LEO Men

I'm seeing this leo guy who is very busy due to his job. He has some un-business issues that he needs to complete; such waiting for the couch for his new place. He wants to have a house warming soon. I keep contact by text and on phone calls. But we haven't been hanging out. I told me about past relationship and his life on our 2nd date. His heart has been crushed due to the past relationship which makes me feel like he has been opening up. He says he's still hurt about it. I'm not sure when he is going to open up to me at all. How can I help him to open up and move on. We have a great time when we meet up. We just chat away or mostly he did the chatting. It felt like he just wanted someone to listen to and to be cared for. I never met anyone who is open to tell me those personal thinks before. What do you guys think?

i think you should tread very carefully. it's not really up to you to make him open up and you can't help him move on either...unless you;re prepared to be the rebound girl. let him take the lead on all communications but don't make yourself too available to him otherwise you'll be in danger of becoming a 'stepping stone' from one relationship to another and all that will happen is that you'll get trodden on in the process.

i was squashed in this way. it's not nice but it's what happens when you get involved with someone who is confused about what they want. feelings for ex's take longer to die than it takes to develop feelings for someone else.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
i think you should tread very carefully. it's not really up to you to make him open up and you can't help him move on either...unless you;re prepared to be the rebound girl. let him take the lead on all communications but don't make yourself too available to him otherwise you'll be in danger of becoming a 'stepping stone' from one relationship to another and all that will happen is that you'll get trodden on in the process.

i was squashed in this way. it's not nice but it's what happens when you get involved with someone who is confused about what they want. feelings for ex's take longer to die than it takes to develop feelings for someone else.

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He's a busy man. I try not to text him as much. I try to invite him to events or dinners bc he doesn't know a lot of ppl here beside his coworkers. I try not to push him and let him heal from his past. He said he will open up to me someday. He always texts me back so thats good right? Before I decided to give him more time on healing I would text him good morning and good nite. I have cut that down to randomly texting him. Should I just stop texting and just wait for him to initially text me instead. I still want him to know that I care for him. I mean it's nice when I have someone to ask how is ur day.

Posted by scorpiophoenix

He's a busy man.
I try to invite him to events or dinners bc he doesn't know a lot of ppl here beside his coworkers.
I try not to push him and let him heal from his past.
He said he will open up to me someday. -------.
------ I still want him to know that I care for him.
I mean it's nice when I have someone to ask how is ur day.

I personally think Leos are very resilient by temperament. Even bad past can't pull us down for long, most Leos do not harbour pain, disappointment and resentment for long, our zest for life overcomes the past bad experience pretty quickly . And most Leos know how to value love, friendship and companionship more than any other sign.
And we like to go for quests.If love and companionship is a quest,we would surely go for it,believing that somewhere there is a prize for us, which we have to claim.

So, as Rig rightly said be very careful because the information you have provided shows that it's more of a convenience for him to have someone as an emotional vent.
You said you want him to know that you care for him---why don't you let him find it ? If he cared he would strive to find out, so let him, instead of telling/showing him yourself.

hi all im a tarus female and my ex bf is a leo born the7th of august.. we were seeing each other last yr for bout 3months n we fell in love..it was all happening so fast n i couldnt handle it n we had a break..we got back after a week n everything was ok but he seemed distant..so iwe decided to end it but i still have feelings for him after a yr..i got back in contact wit him bout bout a month ago n i told him dat i dtill had feelings for him..n he replued d sane said dat he never stops thinkin bout me..we met up for a chat,but as soon as he seen me he was very turned on if u no wot i mean!!! he woukdnt stop touching me n kept bringin up bout how great the sex was between us..it made me uncomfortable to b honest coz it made me think dat was all he was interested in..he said no n dat he did love me n stuff..he text me dat night and d next day..but dat night he said ge was babysitting his sisters kids and i havent heard a word from him..is he just tryin to mess wit my head?? someone please help!!!!

