Compatibility Between a Libra and a Virgo

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So being that I am a Libra I abhor being alone and somehow always stumble upon new relationships along my journey in life ^.^ It just so happens I got tangled up in the critical eyes of a Virgo man. Now, being that I'm a huge pleaser I want to accomadate my significant other as much as possible. Please can anyone tell me the best way to go about making this relationship work? The critisism is killing meh >.< Here are our stats lol

Me:
Rising: Sagittarius
Sun: Libra
Mercury: Libra
Moon: Leo
Venus: Scorpio
Mars: Capricorn

Him:
Rising: Aquarius
Sun: Virgo
Mercury: Libra
Moon: Gemini
Venus: Virgo
Mars: Scorpio


Thank you to all who respond to this. I'm new to this site and appreciate all the advice I can get! ^_~
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Virgo and Libra are not a healthy match. I've dated one, but never found him to be very critical, just a major lack of stimulating conversation. Nice guy, and had a lot to say to others but we had nothing much to say to each other.

IMO, you don't sound too happy about it. It seems like you're just with him to be with somebody. Why put yourself and him through that?
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I almost married a Virgo. We love(d) each other but were REALLY not compatible. He really wanted me to be meaner? for lack of a better word. He resented the fact that I just accepted him for who he was. He thought it was my place to make him into a better man. I don't try to change my partner. I try to accept them on their own terms.

It was really, really messy. In the end, I was a nervous wreck and falling apart because nothing I did made him happy. He was restless because I didn't fight with him enough. It has taken YEARS to get over it.

The problem with Virgo is you fall in love with their weaknesses. They want to be serious all the time and in control all the time. They need more conflict than we can muster. All that being said, they don't understand loyalty, not fidelity, but loyalty. THAT is what truly killed us in the end.

That was my experience. YMMV

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wow....yet the Virgo Im seeing is completely the opposite...He hardly criticizes anybody, he hates it when people fight, he is the peace keeper and the one who keeps everybody grounded....Ive had 5 years to observe his nature and not once have I witnessed him getting mad (upset yes but never mad)...he is like a dolphin and by saying that, he has this smile on his face most of the time - he cant help it LOL

I have a friend who is a Virgo and she has been dating a Libra for almost a year now and somehow they make it work....when Libra wants space Virgo knows how to give it and she's not nit picky like many others I know. My brother's fiance is also a Virgo and she's not that way either but having said that, I know other Virgos who are complete nit pickers and terribly argumentative.

I guess it depends on where one is in their life and what one has experienced. My almost perfect match is a Libra...WTF? that was a disaster, yet another Libra I dated after was and is still an amazing friend.

They say Libra and Virgo are a no-no match but astrology is not everything
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The dynamic with a Virgo would be different for you Chatz than it would be for a Libra. Trust me my ex is a huge peacekeeper and hates to fight (so he seems) but really he likes a girl who constantly pushes him and challenges him on every level. I didn't want to be that person. He resented that I wasn't a bitch. I resented that he couldn't be loyal to me. It wasn't that we didn't love each other. In many ways, we still do. BUT we had very different ideas on what makes a relationship work.

A year into my Virgo relationship I was in HEAVEN. We were still falling more and more and more in love.

* I do feel like I am changing already. I can't help it. I seem to mold around my significant other. Sometimes it's a good thing other times it can get me in trouble.

Absolutely. You can't help it.

In my Virgo relationship, I had to change too much. I became very nervous and quiet and very withdrawn. Who he wanted me to be was to far from who I really was. In the end, it just crumbled. It was very sad for both of us.

Usually when ajoining sings come together it is because there is something that needs to heal.

Regardless if you go through with the relationship or not, I truly wish you all the best with it.


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Maturity, love, respect, communication, has nothing to do with it. You have to share the same vision of what love is. You have to meet each other's inner need. You have to naturally express love in a way that makes the other person FEEL loved. If you don't, no amount of maturity, love, respect, and communication can make up for natural compatibility. We cannot will ourselves to be different. We cannot change our inner selves.

Loving each other and not being compatible is one of the most tragic thing that can happen to two individuals. When you experience this, you realize love does not conquer all.
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It is a matter of libra and virgo being incompatible. Same like Scorpio and Libra male. It only connects the emotional helpless side of virgo males with libra women. Nothing else. Lets try to get it point by point.

> Libra wants nonstop mental stimulation - Virgo will get stuck with the price of pencil for next 3 hours, bitching about it if found comfortable to do so.

> Libra need to jump btween subjects - virgo cant dance btween multiple subjects
> Libra need people who argue and debate with us in a healthy manner - Virgo says yes to every damn thing libra says which turn us off instantly.
> Libra keep doors open - Virgo is always in a rush to close doors and stay one sided.
> Libra doesnt care about so many things which is waste of time to worry about - virgo would pick on them and force us to address issues which are pure waste of time.


