Are libra built for the married life

Or due to our in-ability to fully commit and our desire for beauty & balance, will it always be a struggle for us?

Discuss.......


Augustus

I have always been one for long relationships. The problem was finding the right guy to be in a relationship with. For me it was another Libra, this is the first time ive felt like I will be able to marry someone and be Happy. Ive had a couple long relationships, a few short relationships than the occasional one night stand. I regret the one night stands for sure, they never really quite meet expectation.

One of my long relationships i was with for 3 yrs and had a child with....Even though I wasnt completely satisfied with him I reeealllyy tried to make it work because I WANT TO BE COMMITED to someone. we were engaged for about a yr., maybe a yr and a half(dont remember exactly how long)When ever my ex talked about actually getting married, I just kind of brushed him off. I never cheated on him all the way to the end of the last 3 weeks we were together when I decided that a mutual friend of ours was the man I wanted to be with. lol, oops 😛 ...I guess we always fall for someone when we least expect it to happen huh. I was always searching for the person I could be together with Forever, and I tried in all my previous relationships but there was always something not quite right.

I think what it comes down to is Libras neeeed to find the exact right person to spend life with, until you do you will always be afraid of committing to marriage.

Now that I have found a person that suits me very well, I will be able to marry and commit to him forever.

Are you in a stable relationship now Augustus?

I appreciate the honesty of your question as it is something I wonder about myself.

They say Libra struggles with commitment and relationships more than other signs mainly because we are the sign of choice; balancing one idea with its opposite. We MUST choose between two and because our whole lesson to the zodiac is the power of decision "if I choose this, I cannot have that" we do not enter into decisions lightly. People claim we are indecisive. But isn't it also that we respect both options and give them equal consideration?

I think there is truth to the idea that we are seeking that one true perfect person that balances the weight of the world with us. If I have passion can I have stable love? If I have stable love can I have romance? These things seem unevenly matched kind of like the age old question do you choose the lover or the best friend?

Obviously, I don't have a very clear answer on this. lol! I do not believe we are a domestic sign finding comfort in home, but an idealist sign finding comfort in thought or day-dreams. Perhaps that is the problem for us. I believe the romantic idea of lovers united death due us part may hold more appeal that the drudgery of doing someone else's wash and eating dinner while watching the television.

i dunno about that. my libra ex was very much the homebody and would get extremely turned on by me acting like a domestic goddess. i couldn't do the dishes or cook dinner without him sneaking up behind me and molesting me. no, there is no cancer in his chart whatsoever. i've done it before and he's so libra it's scary. libra pops up about 5 or 6 times.

I think you are misunderstanding what I am saying nin.

I am not saying I dislike being home, not at all. Of late, I have very much been a homebody but that is different than loving the domestic scene of wearing an apron and baking bread. Know what I mean? I like being home because I can read, write, study, paint, whatever in privacy. I can be more alone in a world that seems to be constantly pulling at me. Not to be disrespectful at all but .... you are no longer with your ex and he wasn't happy for a long time. I am not saying this to hurt you at all, I am just saying that perhaps this may be an area of his personality you misunderstood. Notice how you say YOU were doing domestic stuff not him.

I think my Aries would be very surprised to hear how much I hate the practical side of domestic life. I help out but I really hate it. Sure I LOVE it when he cooks. It is awesome ... cause I don't have to do it. Many times I much prefer staying in because I can explore ideas in private instead of "being on" all the time and having to balance all these other people's demands. But that is different than enjoying domestic life for the sake of domestic life.

To be happy, I think (and this is an uncertainty not an absolute) that libras need to be fed a steady diet of provoking thought, ideas, and beautiful words and images (beautiful can also be haunting or surprising or extreme it does not necessarily mean traditional classical ideas of beauty.) and sensual feelings. I clean not because I like the process but because I like the beauty that comes after. If I can side step that process, I will.

Instead of cleaning and cooking, I think women and men wishing to court Libra should offer profound insights, sensual explorations, and poetic words. Not extreme emotion but extreme exploration. One gorgeous profound observation will feed my soul in a way a thousand dinners never would.

I love my home because it becomes my private sanctuary, study, not because house and home and tradition are important to me.

I think what I am trying to say so ineloquently (lol!) is that .... for some women picking up after a man, cooking for him, and looking after him in that fashion brings them immense joy. I am not one of those people. In fact, I see it as a bit of a punishment and feel resentful.

so says the Cancer. 😛

hee! hee!

I am in a much more optimistic mood than I was when I wrote that.

I really have no idea. I think you have to want it. I don't necessarily think you should marry strickly for "love" because that is a feeling and feelings change from moment to moment. It has to be something beyond that, there has to be a purpose to it? I really don't know.

Regardless, I have no idea what I am talking about. lol! I'm going to get some coffee and get down to work.

😛 just 'cause.

HA HA HA!

YEah. I am in a weird mood today. I had a really bad fall a couple of weeks ago and really wasn't myself. I spent the week catching up with old friends yadda, yadda and feel much more optimistic and bright.

How you are doing lady?

Posted by little_sparrow
hee! hee!

I am in a much more optimistic mood than I was when I wrote that.

I really have no idea. I think you have to want it. I don't necessarily think you should marry strickly for "love" because that is a feeling and feelings change from moment to moment. It has to be something beyond that, there has to be a purpose to it? I really don't know.

Regardless, I have no idea what I am talking about. lol! I'm going to get some coffee and get down to work.

😛 just 'cause.

Bang on! As usual.

A purpose to it? I think the trick is to not have a purpose to it. I am planning on marrying Angeleyes with the sole reason being that I want to. If I have a purpose it will come out anyway. Same for her, same for us together.

I love many many people. Marriage to me is not a statement of love, how one acts towards another on a daily basis is the only real statement of love.