Any experience with a Libra veteran people?? I need a help

I met him online and we became close friends. After some time he started getting warmer and told me he was into me. Everything was fine for weeks, we were talking lot but he couldn't open up to me. I wasn't pushy or anything, I knew he had war issues and hard time to deal with it. Sometimes he wanted his space and told me that no matter he was texting or not I was on his mind all the time. After some time he asked me to meet and I denied and asked for a video call instead. I wanted to see him in real first and meet then, he agreed but told me hadn't microphone for his computer and wanted to take care of it first. We kept talking for a few days and before the day of Valentine I texted him and asked how he was doing, he opened my message but no response.. Since then he never talked to me again. He's active on facebook, shares some posts once in a while but he doesn't talk to me. I sent 2 messages and another one just last night, as I got my driver's license and wanted to share my happiness with him. He didn't open my previous messages, not this one either, I get so sad. He was always telling me that I was his hope, I could keep him out of troubles, once he even mentioned marriage but I didn't pay attention, well of course I did but I didn't want to show my emotions, he told me that I was perfect and he wouldn't change single thing in me, once he told me he was afraid to disappoint me but then added it wouldn't happen. I miss him so bad and I don't know what's wrong. Thinking of him every single time, sometimes I get scared that he might have somebody, another time I'm afraid he decided he isn't enough good for me. I don't know what to think. Also he's a bit older, he told me he was 30 but he's 38. I did my own investigation and found out many things. But I'm okay with his past and I really don't mind. I sent message saying I was okay and he wouldn't worry about his past. I don't know
I need a help from people especially who have any experience with veterans with PTSD. Thank you

You got catfished, yo.

You should have met him in a public place.

If you wanted a video of me before meeting after several attempts of meeting in person I would not talk to you again either.

Seems like you have something to hide.

You may not...but logical people think face to face is better than the Internet camera...

I don't really think you understand his condition (PTSD)...if you can't conclude he needs something real or tangible to deal with to continue to build trust upon.

Posted by happyface1
You should have met him in a public place.

If you wanted a video of me before meeting after several attempts of meeting in person I would not talk to you again either.

Seems like you have something to hide.

You may not...but logical people think face to face is better than the Internet camera...

I don't really think you understand his condition (PTSD)...if you can't conclude he needs something real or tangible to deal with to continue to build trust upon.

No, nothing like that. I asked for a video call just for once, i wanted to make sure he was really him who i knew from pictures. I have experience when I met somebody and he wasn't the guy from pics.I understand this condition very good. I have read too many things since i met him. I wanted to meet and i want it so bad. Just i don't know how to get him back to me, help me if you can. What do I need to do? I know his phone number but never called to him, Is it a good idea if I call him? because he wouldn't open my messages . What can I do? I would do anything for him.

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Posted by happyface1
You should have met him in a public place.

If you wanted a video of me before meeting after several attempts of meeting in person I would not talk to you again either.

Seems like you have something to hide.

You may not...but logical people think face to face is better than the Internet camera...

I don't really think you understand his condition (PTSD)...if you can't conclude he needs something real or tangible to deal with to continue to build trust upon.

No, nothing like that. I asked for a video call just for once, i wanted to make sure he was really him who i knew from pictures. I have experience when I met somebody and he wasn't the guy from pics.I understand this condition very good. I have read too many things since i met him. I wanted to meet and i want it so bad. Just i don't know how to get him back to me, help me if you can. What do I need to do? I know his phone number but never called to him, Is it a good idea if I call him? because he wouldn't open my messages . What can I do? I would do anything for him.

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If this is real...which after this last post you sent I highly doubt.

Meet him in person. That's it

Posted by happyface1
You should have met him in a public place.

If you wanted a video of me before meeting after several attempts of meeting in person I would not talk to you again either.

Seems like you have something to hide.

You may not...but logical people think face to face is better than the Internet camera...

I don't really think you understand his condition (PTSD)...if you can't conclude he needs something real or tangible to deal with to continue to build trust upon.

Damn, I love Gemini; their logic is flawless.

Whatever the case, consider it a blessing that he's gone. Despite all their pretty words, men speak with their actions, not their words. If he just disappeared without any explanation he knew the risk of permanently damaging the relationship and he was willing to take it. Acceptance of his harsh behavior is brutal, but when a man abruptly disappears especially when dating online, it's usually a very loud indication it's over; whether he has PSTD or not. But my gut instincts say it is for the best.

