are libra ladies afraid to lose an admirer

Just curious, is it easier for a Libra to make up her mind about accepting a potential admirer ??_when ??_.the guy began losing interest in her??_.or in situations where the guy seems to attract a lot of girls' attention?

seems when i go cold n disappear on this libra girl, she keeps looking for me??_.n misses me??_when i'm chatting online in chatroom with few other female friends, she will try to get in on the conversation too??_..i'm totally confused. wat does this action mean—?

i know lots of people say libras will make best friends with u first before considering u as a life partner??_is this also true?

she really gets my leo head spinning??_i cant tell to back off and call it exclusively best friends only or to keep persisting.

hope any libra girls can clarify this situation and the questions above pls. thanks in advance!

I've seen both sides. I got friend zoned by one Libra and then another I hooked up with instantly. She had a lot of Scorpio in her chart and had lot's of pent up sexual energy. If I were you ask her out if she's worth it. Libra's really don't bullshit you but of course they have trouble making up there minds. If she keeps showing interest in u it means something.

We sure hate losing narcissistic supply! Lol

Well, as a Libra who is going absolutely crazy over an Aries who goes hot and cold, and gets tons of attention from other women, I would say yes, this is true. I might feel the same way about him if he was chasing me constantly and didn't pay any attention to other women, though, because when he is doing that, I am still crazy about him. It's hard to say if I would have bored of him eventually because he keeps the hot and cold thing going a lot. I told him to leave me alone and quit calling me about a month ago. He did what I asked and I miss him soooo much.

tiziani, that's what i thought also??_i cant read too much into it,..no matter how she compliments me, this leo is turning a deaf ear! i dont want to play cat and mouse. ??_so i will let her sort out her feelings??_but i've noticed when i go cold, she wants extra affection. it's like what we leos do too!

i just cant grasp the indecisiveness??_i guess that's why libra = air signs, u can never catch air itself!

I think the best thing is beating the Libra at her own game! mirroring her seems to be working.

btw, what signs do u girls exhibit if u truly want to get into a serious relationship? u gals are too proud to come out and request it correct? u will always want the guy to "ask"??_but how will i know?

also, how to keep u girls in it for the long haul?

btw, what signs do u girls exhibit if u truly want to get into a serious relationship? u gals are too proud to come out and request it correct? u will always want the guy to "ask"??_but how will i know?

I am very comfortable and outgoing around guys that I just like as friends, but I am more quiet and shy around guys that I am interested in. I would try to respond positively towards any advances, while continuing to keep my guard up, so it may not come across as a positive response. If a guy were interested in me that I was absolutely not interested in, I would avoid him at all costs. I guess what I am trying to say is, I think it would be more obvious if I had no interest in a guy who was interested in me, than if I did have interest in him.

If this girl is aware that you are interested in her and still giving you attention, I would say she is definitely interested in you.

How to keep us in it for the long haul? Well, be strong, independent, not needy and clingy often (occasionally is ok), be protective, stand up for her at all costs. Be a little jealous and possessive but not too much, allow her to have her independence. Do things for her like cook her dinner, fix something around her house, and allow her to do the same for you, and be appreciative of the things she does for you. Take care of your appearance. Dress well.

Oh and be a man, no wimps.

Don't be too eager to spend a lot of time with her right away. Do something nice for her, like take her out, but have something you have to do for a family member or friend, so you have a set amount of time to spend with her. That way she will know you have a life and will not depend solely on her. Do plan a time in the future when you will be able to spend more time, and follow through with it. It must appear as if you have a life, but you do want to spend more time with her.

This isn't a Libra female thing per se, this is what an immature, attention seeking woman does. She knows you were interested and are losing it, so she's seeking you out because she misses the attention.

She couldn't figure out her shit and now that it's getting real, she decides now that she wants your attention? Pfft. Why are you so worried about someone like this?

If it takes you disappearing for her to realize she's losing something, she's not worth the time, imo.

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Just curious, is it easier for a Libra to make up her mind about accepting a potential admirer ??_when ??_.the guy began losing interest in her??_.or in situations where the guy seems to attract a lot of girls' attention?

