Leo Woman - Avoiding?

If her birth time is correct then she is a : Leo Sun, Cap Ascendant, Cancer Moon, Leo Mercury, Virgo Venus, Gemini Mars. I'm a : Pisces Sun, Cancer Ascendant, Capricorn Moon, Aries Mercury, Aquarius Venus and Mars.

She is in California, I'm in New Mexico currently. So this is all online at the moment. With that being said, this is someone that thinks so similarly to me, that on multiple occasions I felt like, spooked. I didn't really think that possible, I mean I've heard it's possible. Unfortunately she just got out of an abusive relationship so I can't really push for something that already feels right. Which is me being with her, the distance is nothing because I've traveled for a love interest multiple times. With that being said, when her and I talk, we talk to each other almost as if we are already together.

Unfortunately I was stupid enough to get upset at her because it felt like she had been ignoring me. We were having a conversation and I think 3 hours passed by and she didn't read the message or reply obviously. Yet, she was still around and liked something I had posted, and was posting stuff on her wall. I didn't mean to get upset, but it felt like she was just avoiding me/ ignoring me. I feel a little silly sometimes for saying this, but I don't care if you don't want to talk to me or are busy, just let me know you know? Just say you're going to be busy or don't feel like talking. She didn't like it and thought that I was mad at her, but I was really just sort of sad/hurt from it. She told me that I'm not her boyfriend and I can't act like that, etc. I told her I wasn't trying to act like that and wouldn't think we're together until we are. I explained to her why I felt the way I did and we talked about things and at the end she was just telling me to relax and take things slow.

However, since then she has gone 4+ hours without responding on a few occasions. So I've been trying to get used to it and just accepting it for what it is and just being really happy when she does respond. She still talks the same to me and calls me things like love and things feel great, it just feels sort of empty when she disappears for many hours at time without saying anything. Anyway, she has reassured me that she thinks I'm a great friend and a great guy, I'm interesting and I'm special to her and that we're good.

So two nights ago she called me and we got to talk for an hour ( Unfortunately it was like 6 a.m. when we takled ), and it was just awesome. 0 effort conversations that just went all over the place without any pauses, tons of laughter, etc. After we hung up she messaged me telling me how it was fun and etc. The next day we talk a little bit and she tells me how she is cleaning and watching a show with her brother so give her a few minutes. I tell her I don't mind, take her time and have fun. She talks to me for a bit and says how we will for sure talk later ( I assumed on the phone ).

At like 9 p.m. that day I stopped getting any response from her. I waited around until like 4 a.m. to see if maybe she was just with family and busy. Nothing. So I was sort of hurt and I told her I didn't like how it felt like she was insensitive to my feelings sometimes. All it would of taken was 5 seconds to say that you're going to be busy or don't wait up. Yet nothing. It's about to be two days without her reading my messages or saying anything. Yet, she linked her tumblr on her page a few days ago and when I went to it, it said she had been posting stuff last night/morning around like 2-3 a.m. So it really does feel like she is avoiding me now. I mean, I don't think I did something wrong because she never read my messages after we stopped talking. Yet I just don't know what could be up that would make her just go cold all the way? She's obviously able to get online if she is filling up her tumblr.

It's hard for me not to feel hurt because she's never done this before. We've talked every day since we started talking. Usually when she stops responding and then comes by the next day she says sorry and explains why she wasn't around. I don't really know what to do because I've left her a couple of messages including some voice ones because it's easier to explain things with actually talking, and she can also be able to hear my emotions/intentions a little better.

TLDR; Met someone who feels like a kindred spirit, the feelings are mutual, talk everyday yet now it's about to be two days and she's not said anything yet is still lurking around.

Posted by Enigmaticsoul
TLDR; Met someone who feels like a kindred spirit, the feelings are mutual, talk everyday yet now it's about to be two days and she's not said anything yet is still lurking around.

In some ways this reminds me of my situation with the leo i was with. However, we were actually together and were planning on getting married etc so when he did disappear and act up and blatantly ignore messages I felt I had a right to say that I wasn't down for that behavior and that the instability and disappearing for almost a day with no explanation of any sort was not fair to me. In your case though, she has explicitly stated that you two are not a couple and are just friends, therefore, you need to play it cool and relax. I know it may still hurt your feelings but if you press the issue and keep messaging and calling she will be pushed further away and will think you're too intense. You need to play it cool, get on with your own life, do your own thing and let her come to you. Once and only once you guys are official can you start to demand certain things.

Posted by Enigmaticsoul
TLDR; Met someone who feels like a kindred spirit, the feelings are mutual, talk everyday yet now it's about to be two days and she's not said anything yet is still lurking around.

AND at this point i would not be surprised if she is talking to other guys because you guys are not exclusive. Don't be clingy, she needs to know you're a strong character with his own things going on.

I'm sure she talks to other guys but I had asked her if she talked to other guys like me and she said she doesn't talk to people in general. I've told her that if she needs space or I'm coming on too strong to let me know because I can act accordingly. She's assured me that's not an issue.

I just don't understand why say you're going to talk later and then just nothing for over a day? Feels like a cruel joke almost lol.