Love doesn't change a thing. Never has, never will. In fact, there is no such thing as love the way our species have been portraying for centuries. Animals got the natural, finer methods about relationships than humans. Human relationships are shaped and addressed with the amount of tears each shed during its course.
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don't confront them and don't debate them even when they don't know. They can't deal with it. Unevolved ones that is. What virgo is a "yes man"? WTH? That would be a scorp trying to win something. LOL
Libras do not keep doors open out of loyalty. Not unevolved ones. They straddle the fence.
Libras who are unevolved don't care about much of anything besides gratification and hedonism. It's why the unevolved ones don't get along with Taurus' and Pisces very often.

Ugh. It's attitudes like this that are so frustrating! Throwing the word "unevolved" around is so vague, it doesn't mean anything. Most libras I know love a good debate! Some of my favorite people are pisces! I do keep doors open out of loyalty, out of friendship, out of love, for all kinds of reasons.

And really, I don't find hedoism to be such a bad way of life...the dedication to pleasure and happiness? It is an ideal that libras live up to, and proudly so.

Maybe you are too unevolved to understand what it might take to attain personal happiness.
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However, hedonism is not necessarily related to egoism. The utilitarianism of John Stuart Mill is sometimes classified as a type of hedonism, as it judges the morality of actions by their consequent contributions to the greater good and happiness of all. This is altruistic hedonism. Whereas some hedonistic doctrines propose doing whatever makes an individual happiest (over the long run), Mill promotes actions which make everyone happy. Compare individualism and collectivism.

--wiki
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and so you don't think I'm anything but libra: the opposing side:

To take "whatever makes one happy" as a guide to action means: to be guided by nothing but one's emotional whims. Emotions are not tools of cognition. . . . This is the fallacy inherent in hedonism--in any variant of ethical hedonism, personal or social, individual or collective. "Happiness" can properly be the purpose of ethics, but not the standard. The task of ethics is to define man's proper code of values and thus to give him the means of achieving happiness. To declare, as the ethical hedonists do, that "the proper value is whatever gives you pleasure" is to declare that "the proper value is whatever you happen to value"--which is an act of intellectual and philosophical abdication, an act which merely proclaims the futility of ethics and invites all men to play it deuces wild.

--Ayn Rand
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Its vital for a libra to be in balance to get the best out of ourselves. And the only way to keep us in balance or in a position which can be balanced back easily is by avoiding the company of certain zodiac people that would cause us severe friction and frustration. If we make it a point to have the world around us packed with comfortable zodiacs, even the worst arguments and fights would make us feel excited and happy.

Now if every zodiac group stick to their comfort zones, there would be lesser and lesser problems in this planet among human species. We can spend less time explaining ourselves and use those saved time towards more productive thoughts and laughs.
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lol. Thats why libra girls walk away. Why the fck is that you never had the brains to figure this our before getting into a relationship with a libra women? Are you stupid or something? It took you 10 months to figure out things dont work with a libra female and all these while she was continuously studying you and how you would behave under various circumstances. She found you worthless and thats abt it. Stop wasting your time trying to reason out in your own perspective. There is only one rule - Libra doesnt go with Virgo. Period!
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"you're so libra you don't even know it"

Are you kidding? How could I not know it? Really? Ugh.

Your attitude is just pissing me off. You don't understand the libra ideal, the fact that we try to morally ethical. That we revel in pleasure.

You've been cheated on by a libra, that much is clear. It doesn't mean every libra goes and fk's around on their partners.
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Muse

I think unevolved means ? ?people who don't do things MY way? lol

? WTF? I'm pissing you off?

LMAO!

This thread perfectly sums up the problem communications between Libra and Virgo.

I was so frustrated by Shaks post that I threw up my hands in defeat. I had been poured out my heart about fire and all he heard was wind. (Sorry for pointing you out like that Shaks. I thought it was funny because I had felt so unheard which was kind of my point. It is the consistent theme I find in my relationships with Virgos.) When I talk, Virgos seem to hear wind.

? You've been cheated on by a libra, that much is clear.

Yeah. Probably because she was so clearly misunderstood thus felt lonely. By the end of my relationship with my ex, I had never felt lonelier.

I really think this post is brilliant. Although we are all looking at the same posts, it is so clear that all the Libras are over here with their thinking and the Virgo(s) all over there. There really is no meeting of minds at all.
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And I will repeat, I am not really bashing Virgos. I said there is a fundamental communication problem because we don't speak the same language. It eventually breaks the Libra down because (like yourself) the Virgo is always trying to get the upperhand. Libra doesn't care a fig about the upperhand. We really don't. We strive for understanding. But you don't hear us, you hear wind and power struggle, which isn't what we are about.

(I find Scorps also react this way to Libras after awhile.)
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Wow! I haven't read all the posts for a while and just got back on to check them out!!! Wow...just wow. What did I start on here!? lol. Decan, I just have to say that you had me literally lmao at your posts back and forth battling us Librans. I think this post is great! lol. I'm glad I started the thread. Yes, I will agree....I do think that the communication between Librans and Virgoans are somewhat trying at times...although it's not completely impossible.

