Huntress
@Huntress
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Rebound
Huntress....have you and your bf broken up? 😢
Fiance. Check the thread from about a week ago, please.
Posted by Jynja
It's not something I can do. There's always some attachment. I'd rather string them along to help ease the pain of the long term. It's kind of cruel, but sex is way too passionately binding for me.
i am exactly the same jynj. rebounds have to be conducted selfishly for them to serve their purpose. i think it's best to be very honest with the other person though. similar to FWB's....both parties have to KNOW exactly what they're getting in to and they can make a judgement as to whether they're up for it or not. if then one party develops feelings, that is their own responsibility.
Talking/seeing to a slightly older Aries. He's dreadfully charming and always thinking, an engineer of sorts, experimental musician, and (like me) can only handle one 'relationship' (friendship, physical relationship) at a time. He's D/D free and the best conversation that I've had in a long time.
He knows what's up in terms of my situation right now, as do I. We're really into each other without wanting to 'date'. He also consistently reminds me that I say the word and we'll cut it off just like that.
We both are highly logical yet emotionally in-tune.
Plus, he's the Sadist to my masochist. Heh.
I have 4% Air in my chart. But my Venus and Mars are Virgo.
He knows what's up in terms of my situation right now, as do I. We're really into each other without wanting to 'date'. He also consistently reminds me that I say the word and we'll cut it off just like that.
We both are highly logical yet emotionally in-tune.
Plus, he's the Sadist to my masochist. Heh.
I have 4% Air in my chart. But my Venus and Mars are Virgo.
I am 100 % for it. However, the last time I said it the female cats tore me to pieces on here.
It will make you feel better even if only temporary. You know we need the compliments so go get some !!
It is not easy, the dating game is really tired especially after being in a relationship so use it for what it is worth. Who knows you might stumble upon a pot of gold. Kind of like when you find $ 10.00 in the laundry.
Venus in Virgo means we think it through but I say tell Venus to be quiet and go full throttle into the abyss.
YOLO !
One last thing...the closer I get to 40, the less I care what other people think or say. If you can adopt that attitude before 30 you would be a force.
It will make you feel better even if only temporary. You know we need the compliments so go get some !!
It is not easy, the dating game is really tired especially after being in a relationship so use it for what it is worth. Who knows you might stumble upon a pot of gold. Kind of like when you find $ 10.00 in the laundry.
Venus in Virgo means we think it through but I say tell Venus to be quiet and go full throttle into the abyss.
YOLO !
One last thing...the closer I get to 40, the less I care what other people think or say. If you can adopt that attitude before 30 you would be a force.
Posted by Nala13
I am 100 % for it. However, the last time I said it the female cats tore me to pieces on here.
It will make you feel better even if only temporary. You know we need the compliments so go get some !!
It is not easy, the dating game is really tired especially after being in a relationship so use it for what it is worth. Who knows you might stumble upon a pot of gold. Kind of like when you find $ 10.00 in the laundry.
Venus in Virgo means we think it through but I say tell Venus to be quiet and go full throttle into the abyss.
YOLO !
One last thing...the closer I get to 40, the less I care what other people think or say. If you can adopt that attitude before 30 you would be a force.
I love you chiquitabanana
Posted by HuntressPosted by Nala13
I am 100 % for it. However, the last time I said it the female cats tore me to pieces on here.
It will make you feel better even if only temporary. You know we need the compliments so go get some !!
It is not easy, the dating game is really tired especially after being in a relationship so use it for what it is worth. Who knows you might stumble upon a pot of gold. Kind of like when you find $ 10.00 in the laundry.
Venus in Virgo means we think it through but I say tell Venus to be quiet and go full throttle into the abyss.
YOLO !
One last thing...the closer I get to 40, the less I care what other people think or say. If you can adopt that attitude before 30 you would be a force.click to expand
I love you chiquitabanana
an aries eh? i was with one for over 20 years. they don't strike me as good rebound fodder though. if you have sex he will get territorial about you. he won't confess that to you beforehand though cos he probably isn't aware that is what WILL happen. like leos, aries don't do anything by halves and if your connection is really good as you describe, he's not gonna want to let go of it.
having said that, he knows the deal with you cos you're honest and so you can do as you wish now and he knows what he's getting into 🙂 but he'll probably be thinking you will inevitably fall for him cos all fire sign men are like that. and they're generally right 😛
personally, i would want a rebound with someone i was attracted to but didn't have any connection with beyond the physical cos otherwise it becomes a complication rather than an emotional quick-fix.