Either way thanks people. He didn't answer the phone but finally read my messages. I'm not a Libra and can't think like them, I'm a Pisces and do whatever I think is right. Never meant to anything bad and maybe everything is my fault, who knows. I'm just careful when I choose my partner, I bet none of you have experience when pictures and reality looks totally different , or when you see a cute guy online and you ended up meeting some fat, short, bearded man and the only thing you want to do is just shoot yourself in the face, lol. Yeah everything happens.. It's just little hard to trust someone who doesn't want to open up and even doesn't tell you his real age. But I was ready to do anything for him. And I am. My bday is coming soon, if he contacts me and I hope so, we still have some chance to be together, if not then I'm gonna just delete him from everywhere. It hurts when I see him online and can't talk.

what else did you find out?

Posted by jeane
what else did you find out?

Well it doesn't really matter, just some things he didn't say, He isn't perfect so what, none of us are perfect, I like him the way he is, I want and need him, he needs me too. I'm just so so sad, wish i could get back to past and do things differently. I hope he comes back, you can't imagine how much he means for me

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Posted by jeane
what else did you find out?

Well it doesn't really matter, just some things he didn't say, He isn't perfect so what, none of us are perfect, I like him the way he is, I want and need him, he needs me too. I'm just so so sad, wish i could get back to past and do things differently. I hope he comes back, you can't imagine how much he means for me

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i think you have to sit down and ask yourself why are you accepting and even embracing of this kind of behaviour.

you "need" a man and have convinced yourself that he needs you too. well, it doesn't seem like it. he lies to you, he is not forthcoming, he makes little attempt to please you, he ignores you. you excuse the behaviour because you're not looking at things objectively. if a friend of yours came to you and wrote what you have written here, what would you say to her? would you tell her to hang all her hope on a guy who cannot respond to her? who pretends to be someone else? who has had to go digging to be told the truth?

why is this good enough for you? do you really believe that this is the best it can get?

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Posted by jeane
what else did you find out?

Well it doesn't really matter, just some things he didn't say, He isn't perfect so what, none of us are perfect, I like him the way he is, I want and need him, he needs me too. I'm just so so sad, wish i could get back to past and do things differently. I hope he comes back, you can't imagine how much he means for me

i think you have to sit down and ask yourself why are you accepting and even embracing of this kind of behaviour.

you "need" a man and have convinced yourself that he needs you too. well, it doesn't seem like it. he lies to you, he is not forthcoming, he makes little attempt to please you, he ignores you. you excuse the behaviour because you're not looking at things objectively. if a friend of yours came to you and wrote what you have written here, what would you say to her? would you tell her to hang all her hope on a guy who cannot respond to her? who pretends to be someone else? who has had to go digging to be told the truth?

why is this good enough for you? do you really believe that this is the best it can get?

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Yes you are right and I totally agree, just my heart is addicted to him. I don't know how to explain, I don't know what is wrong with me. He hasn't anybody who takes care of him, he's alone and feels bad. It's so hard when you realize you did so much for your country and people and still you aren't accepted. I can give everything he needs and I'm willing to do so. I like him, he was so romantic, strong, sweet, cute man. who also was willing to take care of me and save me "from the bad world". Sounds like a tale I know and I love tales. I thought I found him, the only one, he seemed so different than others, so good . I have feelings for him, that's why I'm the way I am. Never felt anything like that before. I trust my heart

Posted by pisceanloves
Yes you are right and I totally agree, just my heart is addicted to him. I don't know how to explain, I don't know what is wrong with me. He hasn't anybody who takes care of him, he's alone and feels bad. It's so hard when you realize you did so much for your country and people and still you aren't accepted. I can give everything he needs and I'm willing to do so. I like him, he was so romantic, strong, sweet, cute man. who also was willing to take care of me and save me "from the bad world". Sounds like a tale I know and I love tales. I thought I found him, the only one, he seemed so different than others, so good . I have feelings for him, that's why I'm the way I am. Never felt anything like that before. I trust my heart

you ask what's wrong with you? you're infatuated with the fantasy. your brain is running overtime to produce hormones that feel like drugs. it's no wonder people describe it as addictive. i have no doubt that the idea of this guy has a hold on you.

it's nice that you have a desire to take care of people. i'm sure your heart melts when you watch cute puppy videos. it's a lovely personality trait. save it for the person that proves to you they are worth it. don't give it away cheaply.

the harsh reality if you can't give him everything he needs. he's a man approaching 40 with, if what he has told you is true, mental health issues. you'e a young woman in her mid 20's who has so much more to see in the world. you can't save this guy, nor is it your job to.