Posted by bellamee
hi all im a tarus female and my ex bf is a leo born the7th of august.. we were seeing each other last yr for bout 3months n we fell in love..it was all happening so fast n i couldnt handle it n we had a break..we got back after a week n everything was ok but he seemed distant..so iwe decided to end it but i still have feelings for him after a yr..i got back in contact wit him bout bout a month ago n i told him dat i dtill had feelings for him..n he replued d sane said dat he never stops thinkin bout me..we met up for a chat,but as soon as he seen me he was very turned on if u no wot i mean!!! he woukdnt stop touching me n kept bringin up bout how great the sex was between us..it made me uncomfortable to b honest coz it made me think dat was all he was interested in..he said no n dat he did love me n stuff..he text me dat night and d next day..but dat night he said ge was babysitting his sisters kids and i havent heard a word from him..is he just tryin to mess wit my head?? someone please help!!!!

OK,
I would be brave and try to apply to me what I said in " huge Confusion ", to my fellows,

wot do u think shahbanno??

Posted by bellamee
hi all im a tarus female and my ex bf is a leo born the7th of august.. we were seeing each other last yr for bout 3months n we fell in love..it was all happening so fast n i couldnt handle it n we had a break..we got back after a week n everything was ok but he seemed distant..so iwe decided to end it but i still have feelings for him after a yr..i got back in contact wit him bout bout a month ago n i told him dat i dtill had feelings for him..n he replued d sane said dat he never stops thinkin bout me..we met up for a chat,but as soon as he seen me he was very turned on if u no wot i mean!!! he woukdnt stop touching me n kept bringin up bout how great the sex was between us..it made me uncomfortable to b honest coz it made me think dat was all he was interested in..he said no n dat he did love me n stuff..he text me dat night and d next day..but dat night he said ge was babysitting his sisters kids and i havent heard a word from him..is he just tryin to mess wit my head?? someone please help!!!!

no not messing with your head, he just wanted sex - game over for you now if you're smart.

Posted by bellamee
hi all im a tarus female and my ex bf is a leo born the7th of august.. we were seeing each other last yr for bout 3months n we fell in love..it was all happening so fast n i couldnt handle it n we had a break..we got back after a week n everything was ok but he seemed distant..so iwe decided to end it but i still have feelings for him after a yr..i got back in contact wit him bout bout a month ago n i told him dat i dtill had feelings for him..n he replued d sane said dat he never stops thinkin bout me..we met up for a chat,but as soon as he seen me he was very turned on if u no wot i mean!!! he woukdnt stop touching me n kept bringin up bout how great the sex was between us..it made me uncomfortable to b honest coz it made me think dat was all he was interested in..he said no n dat he did love me n stuff..he text me dat night and d next day..but dat night he said ge was babysitting his sisters kids and i havent heard a word from him..is he just tryin to mess wit my head?? someone please help!!!!

er, ok, you said that you could not handle the things as they were going too fast for you, so you decided to break up and then got together because you still had feelings for him ?
he was distant in the 2nd innings, in my opinion he was justified in his behaviour---you can't turn on and off and then on relationships just like this. you then again initiated the contact and you are put off that he was turned on ? and then he did not text you after one day of texting and you got worried ?

Give each other a real break, i mean do you know what both of you want from each other or from this particular relationship.
One day's absence from texting duty is not a big dereliction of duty, I assure you.

How old are both of you ? just asking-

Posted by scorpiophoenix
I'm seeing this leo guy who is very busy due to his job. He has some un-business issues that he needs to complete; such waiting for the couch for his new place. He wants to have a house warming soon. I keep contact by text and on phone calls. But we haven't been hanging out. I told me about past relationship and his life on our 2nd date. His heart has been crushed due to the past relationship which makes me feel like he has been opening up. He says he's still hurt about it. I'm not sure when he is going to open up to me at all. How can I help him to open up and move on. We have a great time when we meet up. We just chat away or mostly he did the chatting. It felt like he just wanted someone to listen to and to be cared for. I never met anyone who is open to tell me those personal thinks before. What do you guys think?

