You are a Leo and why haven't you called?

My new Leo (#2 for the record) was all drippy lovey dovey for about 1 week. Called me twice a day. Now he says he's going through a "couple of mood swings" and has stopped returning my calls.

I've read through the message boards about waiting for him to call...or calling him lavishing attention. I'm a libra and of course! I'm torn between which course of action to take. I am seriously falling for this guy...

Honestly, my instinct is to call him and tell him he shouldn't treat me this way. Truth of the matter is, my feelings for him are so strong I stopped seeing 2 guys because I know I like him more. Just as I ended those 2 relationships, he stops calling. It's made me hurt but more so angry. Not angry enough to quit on him. Seriously, help me choose how to play his game.

My guess is that he found out about the other 2 guys and is sulking. Or he realized that he was coming on too strong and is backing off for a while. Either way, your best course of action is to do nothing. Wait him out. Answer if he calls or emails, but don't chase.

I agree totally with softcookie. and if he found out about the other two my guess is he will speak on it eventually, especially if you stop trying to contact him.(cause we cant just be played) OR his leo pride may make him not say anything at all/

BUT I have to add leos are having a tough time emotionally right now so he just may be telling the truth....but i agree leave it alone let him come to you. i know its tough but you have to wait it out

oh and if he does know about the guys and addresses you on it, I would personally just be friends with him because he will probably never trust you again and play you badly

thanks...

he may have heard about the others, but I doubt it. I do know Leos are possesive, does it count for anything that

1) I just met him and had already been seeing these guys?

2) that I haven't slept/kissed/done other than flirt and go out with them? I didn't do anything with the Leo either, just flirting

3) that I chose him over them after knowing him for a week? (knew the others for month +)

oh, and thanks again...I will resist my urge to call!

Leodiva: Leos now are supposed to be going through tough times? Is something going on astrologically? Sorry, I'm not up to speed on this stuff.

A muse: Yeah, it could be that he did find out. I wouldn't worry about it. At some point, you WILL find out what's been going on with him.

Nevermind. I just read what was going on astrologically on the other posts! Note to self: read through the others before commenting on one. :-)

A Muse

Leo men make my heart skip. I LOVE them. It hasn't worked out for me but it is all about timing. Just leave him a lone. Apparently they resurface. This has not been my experience but I hope it is yours.

BTW Hi Leos

Chocolate ... I trust everything is well. 🙂

There's no reason why he wouldn't call other than he's lost interest. Or as Softcookie put it, he found out about the other two guys. Leos are very passionate lovers so if he was into you, you'd konw it.

well, I have here in my hands an email from the long lost leo! You all were right, but the situation remains sticky. I'm seeing somebody, granted it isn't very serious, but still...

and also, can't help but feel peeved that he blew me off for so long.

ask him straight out what happened...you at least deserve an explanation...

Leos do this. I have no idea why. They just disappear for awhile. Even the friends. My cousin/oldest friend has gone missing for over a year before. (shrugs.)

What does his email say?

i think that he was backing off abit ,perhaps he thought he was coming on too strong,but if you ignore him he,ll think you dont care and he wants you to make the moves,or he will dissapear.

In the email he says "it's been a long time since we last spoke, I've truly been having problems and don't have a cell phone." he gives me a new number and says he wants us to talk. And "I hope you're doing good, really."

it's a nice enough email, and a I don't doubt what he is saying. But why nearly 2 months for an email telling me that? I'll definitely take Soft Cookie's advice and tell you all how it goes

It took me a couple of weeks, but I called. He apologized again. He said he's been having family troubles. We didn't talk about it too much, I'd like to bring it up again, but Leo Man is very monopolizing!

Anyway, we are talking a lot again and he wants to take me out. I haven't said yes or no yet...just maybe. Thanks for all your advice guys, you were so right!

Confused, you say back off maybe they were cominng on too strong. Then it sorta implies to stay in touhc, or he will think u dont care and move on. So which one is it, which is the better method to attract or keep a leo interested—
Also why are they so darn MOODY>?? Especially for a guy, its a turn off to us sags, we like to be happy go lucky, but even a leo can depress us.
Do they wanna be chased, or not? It's conflicting at times. Like if i dont call my friend back, he gets mad. But then he'll never return my calls, and when I address it with my sag off the chain remarks, he gets pissed. Its like he's coming & going??
What to do with this leo? Do you leave them be, and do they actually resurface as mentioned, or do they leave never to look back.

Yes MONOPOLIZING.. My leo pal doesnt let me get a word in, I can hardly ever express my own problems, desires or concerns. Its always about him his drama, and woes.
Its like he doesnt take time to listen, I know he cares but doesnt show it and does tend to have this me, me, me attitude. Love him to death, but agian it pushes me away and turns me off.