he is not a romantic, sweet, strong, cute man. he has told you a lot of lovely words. we are great like that. i can say the sweetest, loveliest words if i decide to. it doesn't mean i will mean it, it also doesn't mean i will fulfill the promises i make. if i was a nearly 40 year old man, i would love to have a young woman to chat up and tell me sweet things. you are at the precipice of your life, reaching that age where you can begin to take it by the balls. this guy knows it. there is so much more in this world for you than him. believe me.

honestly, this will sound terrible, but it sounds like you are naive. it's ok to be naive! you're in your twenties. don't trust your heart. trust your mind. trust your eyes. trust your logic. there are sooooooo many men out there and a lot of them are good. you might struggle to find them now but give yourself a bit of time, i assure you, they will start showing up.

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Posted by jeane
what else did you find out?

Well it doesn't really matter, just some things he didn't say, He isn't perfect so what, none of us are perfect, I like him the way he is, I want and need him, he needs me too. I'm just so so sad, wish i could get back to past and do things differently. I hope he comes back, you can't imagine how much he means for me

But you never even met him in person.

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Yes but I don't mind. I guess I'm so weird

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Posted by pisceanloves
Yes you are right and I totally agree, just my heart is addicted to him. I don't know how to explain, I don't know what is wrong with me. He hasn't anybody who takes care of him, he's alone and feels bad. It's so hard when you realize you did so much for your country and people and still you aren't accepted. I can give everything he needs and I'm willing to do so. I like him, he was so romantic, strong, sweet, cute man. who also was willing to take care of me and save me "from the bad world". Sounds like a tale I know and I love tales. I thought I found him, the only one, he seemed so different than others, so good . I have feelings for him, that's why I'm the way I am. Never felt anything like that before. I trust my heart

you ask what's wrong with you? you're infatuated with the fantasy. your brain is running overtime to produce hormones that feel like drugs. it's no wonder people describe it as addictive. i have no doubt that the idea of this guy has a hold on you.

it's nice that you have a desire to take care of people. i'm sure your heart melts when you watch cute puppy videos. it's a lovely personality trait. save it for the person that proves to you they are worth it. don't give it away cheaply.

the harsh reality if you can't give him everything he needs. he's a man approaching 40 with, if what he has told you is true, mental health issues. you'e a young woman in her mid 20's who has so much more to see in the world. you can't save this guy, nor is it your job to.

he is not a romantic, sweet, strong, cute man. he has told you a lot of lovely words. we are great like that. i can say the sweetest, loveliest words if i decide to. it doesn't mean i will mean it, it also doesn't mean i will fulfill the promises i make. if i was a nearly 40 year old man, i would love to have a young woman to chat up and tell me sweet things. you are at the precipice of your life, reaching that age where you can begin to take it by the balls. this guy knows it. there is so much more in this world for you than him. believe me.

honestly, this will sound terrible, but it sounds like you are naive. it's ok to be naive! you're in your twenties. don't trust your heart. trust your mind. trust your eyes. trust your logic. there are sooooooo many men out there and a lot of them are good. you might struggle to find them now but give yourself a bit of time, i assure you, they will start showing up.

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Thank you. I appreciate your point of view

Posted by happyface1
You should have met him in a public place.

If you wanted a video of me before meeting after several attempts of meeting in person I would not talk to you again either.

Seems like you have something to hide.

You may not...but logical people think face to face is better than the Internet camera...

I don't really think you understand his condition (PTSD)...if you can't conclude he needs something real or tangible to deal with to continue to build trust upon.

I'm sorry, did we read the same post? It appears that you haven't.

After reading some of the responses, what the bloody fuck is wrong with people here? Are you people just fucking retarded and so delusional, you cannot grasp why this person wanted to see a video of dude first?

One, we're talking safety here. If he really was who he said he was, he wouldn't have made up some bs story and then dipped out like he did. Anyone involved in an online fling understands that there's a risk in who the person really is because people are crazy as fuck sometimes. Her asking him to video chat first before meeting is NOT out of the question or some lame fuck excuse for this guy to dip on out like he did.

She got catfished. It's as simple as that. If he had nothing to hide, he wouldn't have bailed or lied about not being able to video chat and would have agreed.

If he gets butthurt over that, well he has problems. In this day and age of people lying all over the place when it comes to this garbage, it's not out of the question to ask for something like video chat.

JFC what the hell is wrong with you people on this website? Get your heads out of your asses.

