Leo, this Gay Aries needs help

First of all, I'm sorry for my bad grammar. For all of Leo, I need your help.

I'm gay Aries (April 16th) fell in love with bisex Leo-man (July 31st). I already said to him that I love him and he replied that he is not ready to open his heart for anyone right now... Yeah he said something like that. Maybe he just don't like me or what, I dunno. But after I confessed to him, he started to invite me to his house, doing activities together (movies, dining out, etc) and we had sex several times. After 8 months like that, one day he uploaded his profile picture. I saw him with pretty girl hug each other. I texted him and he said that she is his girlfriend (he texted me with big smile emoticon like this 😄 ).

Oh my god, but we just had a sex like yesterday and now he already got a girlfriend? And what the hell with that emoticon? I know you are happy but my "Aries soul" just can't take it huhuhuhu). I didn't say anything about my feelings and just congratulate and happy for him about his new girlfriend.

After couple days we agreed to meet each other to his house. But at that evening suddenly he didn't answer my phone. So I tried to visit his house, and really shocked. When I was knocking the door, I can see he is trying to wear his clothes up from the window.

And then he opened the door and whispered "Hi, my girlfriend inside,"

"Oh, am I disturbing? Mabye I should go home...?" and he insisted me to not go home and talk with me like we always do. Before that day he told me that his girlfriend at another city for her works but maybe today she surprised him and didn't have a time to contact me, because he said he accidentally fell asleep. All day along, really? It's just so sad. Not long after we talked and he introduced me to his girlfriend I tried to go home once more. He still insists and I said that we still can meet later. His face looks guilty (or disappointed?, I dunno. I've never seen his expression like that) and he promised me to meet again for next 2 weeks.

What should I do? I really wanna talk to him about this in our next meeting. But after that, should I let him go? And never meet him again or what? Because it's so hurts when I saw he posts something in facebook or snapchat about her girlfriend

I also applied for job at the same office and same divison like him, because he recommended me and wants me to do that, and I need money to prepare my master degree next year. Is that a bad idea. Should I cancel my job application? Help me...

(I ALREADY MET HIM YESTERDAY, I updated it below)

Is he 18 too?

Have you asked him if he has an open relationship with her. Or are you content to take whatever crumbs he throws your way.

Posted by Solesan
Is he 18 too?

oops. updated my birthdate. we are both 25.

Well you said he doesn't want to get into it and you are falling hard on it. Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants and you do. I'd suggest cornering him when you two are alone and then ask what does he really want in life. Ask yourself the same question. If you're serious in a settled down relationship, then be serious. If he isn't, no pressure but say if he isn't ready to settle down. Then you shall move on.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Have you asked him if he has an open relationship with her. Or are you content to take whatever crumbs he throws your way.

Not yet, I'll asked him when I meet him soon. But he always said to me that he worried about when he will marry (and with who), because all of his colleague already married.

"to take whatever crumbs he throws your way.."

Is that make me looks cheap for leo if I take it? Because I think I'm going to do that 😢

Posted by arean16

Posted by LadyNeptune
Have you asked him if he has an open relationship with her. Or are you content to take whatever crumbs he throws your way.

Not yet, I'll asked him when I meet him soon. But he always said to me that he worried about when he will marry (and with who), because all of his colleague already married.

"to take whatever crumbs he throws your way.."

Is that make me looks cheap for leo if I take it? Because I think I'm going to do that 😢

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if she doesn't know you exist then he's effectively made you his 'side chick'. Are you okay with being 'the other woman', a home wrecker?

Does he have traditional parents? Maybe he needs her to be his beard to show the world he's straight as an arrow. Keeping you his dirty little secret.

Posted by Librasetting
It sounds like he's in the closet and nobody knows he's bi and she's a cover up or he likes emotionally connecting with woman but loves have sex with guys?

Yes, kinda. Because he told me that the girls in his office didn't know about 'his orientation' but some other guys knew about it.

Wow... Is Leo-guy have ability like that? Sex without feeling anything? And am I his 'sex machine'? :o I have to make sure about that, and what he wants about guys like me then. 😢

First of all if he fuckin you and her. Leave his ass like are you really an aries and that thirsty? Well aries r thirsty. Anyway hes a weak ass leo forget him wait for someone better

Move on OP.

(btw you and I both share the same birthday)

Thanks for your advice guys.

Finally I managed to meet him yesterday, and he told me everything about what happened.

You're right. He really doesn't know what he wants.

He started dating a girl because he just want to know if he can make a relationship with a girl or not. He wants to marry with someone but wasn't sure about it because in his mind, he still loves doing sex with a man and afraid can't do "it" with girl. He said, until today he and his girl never had a sex once. Even though they sleep in a bed together, he just don't want to sex her. His virgin girl "forced" him to bang her but he was too afraid about everything happened after he doing that. He doesn't want to make her girl lose her virginity because of his "little experiment".

I asked him, "What if another man want marry your girl right now?"

He answerd, "It's okay, I'll let her go," I laughed and I told him that, for now he wasn't serious at all about his girlfriend. He nodded. He thought, he made a wrong step dating her. His girl said to him that if he is not ready to commit and marry her, his girl wants him to let her go because it's wasting her time. He still kept many secret to his girl, never introduced her to his family and she really annoyed with it.

Then I told him that "Man, you really have no idea about what you want."

He agreed to me. He confused. I advised him to tell about his bisex condition to his girl, if she okay with it then I think she is the best girl for you. But he can't do that. He wasn't ready to 'come out' like that. He also thinks he is too young to marry and have a baby. Man... you are difficult person...

At last he said, he never talked about this matter to anyone except me. Even though he has some gay and bisex friends, they never respond him seriously about his problem and condition. He said that I'm the only one who can talk anything include this and the only one who sex with him in a years. Ummm... yeah? Is that a good thing for me?

At that time I can't find the right moment to ask my question like "what about us? what am I to you? I want to live with you, how about you?" I will take my time and not rush everything. I want support him. I'll give him time to think about everything, about what he wants in his life. Today he asked me to choose his new glasess in shop and he wants dinner and watch movie in theater next month with me.

am I too indulgent? is it because my taurus in moon?

Any thought? I'd really appreciate it.

Well...........at least you HAVE had him in some way. I'm a gay man madly in love with a straight Leo/Virgo cusper and I can't even touch him the way I want to touch him.