Yes MONOPOLIZING.. My leo pal doesnt let me get a word in, I can hardly ever express my own problems, desires or concerns. Its always about him his drama, and woes.
Its like he doesnt take time to listen, I know he cares but doesnt show it and does tend to have this me, me, me attitude. Love him to death, but agian it pushes me away and turns me off.

Weird, that's how I feel when I talk to my Scorpio friends.

Leos do this. I have no idea why. They just disappear for awhile. Even the friends. My cousin/oldest friend has gone missing for over a year before. (shrugs.)

You know, this phenomena IS interesting. It's weird that Leos can be the warmest sign but many times, we're described as cold, aloof, and reserved. I would agree with that but I wonder what are the particulars of the Leo sign that bring this about. Is it the natural elitist in Leos or what?

"Leos do this. I have no idea why. They just disappear for awhile. Even the friends. My cousin/oldest friend has gone missing for over a year before. (shrugs.)"

Sounds a lot like the Aqua male to me!

"Confused, you say back off maybe they were cominng on too strong. Then it sorta implies to stay in touhc, or he will think u dont care and move on. So which one is it, which is the better method to attract or keep a leo interested—
Also why are they so darn MOODY>?? Especially for a guy, its a turn off to us sags, we like to be happy go lucky, but even a leo can depress us.
Do they wanna be chased, or not? It's conflicting at times. Like if i dont call my friend back, he gets mad. But then he'll never return my calls, and when I address it with my sag off the chain remarks, he gets pissed. Its like he's coming & going??
What to do with this leo? Do you leave them be, and do they actually resurface as mentioned, or do they leave never to look back."

With leo men you have to find balance, if you don't have a thick skin then its best to leave leo's off the menu.

Stroke and ignore a bit, not too much ignoring but just enough to send the message that your self reliant and okay without him, he will come back, leo men don't roam too far from home if he truly loves/cares about a woman. If he's having some upheavals in his life, he will disappear and trust me when I say you probably don't wanna deal with him during this time, if moodiness is a problem then you def will not mesh well if your moods are determined by how he's being any given time of the day, a female has to know when to back off, give space but yet not too much, pay attention to him and how he reacts and change what doesn't work.

Part of keeping a leo interested is being secure within yourself, be confident and don't let his moods sway your feelings about him meaning don't be wishy washy and be dependent upon him to make you happy or allow his moods to make you unhappy, let him be him and you be you and if he's moody don't take it personal, go live and be happy, he will come around and meet you in the middle when he's done with being that way, he will open up more but if a woman responds negatively to his moods the leo male will flip it off and find someone who can deal with him and his ways. Don't be too serious! Don't take everything defensively, nag, whine, complain, he will simply stay moody and continue to distance himself.

Not making a big deal out of things is a good start, stop competing and arguing over little things like who calls who back, total turn off, a leo male will look at it as being possessive and they can't be possessed in that way.

actually after reflecting, a leo will disappear if he doesn't feel safe enough to let a woman in, my leo doesn't run so I know he feels good about revealing his feelings, if he feels like he will be judged or criticized or show too much vulnerability, he will not open up, he will more than likely seek someone he can feel good about himself with or he will confide in a person that he can trust, if he has neither then he will seek out how to deal with hit on his own.

with it on his own

Tx tiki, you mentioned some factors, that I really can identify with. I will try to take your advice, esp. about the not letting his moods get to me which I do. And he does react the way you said, when I bitch about it. So love him, let him go, but still hanga round. Wow,I have my hands full.. 🙂 and I'm only a friend, imagine if I was his gal..

yes leo men liked to be chased but not too much, stroking his ego is a full time job, inregards to calling, if he calls ignore him for a couple of hours and then return the call or text and say hi but don't jus IGNORE for days, that will piss a leo off, find balance, stop doing things that you know will piss him off would be a start. Leos are not going to play by your tune, only fire signs can make a leo bend, if your not a fire sign then you have to tap into that part of you that can appeal to his ego and his heart.