Posted by WoundedLeoPosted by Jynja
sex is way too passionately binding for me.
Me too.click to expand
Me three. With so much water in my chart, I attached my soul to a man's pecker once we start the humpty dumpty. Rebound is no bueno for me. 😢
I'm not sure, Roxy. He has his own life (and a child) and seems to KNOW he's not looking for a relationship.
Although you do have a point, he does have some sort of attachment, but I think it's more of a caring thing over anything else (we email daily since we're an hour away and always busy).
He's adopted and unsure of his actual birthday, unfortunately 😢 I'd love to see it. I sense Libra in him (artistically inclined with hobbies and others he surrounds himself with). He's also definitely not a jealous person, too.
Although you do have a point, he does have some sort of attachment, but I think it's more of a caring thing over anything else (we email daily since we're an hour away and always busy).
He's adopted and unsure of his actual birthday, unfortunately 😢 I'd love to see it. I sense Libra in him (artistically inclined with hobbies and others he surrounds himself with). He's also definitely not a jealous person, too.
I'm planning on playing it by ear. I can prep, plan, and prepare, but chances are things will not go according to plan - so I'll plan that too!!! 😉 😛
Rebound Relationships do no-one any good IMO, they simply temporarily encourage you to hide from the feelings that you should be having about the relationship that has just gone wrong, then when they are over you not only have to face up to, and live those feelings from that relationship but also everything that has been stirred up by the rebound relationship.
However, what you and the Aries guy are considering entering into sounds more like an FWB or FB arrangement rather than a relationship, which if you can do it without any strings getting attached might be good to help you get through the next few months.
Another however, in my experience of Aries men, they can never have no strings with any type of arrangement, they have a big huge long "ownership" string that latches onto you without you even knowing - and they tend to tug it very hard when they sense you are stepping away from the territory that has now become theirs.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do Huntress, and have lots of fun doing it x
However, what you and the Aries guy are considering entering into sounds more like an FWB or FB arrangement rather than a relationship, which if you can do it without any strings getting attached might be good to help you get through the next few months.
Another however, in my experience of Aries men, they can never have no strings with any type of arrangement, they have a big huge long "ownership" string that latches onto you without you even knowing - and they tend to tug it very hard when they sense you are stepping away from the territory that has now become theirs.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do Huntress, and have lots of fun doing it x
I will never understand the feel the pain, wallow in the hurt, absorb the heartache mentality.
For what, that's life....all a part of life. It promotes self pity. We lions can throw pity parties like nobody's business.
If you go to another sign's page you will see nothing of this fall on your sword talk. The heart will feel what the heart will feel. The heart will heal when it's ready to heal. You can't help your heart heal. It's going to heal with or without you. You can't control it anymore than you can control anything else in your life. So while the heart is feeling or not feeling healing or not healing focus on something else.
Seraph, get the wild thing poem ready. You might have to whip it out.
For what, that's life....all a part of life. It promotes self pity. We lions can throw pity parties like nobody's business.
If you go to another sign's page you will see nothing of this fall on your sword talk. The heart will feel what the heart will feel. The heart will heal when it's ready to heal. You can't help your heart heal. It's going to heal with or without you. You can't control it anymore than you can control anything else in your life. So while the heart is feeling or not feeling healing or not healing focus on something else.
Seraph, get the wild thing poem ready. You might have to whip it out.
Huntress dear I am sorry. I just remembered you said you didn't want any advice or to talk about or to discuss it or anyone to tell you anything.....so my fault. I would hide my post but I try not to do that.
Do you baby girl. Aries and Leos are supposed to be magical together although I have never dated one.
Do you baby girl. Aries and Leos are supposed to be magical together although I have never dated one.
Posted by MellyMel
@ OP: Just be cautious and take care of yourself. I don't know you, but you seem very level-headed and mature from your posts. I am sure you've already considered this, but..
IMO, whether or not you move forward with this would depend greatly on several factors. Specifically, the size/kind of town you live in and the particulars of all involved parties. I would hate to see a painful situation made worse because some busy-body or "well meaning" neighbor / co-worker / mutual friend, etc. saw or heard something, and then felt the need to insert themselves into your personal business.