Posted by jeane
it's nice that you have a desire to take care of people. i'm sure your heart melts when you watch cute puppy videos. it's a lovely personality trait. save it for the person that proves to you they are worth it. don't give it away cheaply.

the harsh reality if you can't give him everything he needs. he's a man approaching 40 with, if what he has told you is true, mental health issues. you'e a young woman in her mid 20's who has so much more to see in the world. you can't save this guy, nor is it your job to.

he is not a romantic, sweet, strong, cute man. he has told you a lot of lovely words. we are great like that. i can say the sweetest, loveliest words if i decide to. it doesn't mean i will mean it, it also doesn't mean i will fulfill the promises i make. if i was a nearly 40 year old man, i would love to have a young woman to chat up and tell me sweet things. you are at the precipice of your life, reaching that age where you can begin to take it by the balls. this guy knows it. there is so much more in this world for you than him. believe me.

honestly, this will sound terrible, but it sounds like you are naive. it's ok to be naive! you're in your twenties. don't trust your heart. trust your mind. trust your eyes. trust your logic. there are sooooooo many men out there and a lot of them are good. you might struggle to find them now but give yourself a bit of time, i assure you, they will start showing up.

+ freaking one.

This stupid thing that a lot of women do- the whole ridiculous "caretaker" bit is just damaging to themselves. They think they can be the magic vagina that cures dude of his issues. But he's in his late 30s (which he lied about). OP, you naive child, guys that age are set in their ways. They will not change and just leech off of you. Everyone here knows I am not a fan of much younger women dating guys in their mid to late 30s because they're usually kinda fucked and THIS is what you'll go through. Guys like this are perpetual man children and will not change. What you see is what you get. You will not cure him as you are not a licensed professional.

Knock off the fantasy bullshit. Dude lied to you about his age, and other things it seems, and now he's disappeared because you wanted some proof that he was who he was aside from pictures. That should say enough about the situation.

He sounds fucked in the head and needs psychological help. You cannot cure PTSD with your vagina, so you need to get out of that mindset real fast. Knock off the Pisces fantasy dwelling nonsense. You're going to waste so much of your time in dating if you continue to do this.

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+ freaking one.

This stupid thing that a lot of women do- the whole ridiculous "caretaker" bit is just damaging to themselves. They think they can be the magic vagina that cures dude of his issues.

it's our culture. op even said she likes tales and being a pisces ain't going to help either. we're brought up to believe that "all you need is love" and "behind every great man is a woman". how many stories have we seen where a woman's love is restorative? it's the june cleaver ideal. it's fucked us over for at least a century. it's a myth. some women waste a good portion of their lives trying to recreate the impossible and when they fail it's because they didn't love enough. we don't realise that the myth destines us fail before we've even begun.

@rockyroadicecream

Are you slow ? From your past posts I'm going to come to the conclusion that you are...just a little bit.

You're entertaining.

Let's just say he did catfish her and she met him and his picture was false. GUESS WHAT you don't talk to him after that...OMG who knew that was an option.

I'm not sending a video to someone who has stated all these deep feelings but can't meet face to face.

But that's just me and my opinion on the matter.

She could take his video and do whatever she wants with it and still not meet him.

If she felt like she would do anything for this man...she would have met him.

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@rockyroadicecream

Are you slow ? From your past posts I'm going to come to the conclusion that you are...just a little bit.

You're entertaining.

Let's just say he did catfish her and she met him and his picture was false. GUESS WHAT you don't talk to him after that...OMG who knew that was an option.

I'm not sending a video to someone who has stated all these deep feelings but can't meet face to face.

But that's just me and my opinion on the matter.

She could take his video and do whatever she wants with it and still not meet him.

If she felt like she would do anything for this man...she would have met him.

No.

Stop.

Just stop. Wtf

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You're a little bit off too...you're amusing to watch also

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@rockyroadicecream

Are you slow ? From your past posts I'm going to come to the conclusion that you are...just a little bit.

You're entertaining.

Let's just say he did catfish her and she met him and his picture was false. GUESS WHAT you don't talk to him after that...OMG who knew that was an option.

I'm not sending a video to someone who has stated all these deep feelings but can't meet face to face.

But that's just me and my opinion on the matter.

She could take his video and do whatever she wants with it and still not meet him.

If she felt like she would do anything for this man...she would have met him.

No.

Stop.

Just stop. Wtf

You're a little bit off too...you're amusing to watch also

No bueno

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It's all good chica 🙂

Posted by happyface1
@rockyroadicecream

Are you slow ? From your past posts I'm going to come to the conclusion that you are...just a little bit.