I am a fire sign, and I still feel like we were so close and connected, and like the original post, he has alot of family drama, and that has effected how he feels and acts these days. Again he's forever telling me not to take it personally, but how can I not when it's me that is ta;king to him and getting this feedback. I know he's troubled, Im just trying to be there 4 him, which he acknowledges, but its wierd he does nothing about it. I know he is not a sag and cant express his emotions like I do, but its so conflicting, I never know what is the truth, and what is a lie.
He cares, but dmn if he has a hard time showing and expressing it. Me on the other hand Im prone to show too much, thats just my nature. So, I will leave him alone as I have backed away from him alot lately. I dont know if he will ever come around, as his personla drama is far from being over anytime soon.

patience cheenah, if you don't have it then its best to let him go for now, being their for him means you have to do a bit of compartmentalizing, leave the feelings for when he's receptive to receiving love from you, if he's not receptive then keep your distance, you can't manufacture feelings in him meaning no matter how nice you are, how much you listen and be their for him he will not budge or reciprocate until he's ready, if he's emotionally selfish then you will have to decide how much energy your going to give him, you have to learn to not resent him for being him and be more accepting of who he is right now, learn to respect his space and set your own boundaries inregards to your friendship and how your going to give time to him.

LOL@Proverbs

exactly...I like the way you think and I figured that out a long time ago..thank God I love puzzles (:

Good observation Ladies.
I am not going to reveal why Leos behave like that because situations are different.
Leos are mysterious you don't know what he's up to. Your job is to solve the puzzle.
He will not give the answer to your questions JUST LIKE THAT.

Hey Proverbs thanks for the previous advice it worked like a charm you genius!!

this is so what my leo does! He is so secretive and I am so curious but I've learned not to ask so many questions but I just want to know him a little bit more. When I told him that I wouldn't ask anymore he turns and says "You can ask me anything" I took it to mean that he still wouldn't tell anything though (lol). He is still a bit distant but after reading all these posts I realize that I can't deal with him the way I would deal with the typical man. I have to be more flexible. I gave him a key to my apartment so I hope this helps him realize that I care. I also wrote him an love letter(email)! I'm alittle embarrassed about it because I have NEVER done that for anyone (the key or the email!!!) but he's making me bend a little bit and Im starting to come out of my shell (cancer)! I don't mind but I hope it works in my favor! How do leos respond to open heart letters or just opening up in general! I didn't forget to stroke his ego and include all of the things that I liked about him. I also told him how I'm falling for him! Do you think this will scare him off? I won't press it, though. I'm just gonna wait to see if he has anything to say about it.

I was thinking about this the other day and remembered that Mercury is retrograde at the moment so communication problems/delays etc. are not uncommon at this time.

I have to admit that I do this sometimes. I'll really get excited and call a few times a day or text etc. Then I get scared that the person will always expect this and I back off. I'm not sure if it's a Leo thing, but I date a Leo guy on and off and he seems to be the same way. I tend to be a workaholic and the thought of having all the obligations of work on top of someone wanting to see and/or talk to me everyday always makes me "freeze" and reconsider. I truly believe he's just weighing things out right now. Lay low, stay confident and somewhat indifferent and I think he'll feel the pressure is off and will be able to relax. I can say that we (Leos) really like to know that you are a friend first everything else is secondary.

"Wait a sec I overlooked something in your post Kaye...

Key? 4 months? I am assuming that you have indoor locks. Remember, there is always a bad apple in every zodiac signs. Next time before you entrust your key make sure that you have check on his background first. This is a cruel world. Be safe ok?"

Thanks Proverbs! I do have indoor locks! Lol! He actually helped me out of a financial bind so I trust him. I kinda think it was a lil soon myself On top of that I have never given a key to anyone!

I don't have my charts or his is there anyway I can get this on the board?

I am making excellent progress with the Leo. I accepted his invitation to a party. He cancelled, but legitimately. He had family issues that needed to be dealt with. We are friends bordering on something else. I keep our conversations light and flirty. I'm not always the best at lavishing attention or stroking an ego, especially when that ego didn't call me for over a month, but I played the best move yet. He's on a baseball team and I got my girlfriends to help me make up a cheer for him. He was impressed, he kept saying that over and over. I pleased him, I think.

I like this puzzle and am not taking any of it too seriously. It's fun for now, but if he stops calling again, we're kaput. I don't wait around for men, and he won't win me that way. I hope leos aren't too silly to not understand this.

* He's on a baseball team and I got my girlfriends to help me make up a cheer for him. He was impressed, he kept saying that over and over. I pleased him, I think.

You're such a libra.

🙂

I actually had a group of drunk people serenade the last leo I dated. I think Leos and Libras just get each other and bring out the flare in each other.

My best friend is married to a Leo. I remember sitting in a restaurant with the two of them. He was complaining the pen the waitress gave him was sticky. I immediately gave him a napkin to wrap around the pen.

My best friend laughed and said, "Now, I see why Libras and Leos get along so well." After, she said she thought he was being a dramaqueen. (She is a Scorp.) I didn't even bat an eye and just fixed his problem.