My mom...

...is having a mid-life crisis.

I don't know what to do. She's not her self. I think she needs professional help.


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What do I do?

I don't want to post the whole scenario with all the details, because it is very personal and very embarrassing honestly.

Let's just say she's on the hinge of making some very serious life-changing decisions (already made some) on an emotional whim.

I'm so worried about her. Recently, out of her own guilt and shame mixed with the confusing emotions she's experiencing due to this midlife crisis... she is lashing out at everyone that cares the most about her, including me. She's my best friend.

I seriously need advice

Then, yeah, get her some help from a pro! Us DXP idiots aren't gonna be able to fix your mom or the chaos.

I pm'd you Briana...

Thanks, I'll check it.

Posted by pigeonpie
Awwww.
Errm, maybe just take it on the chin when your Mum kicks off and starts ranting, then find another time when she's more chill, sit her down make a cup of tea or something and go "Mam, Wai so sad ? *blink*" etc.
I remember my Mum going off the rails a bit a few years ago and I just let her rant and stuff then eventually it was something along the lines of "I know you strted popping out sprogs when you were 20 and you want your life now, it's cool *shrug*" hahaha


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♥ Blingerrooo that really made me feel better believe it or not. Haha

She didn't really have a youth. She popped me out at 17. I totally understand why this is happening. It's much deeper than just her ranting. But I guess there really isn't anything I can do to help her. Other than...not leave her. I'm realizing she probably really needs me just to be there to support her either way.

Posted by PandorasBox
Yeah.. My mom had a meltdown like a month or two ago, she was admitted to a psych ward.. I mean.. yeah, she was freakin out man. Scared the living daylights outta me. turns out my sister is now her legal guardian. mom's doin good, just like always, like nothing happened and i feel like before we werent as close emotionally as we are now.

Its difficult because you dont know what to do or say to help the situation evolve into something that wont be harmful to anybody... I'd say just be there for her and let her feel ok to let her emotions out so she can figure out what exactly triggered or is causing such a change. be there for moral support..

bri, things will get better and i hope you guys are all doin well.

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thanks. Yeah, we exchanged some nasty emails. She has been very defensive. We haven't been speaking. I have been staying at the Libras to get away from the house. But this morning I got the most gut-wrenching email from her. Ugh. I guess I'm going to have to go talk to her tonight.

Posted by pigeonpie
Are you your Mum's favourite Bri ?

She just has two of us...I'm the closest to her. We're very very close. Like the Libra even thinks it's weird how close we are. We're like literally best friends.

My sister's an Aqua and kind of did the whole "fuck you, I'm grown" thing the day she turned 18, and left. She ADORES my sister (I think she might even secretly like her more than me) but my sister doesn't really come around that much.

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I can't imagine how tough this probably is for you. I don't know the details, but it sounds like there's not much you can do other than try your hardest not to push her away. When people are defensive, the more you judge/complain/tell them what to do, even if its for their best, it tends to push them away. Most of the time, you have to let them do what they're going to do because honestly, we're usually incapable of stopping them, ya know.



*Hugs*

Bri is your mom going through menopause?

Well I went through mine a few years back....it probably was the best thing that happened to me, BUT not for the people around me. They just had to sit back and see where it took me.

All they could have really done to help out was not do anything that would annoy me. If it is helping out around the place, cooking dinner or doing dishes etc without being asked so that I wouldn't have to do it then that would have helped with the mood swings. Lay low and let her figure herself out. Warning though you might not like the outcome or appove.

I liken it now to what a teenager goes through when they are trying to deal with who they are...they aren't a child anymore and they aren't an adult either...so they have to work out where they fit in... They rebel, they act out and they test waters searching!

Yes very much the same, she's trying to find herself, not the mother or the wife or the cleaner or the one saving everyone else but who is SHE and what has she accomplished in her 40 odd years?

Just be there Bri and show her how much you appreciate everything she has been for you 🙂