Scorpio and leo are very open with each other, I think we bring this out and is what makes for a wonderful friendship - but it doesn't necessarily mean anything more. He's replying to you because leo's inherently are mindful of their manners so to not reply would be rude and our pride does not allow us to be rude. It sounds like you are the one making contact - stop.

Its not your job to try to help him, trying to help a man will just make him run for the hills.

thanks shahbano for ur comment..its been over a week since either of us has made contact wit one another..im 28hes 32.. wen i decided to finish it was because due to personal reasons at d time n he knew dis from d start..n ur right its time i let him go..but he keeps coming back n pulls on my heart strings all over again

Thank you all for giving me guidance. It means a lot. I guess I will wait to see if he will proceeded this friendship. I'll stop texting him and let him be ready to open up when he's ready.

Posted by ShahBano

Posted by scorpiophoenix

He's a busy man.
I try to invite him to events or dinners bc he doesn't know a lot of ppl here beside his coworkers.
I try not to push him and let him heal from his past.
He said he will open up to me someday. -------.
------ I still want him to know that I care for him.
I mean it's nice when I have someone to ask how is ur day.

I personally think Leos are very resilient by temperament. Even bad past can't pull us down for long, most Leos do not harbour pain, disappointment and resentment for long, our zest for life overcomes the past bad experience pretty quickly . And most Leos know how to value love, friendship and companionship more than any other sign.
And we like to go for quests.If love and companionship is a quest,we would surely go for it,believing that somewhere there is a prize for us, which we have to claim.

So, as Rig rightly said be very careful because the information you have provided shows that it's more of a convenience for him to have someone as an emotional vent.
You said you want him to know that you care for him---why don't you let him find it ? If he cared he would strive to find out, so let him, instead of telling/showing him yourself.

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Scorpiophoenix - ShahBano has excellent advice in this.

During the beginning of being 'wooed' by my Scorpio, he at first was emotionally persistent with me, when well - I'm a feline who has built a life for myself with knowing what I want, what I want to surround myself with, who I spend my extra time with, and how I get there. And we were just flirting and every once in awhile hanging out! I was trying to get into school for Nursing too and competition is TIGHT here. Eventually he realized that I liked him but I was being pulled in many different directions. Dating or flirting should be a RELIEF and that should be a welcome one too. He took a step back and let me approach him when I was ready for the chase. It was natural instead of forced. Most Leos dislike feeling obligated from another socially and romantically because we already are hard enough on ourselves when we let people down. We just don't make a big deal about it externally because we like to keep a composed image of ourselves that others see. We absolutely detest 'flinching' in public and prefer to do it on

Scorpio and leo are very open with each other, I think we bring this out and is what makes for a wonderful friendship - but it doesn't necessarily mean anything more. He's replying to you because leo's inherently are mindful of their manners so to not reply would be rude and our pride does not allow us to be rude. It sounds like you are the one making contact - stop.

i beg to differ. i don't think they're open with each other at all which is the main problem! leos don't like to be rude— the females perhaps but the men?? hmmm....jury's out on that one.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s

Scorpio and leo are very open with each other, I think we bring this out and is what makes for a wonderful friendship - but it doesn't necessarily mean anything more. He's replying to you because leo's inherently are mindful of their manners so to not reply would be rude and our pride does not allow us to be rude. It sounds like you are the one making contact - stop.

i beg to differ. i don't think they're open with each other at all which is the main problem! leos don't like to be rude— the females perhaps but the men?? hmmm....jury's out on that one.