Not me. This is very immature. I value people's time and effort so if I'm unsure, I'd tell you. If I don't want anything serious with you nor a romantic relationship, I'd tell you too.

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seems when i go cold n disappear on this libra girl, she keeps looking for me??_.n misses me??_when i'm chatting online in chatroom with few other female friends, she will try to get in on the conversation too??_..i'm totally confused. wat does this action mean—?

It means you're dealing with a messed up individual. You don't want that, it'll just be a headache.

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i know lots of people say libras will make best friends with u first before considering u as a life partner??_is this also true?

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Yes, that'd be ideal for me, friends first before anything else. Although with my first serious relationship, he was clear with his intention right from the start. I told him I do like him so he continued to pursue me. When he said he loves me and I told him I loved him too, he was already expecting us to be exclusive and I told him, "No, just because I said I love you doesn't mean I want a relationship right away." That took him aback, I guess I caught him off guard. I told him when I'm ready for that, I'll let him know. I think it was after 3 months that we became exclusive. Overall he waited 8 months before I was okay with having a serious relationship. He passed my tests so I was ready to take it to the next step.

I don't know if other leebs do this but this is the way I am. I want to see your dark side first. I want to see how patient you are and how you handle your emotions. I want to know almost everything about you first before I'd want a relationship. I want to see if you can handle me at my worst. So I show everything - good and bad. It's important that my inner demons dances well with yours.

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I think the best thing is beating the Libra at her own game! mirroring her seems to be working.

How about just being upfront and tell her what you want then give her time to make up her mind.

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btw, what signs do u girls exhibit if u truly want to get into a serious relationship?

I'm normally friendly and easy to talk to but if it's a guy I like, it'd be pretty obvious. lol I don't know how to hide my emotions. I'd be all over him, talk to him a lot more, be more attentive, spend a lot of time with him, be nicer. Usually this is already happening without me realizing I do like the guy A LOT! Hahaha! Then I'd tell the guy I like him.

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u gals are too proud to come out and request it correct? u will always want the guy to "ask"??_but how will i know?

Meh, I have no shame. I'd tell you if I like you and if I want something exclusive BUT this is after I'm done analyzing you. That takes time. I need to analyze my feelings for you too if it's just mere infatuation or do I really love you or not.

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also, how to keep u girls in it for the long haul?

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Hmm tough question. Long haul like marriage kinda 'long haul' or just a long term relationship?
I've had 4 serious relationships in total.
1st one lasted 2 years - he cheated.
2nd one lasted 6 years - he cheated.
3rd one was more out of pity for him. DO NOT DO THAT! It's bad! That lasted a year I think.

Those 3 relationships, I've always known they weren't 'The One'. Kinda fucked up, I know but deep down, I knew it had an expiration date in the future but I had stuff to learn from them.

Last one, this guy I'm marrying. I've known him for 7 years, we've been dating for 6 years now.
Basically, it takes me 8 months to a year to assess everything before I get into a relationship. Heh I don't know if you have the patience for that.

@AesmaDaeva....first of all...congrats! btw wat sign is ur guy— n are u a libra not on a cusp?
2nd.. how did u know the previous relationships (6yrs!!) werent the one n wat was there to learn that made u keep going for so long?
if your previous 2 relationships hadn't cheated would u have stayed wth them? also wen u are analyzing a guy for potential mr right...do u give signs of approval along the way so he knows he is doing something right? 😄

@libralioness...thx...may i also ask if u are on a cusp or straight up libra? I do realize its important to go about my own life ...n its about trying to meld 2 lives into 1 slowly. ...one side cant b too much...but us leos are always about excess..so hard to control..somtimes I am way too rushed n burn too passionate for my own good. ..I need to tone it down.


also...is it hard for u leebs to show ur emotional ups n downs? seems everytime she gets a downer or I start asking bout her past she dodges my topics n changes subjects....I want to show her I can b supportive n there thru thick n thin....she will then tell me she loves talking to me n says I am so caring n supportive....*sigh* its just I kno libras can b super polite...does she mean or just being nice.Sorry if I am micro analyzing the whole situation...but she is becoming an important part of my life n I want to do my best to keep
her...