You're entertaining.

Let's just say he did catfish her and she met him and his picture was false. GUESS WHAT you don't talk to him after that...OMG who knew that was an option.

I'm not sending a video to someone who has stated all these deep feelings but can't meet face to face.

But that's just me and my opinion on the matter.

She could take his video and do whatever she wants with it and still not meet him.

If she felt like she would do anything for this man...she would have met him.

You poor, silly bitch.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
+ freaking one.

This stupid thing that a lot of women do- the whole ridiculous "caretaker" bit is just damaging to themselves. They think they can be the magic vagina that cures dude of his issues.

it's our culture. op even said she likes tales and being a pisces ain't going to help either. we're brought up to believe that "all you need is love" and "behind every great man is a woman". how many stories have we seen where a woman's love is restorative? it's the june cleaver ideal. it's fucked us over for at least a century. it's a myth. some women waste a good portion of their lives trying to recreate the impossible and when they fail it's because they didn't love enough. we don't realise that the myth destines us fail before we've even begun.

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I agree. You know I've been preaching this for quite some time.

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@rockyroadicecream

Are you slow ? From your past posts I'm going to come to the conclusion that you are...just a little bit.

You're entertaining.

Let's just say he did catfish her and she met him and his picture was false. GUESS WHAT you don't talk to him after that...OMG who knew that was an option.

I'm not sending a video to someone who has stated all these deep feelings but can't meet face to face.

But that's just me and my opinion on the matter.

She could take his video and do whatever she wants with it and still not meet him.

If she felt like she would do anything for this man...she would have met him.

You poor, silly bitch.

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Unintelligent boastful cunt

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@rockyroadicecream

Are you slow ? From your past posts I'm going to come to the conclusion that you are...just a little bit.

You're entertaining.

Let's just say he did catfish her and she met him and his picture was false. GUESS WHAT you don't talk to him after that...OMG who knew that was an option.

I'm not sending a video to someone who has stated all these deep feelings but can't meet face to face.

But that's just me and my opinion on the matter.

She could take his video and do whatever she wants with it and still not meet him.

If she felt like she would do anything for this man...she would have met him.

You poor, silly bitch.

Unintelligent boastful cunt

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Hilarious coming from the stupid twat who berated the OP for trying to protect yourself. Live in reality you silly whore.

*** It's just little hard to trust someone who doesn't want to open up and even doesn't tell you his real age.

Well the real question is why would you want to? Why would you try to make yourself trust someone who is dishonest? There is nothing here to trust. Dishonesty is a character flaw. You can’t fix character.

You don’t have to accept everyone who comes along. You can say no when people have issues like lying and possibly long term mental health issues.

Here is the thing. You are dating like a girl. and he is dating like a man. This is a fantasy relationship. By your own admission, you don’t even know if he looks the way he says he looks. Total. 100% . Fantasy.

He has a young pretty girl who will “do anything for him” and “needs” him. He gets an ego boost and you get hung up on a romantic fantasy and get your heart broken.

Don’t chase after broken things. And you do NOT need anyone. He isn’t going to save you. He can’t even save himself.

Noone is going to save you in this world. You save yourself.

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*** It's just little hard to trust someone who doesn't want to open up and even doesn't tell you his real age.

Well the real question is why would you want to? Why would you try to make yourself trust someone who is dishonest? There is nothing here to trust. Dishonesty is a character flaw. You can’t fix character.

You don’t have to accept everyone who comes along. You can say no when people have issues like lying and possibly long term mental health issues.

Here is the thing. You are dating like a girl. and he is dating like a man. This is a fantasy relationship. By your own admission, you don’t even know if he looks the way he says he looks. Total. 100% . Fantasy.

He has a young pretty girl who will “do anything for him” and “needs” him. He gets an ego boost and you get hung up on a romantic fantasy and get your heart broken.

Don’t chase after broken things. And you do NOT need anyone. He isn’t going to save you. He can’t even save himself.

Noone is going to save you in this world. You save yourself.

Amen.

People need to stop treating dating and relationships like it's therapy. It's a stupid, stupid way to go about things, and tbh, you get what you deserve if this is how you're going to go around handling dating.

Thanks people. We no longer share any social account. Emotionally destroyed

Posted by pisceanloves
Thanks people. We no longer share any social account. Emotionally destroyed

sorry pl. sometimes you need to let go of the old to make room for the new.