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But i'm talking about friendship Rig, as you know I always say leo/scorpio is a bad mix romantically - in the end however long it takes it will turn bad. But the friendship is great and very open. And yes you could be right about the rudeness thing - but i'm not sure.

yeah...you're right about the friendship part. i've been friends with a leo for at least 20 years and we're very close but there's still a sense of him being like a father figure although he's not much older than me and he does boss me about in terms of things going on in my life. sometimes, i need that from him and other times, it does my head in. the one thing i find i feel let down by in our friendship is that it doesn't seem constant...there are big gaps when he just disappears off to deal with his own life and it makes me feel stranded. i've told him that as well. i want friends to be there for me as i am for them...which is whenever they need me. i don't get the feeling i can depend on my leo friend in the same way although we love each other to death. perhaps it's cos we're male and female. that dynamic works in a totally different way even when it's a platonic relationship. he's married and his wife has always had suspicions about us (completely unfounded). because of that, i am almost like a secret friend and so the friendship suffers cos of it.

also, leo men in particular seem to constantly criticise scorp's intensity. they don't get it at all! i remember moaning on and on to this leo about the knobhead. he said i should've just laughed everything off and walked away a lot sooner than i did.....'men like us don't know what to do with a woman's intensity', he said.

'men like you are knobheads', i replied 😄

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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s

Scorpio and leo are very open with each other, I think we bring this out and is what makes for a wonderful friendship - but it doesn't necessarily mean anything more. He's replying to you because leo's inherently are mindful of their manners so to not reply would be rude and our pride does not allow us to be rude. It sounds like you are the one making contact - stop.

i beg to differ. i don't think they're open with each other at all which is the main problem! leos don't like to be rude— the females perhaps but the men?? hmmm....jury's out on that one.

I always say leo/scorpio is a bad mix romantically - in the end however long it takes it will turn bad.

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Well that's exactly what I love to hear about my upcoming marriage...

awww sheathed. you know as well as the rest of us that it's not just a case of sun sign compatability. besides, leo girls rock. it's just the guys who are knobheads 😉

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
awww sheathed. you know as well as the rest of us that it's not just a case of sun sign compatability. besides, leo girls rock. it's just the guys who are knobheads 😉

I must admit, I'm trying not to be sensitive about it.. but I can't help but grow resentful hearing the statement EVERY time there is a Leo/Scorpio thread.

I'm not the type to think to myself, 'Oh, well MY love and relationship are totally different than -insert everybody you know-'. I'm not a hopeless romantic; my love has weight of logic within it. At the same time I know we're not just another couple that 'x, y, and z' will happen to.

I usually don't allow myself to act so sensitive about this kind of stuff. I just feel lately very frustrated about the judgement I've been receiving from a few different fronts on my engagement. Even though him and I have known each other from age 6 and on, it seems that we automatically get lumped together with the 'oh they're just kids that are rushing into marriage' when people we meet learn we're engaged.

They don't realize that I have found a beautiful one-of-a-kind dress and that we have our reception location, general date, colors, centerpieces, music, entertainment, and schedule already all planned out. They just see going-on-21 broke college kids that are in 'puppy love', when really we have both grown up into unique individuals that each have felt like we have walked this Earth together time and time again through the generations before us.

He's become so close to my family that my mother now has a son that she shares a relationship with, and my grandfather (who was the only male I have ever looked up to in my life) now has a male family member that works almost as hard as him, that he has mutual respect for (this makes me tear up so so much - my grandfather is my world 🙂 really), and somebody that can give him as much teasing as he dishes out (my grandfather is such a Portugue, hah!).

So sorry if my comment or reaction seems a bit frivolous and petty, Celtic. New and waxing moons always have me feeling a bit off and vulnerable to the external world to reflect more intensely on my internal.

I need to become a more solid Lioness. I'm learning, slowly. Very very slowly 😢

sheathed! you poor thing. what you have sounds beautiful and if it helps any, i work with a gorgeous leo aged 22 who has been with her scorp since they were 13 and they are just as loved up as the first day they met (age of consent is 13 here). they are definitely getting married and going for the whole happily ever after thing and yeah...some people say they're too young but i say it's a GIFT to meet the 'one' at an early age.

ffs...that's the way it was always done with the older generations and the divorce rate was much lower in those days.

so don't listen to ne'ersayers babe 🙂

Oh, you're a sweetheart. 🙂 That made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside 😛 🙂

We'll take the world fabulously by storm 😉