more.......... '!!!

Posted by Libra8751
I m not a leo bt from a girl's perspective... If u r not intrested it's better to leave things right here coz after u gv her a second chance n still not get interested.. It ll end up hurting her even more.......... '!!!

i like her, and it pretty much hurt me when she said that... I'm not used to be nice with ppl (aries tho, I know my flaws) but I really tried with her. Why did she said that? Did she realised that in that moment she was totally humiliating me because I just opened up to her?

And what do you expected after? I'm not the kind to cry about it... So is logical that I snapped back. I still want to be friends with her, but no girl will ever put me down again. Not after the major heartbreak I've got last summer.

Aww you both sound kinda young but totally cute.
I get where @JoPodie comin from tho...

I adore Aries boys, it's a match made- but it can have an awful lot of moments like this, with misunderstandings and butting of heads and hurt feelings Hahaha I wouldn't sweat it too much.
Just ride it out and you'll both be friends in no time. Just the initial phase of working out which zone you belong in can make things hairy @_@
JUST DONT FUCK AROUND WITH HER HEART FOR REAL if you decide to take her for a test drive.
It's not gonna roll well. She may seem typically arrogant for a Leo but it's really not meant to be holier than thou, we can get read the wrong way sometimes when we just have strong self esteem lol and we invest heavily in people we dig, even if it's just in our daydreams.
Personally, I wouldn't contemplate keeping her on the back burner as a potential love interest. Just maintain the pace and keep it at friendship level.
You can probably do more for each other as buds then romantically together. 🙂

so....you hung out and both of you didn't want to rush things....
what is there to understand? lmao xD

seems fine!
I do want to say good job for being honest about your intentions
super ★ðŸ‘

Ok, I will still talk to her and give her attention if you say this is the right thing to do. Friends now, so she could stay chill.

I will act like nothing happened and hope she won't try to make things awkward again...

Hope this answer is mature enough for all of you posting here 😆

Posted by AriesFireKnight

Posted by Libra8751
I m not a leo bt from a girl's perspective... If u r not intrested it's better to leave things right here coz after u gv her a second chance n still not get interested.. It ll end up hurting her even more.......... '!!!

i like her, and it pretty much hurt me when she said that... I'm not used to be nice with ppl (aries tho, I know my flaws) but I really tried with her. Why did she said that? Did she realised that in that moment she was totally humiliating me because I just opened up to her?

And what do you expected after? I'm not the kind to cry about it... So is logical that I snapped back. I still want to be friends with her, but no girl will ever put me down again. Not after the major heartbreak I've got last summer.

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U can just stay frnds then... N see how things work out... It's a good thing that u r honest with ur feelings.. Just make sure she knows how u feel.... So that she doesn't end up having high hopes..... All the best..††††††

Posted by lovinglioness1115
Don't touch her anymore. Once you hurt Leos, we're done with you. Yes, we forgive very easily when we really like someone, but you offended her pretty badly. Unless she forgives you after you apologize to her for being too blunt with her, don't touch her anymore. If I were her, I'd be done with you.

Also, just keep in mind for any future encounters with Leos, that as much as we like to hear the truth, we can't stand it if the person we're hearing it from is blunt. We don't take hard honesty well. We just take sensitive honesty well.

Hey, I really know I was rude... For God's sake, I've been trough all kind of shitt with girls and all of them ended up using me and making me feel horrible. I cared everytime to the point of losing myself, and I liked this girl too, a lot... You know, first time I heard that " I come after a very long relationship" apology I took it very seriously and I waited like half a year giving space and care every girl needs in this kind of situation. A shoulder to cry on I told myself... She left me heartbroken when I saw her with someone else and afterwards I found out that she didn't liked that guy very much and she just wanted a relationship. I lost a girl I care about in a long distance relationship, I sent letters to her every week, I've called her, I've worked for money to have the possibility to visit her, just to find out that she was fuckking with a getto punk-head... I suffered a lot for this stuff, because I was the kind of guy who would spend all the money in his pocket just to buy as many roses as he can... I was the kind of guy who listen all her dreams and make plans to work hard and fulfill all of them. I tried to be perfect, I tried my best to take care of them and I failed miserably everytime. I hated myself afterwards and I spent a lot of time (at least half of an year) to recover myself. Idk, how most people deal with this stuff but on me they left deep scars.

Half a year has passed from the point I told myself "I'm ok again" and I just ignored women after that. I promised myself I would never let one put me down ever again and I acted in a detached manner, ignoring everyone of them showing interest in me... I had no interest in pursuing any kind of relationship and I was content with the way I was, until she came around, she smiled to me and I just started to talk to her in a way I didn't belived I could talk to a girl again. I just opened up to her, with all my hearth so she can see what kind of silly, stupid boy is hiding in there... I literally DIDN'T done that except 2 or 3 times in my life. And then the message she sent me... THE SAME STUPID FAKE APOLOGIZE girls use when they want to reject someone without they noticing or being hurt.

Posted by lovinglioness1115
Don't touch her anymore. Once you hurt Leos, we're done with you. Yes, we forgive very easily when we really like someone, but you offended her pretty badly. Unless she forgives you after you apologize to her for being too blunt with her, don't touch her anymore. If I were her, I'd be done with you.

But I noticed and I was definitley hurt... It hurted a lot, it wasn't funny at all, I was damn mad and I kept told this thing to myself just to hide the pain from everyone else... I told it here too with the hope that at least some people on the internet will belive me, and they will not think I am a walking disaster...

It hurt me so bad that I wanted her to suffer the same, because it was no way I would let someone cross my feelings again and leave laughing... So I told her the things that I knew would hurt her pride the most, because I knew it was a big deal of pride in the fact that she told me that... I knew how badly it will hurt but i didn't knew that she was different from the other girls I've encountered and she actually cared about me... After that I realised I was an big idiott and this time I was the bad guy. I felt sorry, and I still feel sorry, but I don't know what to do...

Yesterday I apologize telling her that I was dumb, I told her stupid things and i want her forgiveness, but she ask me after for what i am apologizing... I told her it doesn't matter and I just ended up the conversation. And I need someone to help me with this... Hope you understanded me...

Posted by AriesFireKnight
... she made an really egoistical presumption in a tipic Leo way.

And you didn't?


😆

You should have humbled yourself and told her exactly what you were apologizing for.