there seems to b diff answers from u leebs here... ones that say u will let the guy know ur clearly interested n one that said u be especially shy n quiet. haaaa I guess that's wat throws me off! I am so worried about getting frd zoned! btw ladies...wat sign have u found to b most compatible, u feel most in love n fits all ur criteria for perfect mate to balance u? n do u do the breaking up or the guys? I just always read conflicting info online. ..."leebs always are looking to upgrade even wen in a relationship".."leebs will never leave u"...I dun really kno which to believe....kinda sweating bullets reading libras r so flighty...as if they r ready to jet out the door anytime

if u have anything else u like to add pls feel to write or pm me...I will read anything u take the time to write. thank u!

forgot to ask....

how can ur guy get to know u better...I mean emotion ...

n en ur feeling blue...wats the best remedy...I try to listen..b supportive n somtimes try to make her laugh...but most times she doesn't want to disclose her feelings..emotions..n wat is troubling her... : (

Im marrying a pisces. Im a 2nd decan libra so not a cusper. U can see my chart on my profile. I have an aries moon too so that makesme more direct than most leebs. I knew my tendencies to be indecisive even when i was young so i made it a point to just take responsibility for my own decisions no matter what happens. It's not so scary anymore if leebs just make up their mind and stick with it.

As for the 6 year relationship, i needed to learn how to stop nursing my ego. I was in it for selfish reasons. I just couldnt accept he was treating me badly. So i demanded reparations instead of just accepting we're not really healthy for each other. Yeah, i stayed for stupid reasons.

If they didnt cheat would i have stayed? The first one, yeah, probably. 2nd one, no. It was really bad.

I do show how much i appreciate the guy. I tell them what i liked about them. I tell them what i'd like them to do as well. I lay out my expectation so they dont have to guess.

I dont like sharing my emotions either. When im feeling down, i want alone time.

Sorry im using my fon now. That's all i can bear to type for now. Lol

thx for a long n full explanation ...I am also using fone...tough I kno...so I do appreciate your hard work!

so I guess besides leaving u alone in down time ... there is nothing else your love one can do? just have to wait for u to come around again? leos just always want to help...but I guess sometimes we have to learn wen to just walk away.....


funny thing. ..previously I told myself that libras arent for me...I would never fall for one. ..n then wat happens? universe always gives me wat I dun wish for Lol.

if u have any other tips...likes n dislikes of libras let me know.

Nvm, you're this guy-

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/libra/need-insight-libra-ladies-4855591/#4864173<BR>
Sooo, you're kinda a lost cause. You aren't going to listen to any logic because your dick has been enchanted by this little girl. You both sound immature and aren't fit for dating, tbh.

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thx for a long n full explanation ...I am also using fone...tough I kno...so I do appreciate your hard work!

so I guess besides leaving u alone in down time ... there is nothing else your love one can do? just have to wait for u to come around again? leos just always want to help...but I guess sometimes we have to learn wen to just walk away.....


funny thing. ..previously I told myself that libras arent for me...I would never fall for one. ..n then wat happens? universe always gives me wat I dun wish for Lol.

if u have any other tips...likes n dislikes of libras let me know.

It's okay to ask and show that you care but give her space to sort it out first. She'll talk about it when she's ready or if she feels like sharing. Don't take it personally though if she doesn't wanna share.

Tips? Like in your previous post, NO MIXED SIGNALS!

@AesmaDaeva
yes no mixed signals anymore...listened from the previous thread..thx...

@rockyroad
I wish it was my dik talking Lol... that would really b all easy to understand then..... and it b easier to walk away. ... but fact is she had become a single mom after a bitter divorce and as a frd I had been there to help her out... if i just wanted sex I could go get watever, even with libras...I am emotionally invested...just needing to adjust myself to her way and pace of doing things .... not everyone can be mature and straight up as u unfortunately....consider yourself lucky that you have no emotional baggage and is a very decisive person.

No, we are not afraid to lose admirers. We don't give a phouc. Well at least I don't.