Virgo Male and Leo Female: First Encounter

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*** Note I posted this on the Virgo forum, but would like a leo perspective as well ***

I am at point in my life where I am fully happy with myself emotionally, physically, and mentally. Even though I have worked on my own self-worth by focusing on intrinsic value, it doesn't mean I want to continue to grow in this direction by myself. I would love to share experiences of the world with a partner who is open to sharing theirs with me.

I am noticing as I grow in this area, the people I am attracted to, and who are attracted to me, are Virgos and Aquarius men haha. I have sun/moon in leo, and everything else is pretty much a placement in Virgo.

Anyway, time for the specific context: I took an interest in a Virgo guy at a friend's party mainly due to his taste and passion for music. I was really impressed in his knowledge and musical skills. I wanted to see if we would "click" or bond further, so I invited him out to live music show of local bands. He was open to that. Our conversations were based on music (of course) at the show, and him later teaching me how to play pool at different bar location...I thought this was strategically planned 😉 He later kissed me at the end of the night, which I wasn't expecting --- this came right after a conversation over a metal band. I later messaged him, saying that I enjoyed the kiss, but that I don't usually kiss someone I just met. He messaged me stating a similar response, but he was caught off guard by my taste in a metal band lol! (Talk about a turn on??)

I invited him out again to go see a concert. I didn't think he wanted to go with me, because I didn't really hear much from him after the first night out, but to my surprise he came. He was sweet and gentlemen like (i.e. buying my drink, holding my jacket, and checking in on me and such). He snagged another kiss with me that night, a way more passionate one than first. But alas, I didn't hear much from him. I would message him here and there to meet up at other music venues that we both were going to, and he would respond. Yet, somehow we always miss each other. Then other times I would invite him out and he would be unavailable for whatever reason. I am no stranger in being rejected, so I went onto my own humble way and tried to make this humorous. I would imagine titles for this silly situation: "The music man who steals hearts and concert tickets." --- (that wasn't a good title).

I thought he was a lost cause. So, I continued doing my own thing and enjoy musical shows. Then, unexpectedly, he was at the same show one night...playing as the drummer for a band. So instantly, I got nervous. I had no idea he was going to be there. It was a small venue. He was bound to recognize my face, and he did when his band was done playing. He said hello to me and was kind, sweet, and charming. He introduced me to his bandmates, and wanted to catch up outside. No kiss this night.

We would message here and there since that time. Mostly me initiating the conversation. Recently he has been more responsive to my messages. So I asked if he wanted to get a beer together and he said yes. We talked about all different topics ranging from personal childhood memories, politics, racism, our careers, (and of course music). At the end of the night, he asked if I would like go to his apartment. I said sure. He was very much so a gentlemen, and continued to talk to me. He acknowledged how it may look like he is inviting me over and wanting to have sex, but that isn't what he wanted. He stated that he finds men who do that to be very selfish. He told me that he thinks I am a very attractive, intelligent, woman. He asked this time, if he could kiss me. This led to passionate kisses, and cuddling. He asked if I wanted stay the night. I said that it would be nice if he was okay with it. The next morning he took me out to get coffee, where we spoke more, and then dropped me off my place. Then we hugged goodbye. He said we should go to a musical concert again, when he gets back from his business trip.

Now here I am a week later and unsure what I should do next? Or do I not do anything? I don't mind one time things, because I am unsure myself if this person is who I see myself growing with, but he doesn't seem like a bad match either 🙂

What are your thoughts on next steps? What should I be looking for on his part?

TBH...I would think of so many scenarios in my head and then do nothing, if not encouraged by the guy's actions. So nothing, would ever happen...
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With a Virguy at the moment.

It's been amazing but he moved really fast and locked me down in a matter of days and we haven't been apart since...

He has a Scorp moon tho, my advice is just patience for now and no expectations- in my experience men regardless of sign, will generally show interest and lock you down if they really want to.
How long have you been together?
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Posted by Goodmorning
Posted by wagtail
With a Virguy at the moment.

It's been amazing but he moved really fast and locked me down in a matter of days and we haven't been apart since...

He has a Scorp moon tho, my advice is just patience for now and no expectations- in my experience men regardless of sign, will generally show interest and lock you down if they really want to.



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Just over a year, moved in together after 3 months now splitting our time between city and mountains with families and friends - for work- rarely spend a night apart
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Posted by wagtail
Posted by Goodmorning
Posted by wagtail
With a Virguy at the moment.

It's been amazing but he moved really fast and locked me down in a matter of days and we haven't been apart since...

He has a Scorp moon tho, my advice is just patience for now and no expectations- in my experience men regardless of sign, will generally show interest and lock you down if they really want to.
How long have you been together? click to expand

Just over a year, moved in together after 3 months now splitting our time between city and mountains with families and friends - for work- rarely spend a night apart click to expand
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Sounds good.
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Posted by Goodmorning
Posted by wagtail
Posted by Goodmorning
Posted by wagtail
With a Virguy at the moment.

It's been amazing but he moved really fast and locked me down in a matter of days and we haven't been apart since...

He has a Scorp moon tho, my advice is just patience for now and no expectations- in my experience men regardless of sign, will generally show interest and lock you down if they really want to.





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Just over a year, moved in together after 3 months now splitting our time between city and mountains with families and friends - for work- rarely spend a night apart click to expand



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Just saying they can all be a little different and it might require some patience if you can spare it -really believe things work well when Virgo man chases you first
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If you have an AquaMan option I think that might be a solid pairing xo

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Yes to this. Mr Aqua has Virgo rising and it can get bothersome but not stifling. My dad and both brothers are Virgo suns, Dad and one brother would probably get smacked if I wasn't related to them. Not all the time, but that critical streak...Damn, let me do it my way please.
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Hi everyone,

Thanks for your posts and thoughts. To give more context of the astrology world:

Me:

Sun:Leo

Moon: Leo

Rising: Gemini

Venus: Virgo

(And pretty much everything else is Virgo in my chart)

Him:

Sun: Virgo

Moon: Aries

Venus: Don't remember ... maybe Libra

TBH, we have been just in communication a lot ...nothing in terms of pursuing a romantic anything, but getting to know each other. I am personally giving this guy an open window, if he decides to enter, then great. However, I'm not giving him the open door, haha...I'm also getting to know another person who aligns more with me and more leaning on this new fella.

New fella:

Sun: Capricorn

Moon: Picses

Venus: Aquarius

Side note: I've dated a Virgo man before...he took me on lavishing dates, opened up to me, and was very attentive. However, when he expressed doubt in our connection...I didn't want to risk it -- had too many flighty lovers in the past to put myself in a position of chasing to no avail (thanks Aquarius guys, love y'all, but not as a emotional romantic pairing)...so I called it quits with the other Virgo male.

I'm very selective in my partner but more in the sense of wanting stability and reassurance.

Anyway, if anything exciting happens with the Virgo guy...I'll update here.

I personally don't think that Virgo and Leo pairings are bad...the one's I've dated (or that have expressed a romantic interest in me) have been gentlemen, respectful, and intellectually stimulating. They just require patience, if feeling you out.