Leo Men - Suffocating then Hot and Cold —

I'm a Taurus and he's a Leo, my first. He recently just got out of a relationship about a year ago and it's been 3-4 years for me. We both agreed to be FWB. After the first 2-3 months, I didn't expect so much attention from FWB. We talked and texted just about everyday, almost all day. We saw each other about once a week to every two weeks (an hour away from each other) and my feelings grew from the intense passionate "beneficial" sessions we were having. But, on top of that, when we would talk afterwards, he would say things like "we would make beautiful kids", "I can tell you would be a great wife", "you bring me a lot of pleasure, you make me so happy". But, then at times he says he doesn't want kids, doesn't want a relationship, so why say those other things to me? As a Taurus woman, I'm ready to settle down at anytime so hearing him tell me those things just made me fall hard and fast for him.

Well, I found out the Leo's jealous streak. Since I felt I was loving someone that wasn't loving me back (which I was wrong, I should have payed attention to his actions), I felt the need to venture to get over my strong feelings to keep it the FWB relationship that it was. When I told him, he flipped out, called me names, blocked my number, and I didn't hear from him for about 6 weeks. I didn't think I would hear from him at all. He asked what I was doing that evening, I went to go see him. The intense passionate session we had put me over the top. My emotions got the point where I basically told him, it's all or nothing. Since I know he just wants FWB, I'll chose nothing.

Since he came back the first time, do you think he'll come back again? I've only been seeing him for 6 months, but I can't shake the intense feelings I have for him when I'm in his presence. He's told me he loved me once before our little break and since I last saw him, he was so distant and so opposite from when we first met, I wasn't happy. Is there a chance or should I just keep it moving? His Moon is in Virgo, Venus in Aries, Mars in Leo. Thanks in advance.

a lot like my leo friend too... in the beginning, I went out on a date and he was all depressed but "didn't know why" as he told me. I scrapped that idea. I find that actions do speak louder than words with him. You're actions will speak the same to him. More doing and showing than talking about it or demanding change. And honestly, he may want FWB, but you never know what he's thinking or debating on. It may just be his safe zone. If you too are growing together and it's not just about sex, then let it take it's course. Have fun. BUT, you can't push him like that. He retreated to the man-cave like any other man, not just a Leo, would do. I'm Aqua, and to me an ultimatum boils down to being selfish. I had a best friend give me one - either her, or the boyfriend. I kicked her to the curb just because she suggested it. Although, the boyfriend ended up being a future divorce.

You've known yours for 3-4 years. I've know mine for 4-5 months... and it seems like I know mine better than you know yours. PAY ATTENTION. Give him what he needs and you'll get what you need - emotionally and mentally and not just physically.

How long has it been since you last talked to or seen him now?

Give yourself some time to think about how you've been handling the relationship. Remember, ACTION NOT REACTION. Honestly, in the beginning with mine, I had to google No Strings and FWB, and I wanted to stick to those rules because they were safe and thats what he asked for... but I found things to be VERY different with our relationship compared to everything I read about it. Actually, benefits lasted 2 sessions and then constant being together came into play. It's less draining to just go with the flow and let things progress as is. Try to bite your tongue, be positive, and let him bring the relationship forward when he's ready.

He's not ready! PERIOD!

Thanks Aquaquinn for your advice. Did I write I've known him for 3-4 years? lol I've only known him for about 6 months, so it's very new. It's been about 2-3 weeks since we last saw each other. I want to keep him around but the hot and cold bs is driving me nuts. It's just been a challenge keeping my feelings in check when we're together because of our chemistry. I will just take some time for myself to get over some of these feelings and focus on work. I'll have a different perspective and understand what I need to do when he comes back around. Basically what I'm getting from your message is, be fun, go with the flow, no expectations, and pay attention to his actions because they'll reflect his feelings since he doesn't communicate. But, isn't that kind of dangerous to, because Leo's have the charm of making you feel special and the "one and only" even though you're not?

leo's could NEVER do fwb's if there's any type of feelings involved...big NO NO!

SplitandConfused/Delish

Thanks for your comments. I know I probably made things more complicated giving him the ultimatum, but it's what I felt I needed to do. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I can only hope what you say is true, he's having trouble dealing with the feelings involved past the FWB stage and will come back to me. If not, only time will heal me. I can't say that I regretted anything because he's given me the most significant experiences/feelings I've ever had and I'll never forget him.