His a leo banker have i messed up again!!!:(

This is my first post although whenever I go through issues with men I tend to find myself here reading! Trying to sooth myself. I need help!😢 I am an aquarius 26th Jan and his a leo 20th August. We exchanged number on a dating app August last year. I didn't want to meet him as I thought his only been in my home country for a year so I ignore most of his messages for a month as I thought he may not want a serious relationship then finally I agreeded a month and a bit later. First date few dates he was a little nervous if I started a topic he would chat. The first few vists to his home he was still very nervous around me. He would txt me everyday and said he wanted a serious relationship but with no pressure. We are both in are early 30. His had a 7 year relationship and a 1.5. Which i thought was good.

He works as a banker works long hours and travels some what with work, his always busy with friends or family and admits he us very busy😢 but will try amd make time for me. Even though he says he doesn't really have time for a GF.
My problem is or are. He doesn't want to come to my place as he says I live too far, I should always come to him. I understand that he doesnt drive and i do and he finshes work late so I can kind of understand. However it seems everything is on his terms. I feel like he squeezes me in only when he has time or is convenient for him. And when we do meet its always at his place.. With making love at the top of the agenda usually thats why he invites me over. I thought I would see how it goes for a while. It seems like he was starting to change he makes promises of coming to mine and taking me to dinner although it didn't happen last time he says I upset him over the wkend! Is this a valid excuse? I feel like his trying to manipulate me he said i upset him that's why we didnt go.. i told him how selfish he was amd he thinks if him first he didn't like this.i can't hold back my thoughts. HE said i complain to much.I Feel compeled to say ok ill try not to. The thing is I can be a lil insulting if annoyed or if he cancels or says his tired last minute.. I'd usually say your selfish I hate men like you ..eekk! But then by the next day I'm so apologitic he normally says very little for a wk or so then we make up again by me hinting at sex and missing him. But the last time I had a go at him. I went over board with the insults I swearing and telling him to fuck his friends his good at being a asshole ekk! I'm so sweet and qui

*I told him to fuck his friends. His good at being a asshole. ..eekk
I am so sweet and calm norally.

Yeaa😢( I don't understand how men can be like this omg

Thank you very much for taking the time to reply. You are right, I have to take a closer looK at his actions and wonder, he is a very intelligent man and is using control and manipulation I think. Physically his very weak I.e small frame short but mentally his very strong. How can u tell me you miss me and love me while I'm away On holidays but when I'm bck not see me for 5 days say you are busy thrn the actual day we are scedule to meet me and my child say u are ill but yet manage to head out later that evening . Yes he is truly taking the P out of me. Thank u just typing this out makes me think! i think he just don't care at all or is playing a very controling game.