Decan, as far as all your posts about Librans beign unfaithful and doing whatever we want to please ourselves.....My response to that would be that we are not merely made up from our Sun Signs...so although we may have a tendency to lean towards pleasure..some of us may have aspects in our chart that give us more willpower. I would like to think I have some. When I am with someone...My world is them. No one else. I feel bad for you that you had such a bad impression of a Libra to leave you so jaded that you think most of us are like that.

The only thing that is so trying for me to be with a Virgo...is the conservativeness of him. I am a lot more liberal and spontaneous....and I have lots of fire and air in my chart so it's hard for me to be so reserved. I'm outspoken, spur of the moment type person. *Sagittarius Rising/Leo Moon*

He can be spontaneous...but is so much more laid back and reserved then me which is trying at times for me to slow down. One thing that is hard for him and I to get is definately our thinking processes.

He doesn't say or think things w/o a reason and has a logical reason as to why he said this and that.

Me on the other hand. I will just do things or say things on a whim and not really know why I said this or wanted to do that. Ex🙂 I wake up and want to go to the zoo. He asks why...and I honestly don't know I just feel like doing something.

For me, sometimes it's hardest to try and rationalize all my own thoughts and for him to understand that there really is no rythme or reason as to my thought processes.

But also, I just want to thank everyone for posting on here. It really helps me understand things a bit better. And I hope that you all continue to post ^-^
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Posted by Tikkachu
Wow! I haven't read all the posts for a while and just got back on to check them out!!! Wow...just wow. What did I start on here!? lol. Decan, I just have to say that you had me literally lmao at your posts back and forth battling us Librans. I think this post is great! lol. I'm glad I started the thread. Yes, I will agree....I do think that the communication between Librans and Virgoans are somewhat trying at times...although it's not completely impossible.

Decan, as far as all your posts about Librans beign unfaithful and doing whatever we want to please ourselves.....My response to that would be that we are not merely made up from our Sun Signs...so although we may have a tendency to lean towards pleasure..some of us may have aspects in our chart that give us more willpower. I would like to think I have some. When I am with someone...My world is them. No one else. I feel bad for you that you had such a bad impression of a Libra to leave you so jaded that you think most of us are like that.

The only thing that is so trying for me to be with a Virgo...is the conservativeness of him. I am a lot more liberal and spontaneous....and I have lots of fire and air in my chart so it's hard for me to be so reserved. I'm outspoken, spur of the moment type person. *Sagittarius Rising/Leo Moon*

He can be spontaneous...but is so much more laid back and reserved then me which is trying at times for me to slow down. One thing that is hard for him and I to get is definately our thinking processes.

He doesn't say or think things w/o a reason and has a logical reason as to why he said this and that.

Me on the other hand. I will just do things or say things on a whim and not really know why I said this or wanted to do that. Ex🙂 I wake up and want to go to the zoo. He asks why...and I honestly don't know I just feel like doing something.

For me, sometimes it's hardest to try and rationalize all my own thoughts and for him to understand that there really is no rythme or reason as to my thought processes.

But also, I just want to thank everyone for posting on here. It really helps me understand things a bit better. And I hope that you all continue to post ^-^
Hey how was with your virgo? Did it end?
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Posted by Tikkachu
So being that I am a Libra I abhor being alone and somehow always stumble upon new relationships along my journey in life ^.^ It just so happens I got tangled up in the critical eyes of a Virgo man. Now, being that I'm a huge pleaser I want to accomadate my significant other as much as possible. Please can anyone tell me the best way to go about making this relationship work? The critisism is killing meh >.< Here are our stats lol

Me:
Rising: Sagittarius
Sun: Libra
Mercury: Libra
Moon: Leo
Venus: Scorpio
Mars: Capricorn

Him:
Rising: Aquarius
Sun: Virgo
Mercury: Libra
Moon: Gemini
Venus: Virgo
Mars: Scorpio


Thank you to all who respond to this. I'm new to this site and appreciate all the advice I can get! ^_~
Any combo can work with maturity. Realistically though, I haven't seen this combo work in a relationship...better off friends. What you've shown is compatible on paper but you need to watch out for that Gemini moon. It may be too inconsistent for your Leo moon. I have a Leo Moon as well and I have had problems with the major Gemini placements(Sun, Moon, Mars, Ascendant). They're all over the place. Blow hot/cold, impulsive, and have a hard time with being honest. Good luck

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Libras can be even moodier than Virgos, from what I've observed. My Libra tells me all the time how awesome she finds me for being so stable, considering she can't always be. We are Earth after all.

I wouldn't be such an astro nazi as some people on this thread, by writing off an astro pairing without looking at everything else happening in both people's charts.

I'm a Virgo. My Libra fiance and I are a match made in heaven and I will be the first one to admit the fact that she has Moon and Mars in Virgo helps enormously in our compatibility, as well as my Libra rising.