If the rebound will help you heal, or at least speed up the process, I say discreetly go for it. If it's just a distraction, I would weigh the pros, cons and possible ramifications.
He has absolutely no connection to anybody in my life.
And I'm looking for fun, not any healing. I have that handled on my own time.
Posted by ninjafish
Totally cool if you both know the score (I'm not a leo, hopefully it's okay for me to comment anyway). Be careful though. I mean, do you know how YOU personally tend to react in this scenario? I know I can't do it without developing some form of attachment. You have a lot of scorpionic intensity going on there... Just yeah, be careful.
I usually react with intensely dating and breaking hearts.
This guy and I are intense, but it's not in a romantic way. If that happened, I know he'd be understanding with breaking things off.
Posted by Nala13
I will never understand the feel the pain, wallow in the hurt, absorb the heartache mentality.
For what, that's life....all a part of life. It promotes self pity. We lions can throw pity parties like nobody's business.
If you go to another sign's page you will see nothing of this fall on your sword talk. The heart will feel what the heart will feel. The heart will heal when it's ready to heal. You can't help your heart heal. It's going to heal with or without you. You can't control it anymore than you can control anything else in your life. So while the heart is feeling or not feeling healing or not healing focus on something else.
Seraph, get the wild thing poem ready. You might have to whip it out.
Clinic is my main focus, plus this ex fiance is acting like a GIANT ASSHOLE SO I'M THRILLED THAT I'M FINDING THIS OUT NOW INSTEAD OF MARRYING HIM! (caps lock for emphasis teheh). He's acting like a typical guy post breakup with a 'fuck you I'm so happy' little act.
And it's adorable since he doesn't realize he's really making this easy by being like that 🙂
It's okay by the way. I don't really want to go on more about it though because I don't want to dwell on last weeks garbage 🙂
Posted by Huntress
I'm not sure, Roxy. He has his own life (and a child) and seems to KNOW he's not looking for a relationship.
Although you do have a point, he does have some sort of attachment, but I think it's more of a caring thing over anything else (we email daily since we're an hour away and always busy).
He's adopted and unsure of his actual birthday, unfortunately 😢 I'd love to see it. I sense Libra in him (artistically inclined with hobbies and others he surrounds himself with). He's also definitely not a jealous person, too.
both my parents were orphaned and for that reason are uncertain of their birthdates. my mother's always used that to her advantage and she's been 35 for the last 30 years, lol. anyhow, she's roughly a cancerian and my dad's either a leo or virgo. if you're into astrology it can be very frustrating...not even a time of birth to go by. it's kinda sad really 😢
huntress...you too should also protect your heart in this kind of relationship. after all, one tends to fall for someone over a period of time and it kinda creeps up on you. you strike me as a very rational person though and i'm sure you'll do whatever is best for you 🙂
Holy Shiva, I love you guys 🙂
Blocked. I don't like how you treat WL. Ciao.
Sorry - should have clarified:
1. I don't like the way he talks to you
2. I don't like the way he talks to anyone
3. I don't want to bother with him
4. I don't like his random babble in a thread where
I'm specifically asking for some frame of mind
That's it, end of story.
1. I don't like the way he talks to you
2. I don't like the way he talks to anyone
3. I don't want to bother with him
4. I don't like his random babble in a thread where
I'm specifically asking for some frame of mind
That's it, end of story.
Evidently I'm quite direct right after coffee, heh.
Aries hasn't contacted me today (he always contacts me first, usually early am or late afternoon, depending on the shift he's working). Contacted him about an hour ago without response.
Today is a day off for him after a Hellish week. Hopefully he's okay 🙂
And to end my beautiful week, hitting the bar with my Virgo cousin (we're 13 days apart!) Weeee I'm glad to have her back home in Little Rhody after 12 years without her! Hope everyone is doing wonderful!
Aries hasn't contacted me today (he always contacts me first, usually early am or late afternoon, depending on the shift he's working). Contacted him about an hour ago without response.
Today is a day off for him after a Hellish week. Hopefully he's okay 🙂
And to end my beautiful week, hitting the bar with my Virgo cousin (we're 13 days apart!) Weeee I'm glad to have her back home in Little Rhody after 12 years without her! Hope everyone is doing wonderful!
Thank you!!! It's good to be back.
I hope everything is going positive for you as well.
I hope everything is going positive for you as well.
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