Leo man Virgo woman. Do leo men forgive?

I've a Virgo woman and I've been dating a Leo man for 14 months. He's separated from his wife due to her cheating. They have 3 teens together. When were started dating it was more of a friendship with benefits but he asked to make it monogamous so I did. I'm very close with his family and became friends with his sisters. A few months ago he pulled away from me so he could figure out himself and his marriage. He said that he loved me but that he had never lived on his own and he wanted to have his own place instead of moving in with me. I can respect that. But I wasn't used to how he pulled away and I'd go a month without seeing him although he'd call or message almost everyday. I accused him of cheating and he denies it. He says I'm still the one but he's getting over the fact that his wife wants to end the marriage. We started arguing a lot verbally because his words of love weren't matching his lack of actions. Not to mention it's been 4 months since we've had sex and he's going through some serious financial struggles right now.

In a moment of weakness I confided in his sister a few things going on in our relationship and of course she went back to him to discuss it. He was furious with me and said he will no longer confide in me. I told him I know he hates me and I'm sorry but all of what he's going thru and how it's affected our relationship made me drop my self esteem. I told him I was wrong. He says he doesn't hate me he just dislikes my ways.

I haven't heard from him in 2 days and the last thing I said is we shouldn't be together if we're going to argue so much. I told him I would stay away and said sorry again. I received no response. We always disagree but I've never betrayed his trust before and I'm scared he's gone for good. I love him and I know he loves me but I'm not sure if he will forgive me this time.

I make him accountable when his behavior or treatment of me is not acceptable and he does the same for me. Things were great until feelings developed then it got crazy with his and my emotions.

Should I just wait it out? Is it over or is it not over until he tells me it is?

Patient Virgo

Can you please explain how do you hold someone accountable? is their actions and words? I really think actions speak louder than words...

Some major read flags.. unless the guy is divorced he may go back to the ex, for the kids.....

If you argeed to FWB then it would probably remain that, and don't get attached to separated men, wait till the divorce is final or move on....... ..

He's been cheated on take extra care in that. Just be friends..

Do you accept his kids since you don't have any with him? And you should not btw..

Oh never confide in the relatives about your personal love life about you two.. That's a major disappointment and turn off.. So much he quit coming to you..Especially if the guy only has sisters. oh boy if they don't like you and even if they do.. Do you really think they are not going to say anything to their big brother..Never go to his mother either..

This is all about communication, respect, and honesty..

Idk about you but if I was hurt and just been cheated on..I would want to do things for myself and not jump into a relationship right away, after all that drama... And might just want to have no strings attached... That's where you come in at, since you cross those boundaries already..

There's dilemmas here.. Its up to you..

TaurianWoman
When we started dating neither of us wanted a relationship but things just blossomed and we found ourselves falling in love. It was then at that time I told him he needed to start figuring out what he was doing with his marriage because his wife wasn't showing any interest in getting back with him and she had a boyfriend as well.

He said she knew about me because she saw his change in demeanor when things got serious with us. I haven't met his kids because I didn't want them to look at me as the woman who kept their parents from getting back together if the kids felt they would. I told him I would meet them only after he actually decided to end the marriage.
I know now that I never should have listened and talked to his mom and sister. They told me to go find someone to be with while he was figuring his life out. But I'm not that type of girl, I can't and don't jump from man to man because I don't mind being single until I meet the right one.

When I said accountable I meant we our communication real with each other. We were not just in the relationship for companionship, we wanted to help each other grow. Grow emotionally, mentally, spiritually and in our careers. We pushed each other. We've both been promoted at work since we've been together. This was important because his ex was good living check to check with poor money management and he wasn't. I work in finance to that's my strong area which we clicked on.

Youare right though, the disagreements and issues revolve around his pending marriage. That's what I think started making me feel insecure in the relationship because I never had a problem before. Time to let this one go... Gonna be hard.. His family calls me more than he does to come over. They say they love having me around and eve if he's not with me I'm in the family permanently. My family isn't like that so this is kind of weird and new to me.

But most importantly, do Leo men forgive a violation of confidentiality? I've never done anything like that before but when the mom and sister started asking questions I answered thinking they may know more than me. I was wrong. I feel like being around them fostered started insecurity...

Insecurities are popping up like daisies because you accepted the backseat in his life and are now regretting the choice to settle for third or fourth best.

Given his current situation, his WIFE (not ex, not yet), his children and himself are things that need to be taken care of/resolved, and they ALL come before you.

That is what you signed up for, starry eyes or not. There was never any room in his life for you apart from the backseat, not at the moment. If you're only realizing that now and you're not okay with that, then you know what to do.


As for breaking confidentiality, I would see that as a serious act of disloyalty and I'm not sure I would go back to someone who did that. Keep in mind I tend to take privacy and loyalty more seriously than most and while I generally have very few boundaries, once crossed I don't look back.


Honestly at the end of the day, don't you deserve more? It takes more than feelings or chemistry to create a healthy, loving and fulfilling relationship. Why are you settling for anything less than that?

When it was good it was great. I guess I keep hoping that when he said he loved me that he really meant it. I mean the wife cheated with another man but yet he hasn't divorced her. I felt what she did was worse... But you're right... I just find it hard to believe that he could just stop loving me like instantly and walk.